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Should I go back to him/her?

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knickknacks
April 22nd, 2015 12:49pm
You should if that's what your heart tells you to. Going back to a person after a break up is a really hard and really brave choice. It means that you are strong enough to try love again after being hurt or whatever reason it is. If you feel that you dont want to lose that person, go back and try to work your relationship. Love is sweeter the second time around, right?
Iremay
November 15th, 2017 8:23am
I see relationships like books. You read someone and at the end you learn someone. Ask yourself if you would read a book all over again despite you know what's inside, then make your choice.
TheYellowPineapple
June 3rd, 2015 7:53pm
There is no right answer to this question. Not from other people. Do you love them? Why did you leave them? Can you trust them? Did you enjoy being with them? If the answer to any one of these is 'no' then you've answered your own question
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 9:04pm
before going back work on yourself, better yourself, do things for you, if after that you need to go back go back, but always put yourself first
Anonymous
August 11th, 2015 1:02am
No, probably not. it may feel good to go back to them now but soon you will remember why you left and it will hurt
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 6:21pm
Sit and just think about everything that you went through. Did you feel loved in that relationship. Dih he/she took care of you the way you did with him/her? Think if it's worth getting hurt one more time.
heartfulSpring84
January 26th, 2015 5:20am
Going back to him or her will only make this worse...You worked so hard to got over him/her and going back to them will only take you back to the starting point and all that effort would be lost!
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2015 3:18pm
It is really up to you, what do you feel for him/her. will him/her makes you happy? ask our own self if this is worth living with.
BountifulLove
February 2nd, 2016 8:31pm
If you ended the relationship it’s for a reason. That means that there has to be an even better reason for you to go back to that person. You can love someone in spite of their flaws but if they are not good to you or for you then you are probably better off without them in your life. You should always have your best interest in mind and a person that truly loves you will as well, and I think that is very important in a relationship. For a successful and loving relationship you should both want what is best for each other, and if the person you were with doesn’t feel that way and they are always looking out for themselves without considering you then you are better off without them in your life. Everyone deserves to be in a happy and healthy relationship that helps them grow personally, emotionally, academically, professionally and spiritually. Love yourself enough to be with someone that loves and respects you just as much if not more!
Anonymous
May 31st, 2016 12:14pm
if two people were meant for each other they will always find their way together no matter how far they are,
Anonymous
June 6th, 2015 3:11am
Ive had my own people's I have learned the hard way if you truly love this person you should fight to keep him/her.
heavenlyTree33
July 20th, 2018 2:34pm
No, i want to, but i shouldnt. life is change, and change only moves forward. Not backward. Such is life
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 7:00am
That is a personal question, in which you have to balance both the pros and cons of going back to that individual. Good luck with it 😊
Muskansodhi24
June 29th, 2018 4:34pm
Only if he/she is genuinely trying to get back to you but not everytime. Always remember your self worth.
SupportiveSockMonkey
May 19th, 2018 10:48am
It all depends on the situation in why you broke up. From not knowing the situation it's difficult to say but if this was me I would weigh up the pros and cons of the situation. Sit down and talk with them, I wouldn't go back if there was a chance of me being in harm's way.
Letshelpeveryone
January 19th, 2016 6:57am
No
peacefulWaves54
September 28th, 2015 12:07am
You should only go back if you want to! Listen to your heart only you know what best for you! No one else can tell you what to do!
Momat93
May 23rd, 2016 6:22pm
If you left a person you should first consider the reason why you seperated and think to yourself if that person will do it again how will you react to it... will it be something you want or not..
Anonymous
September 28th, 2015 1:12pm
Depends how things ended. I would say no because better things are yet to come but if it feels right to you to go back then do what makes you happy. Just know if things don't work out it's not the end of the world. It just wasn't meant to be and you'll find the one later on in life.
comfortingHug37
June 3rd, 2015 3:47am
if this person isn't treating you like you're suppose to be treated then they aren't worth it, you deserve to be treated wonderful and loved.
BubblyDoll
June 30th, 2015 5:53pm
Honey, we can't answer that without knowing more about you. Plus we cannot give you advices as they can be harmful for you. Only you know yourself and would know what to do.
Greatlistener87
September 15th, 2016 2:06am
Depending on why are you going back to that person and what was the history behind you leaving that person.
SimplyAshley
September 13th, 2016 2:33pm
All I'm saying is, if they did something to break your heart, you don't deserve them. That's my opinion.
calmchloe
February 20th, 2020 10:49pm
Well, to be honest, that depends on the situation. Why are you not with them at the moment? Was it mutual? Was it a fight? Did something happen? I would say, if they were not good to you, it is not worth it. If they really and truly have changed, that really depends on if you are ready to move on a give a second chance. Second chances are so beautiful, and I truly think are worth it... BUT only if you and them are ready to move on; sometimes, history repeats itself, othertimes, you or them may have grown.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2020 10:34am
Most of the time whenever you break up with someone it means that it was bad enough for you to want out of the relationship. The best thing to do is look back at the situation and see if the good outweighed the bad and vice versa. If the good didn't outweigh the bad or you're unsure, don't go back to a possibly toxic person. The next step would be to focus on you and move forward. Come to love yourself and enjoy being alone for a little bit, learn how to function by yourself. Don't go back to someone you left or someone that didn't see your worth and decided to leave you.
gentleSmiles57
January 29th, 2020 12:45pm
It's really up to the individual if you both still care for each other then go for it but if there were serious issues like domestic abuse or verbal abuse or you felt unsafe in the relationship then you should not go back to a place you could get hurt.You love seeing this person's name light up on your phone. You would do anything to see him or her genuinely smile. or stuff like that you probably still love the person and if it a genuine love and then you should at least try if you both feel the same way
Anonymous
December 20th, 2019 10:46am
Going back to him/her is subjective to the situations. Yes if : 1. He/she is genuinely serious about the relationship. 2. Both of you can forgive and progress together in the relationship. 3. He/She changes for the better. 4. There is a possibility for a healthy relationship. 5. He/She believes in accepting your strengths and flaws. 6. Nobody is dominant in the relationship. 7. You feel ready to be back together again. 8. Both parties believe in honoring each others’ commitment in the relationship. 9. Both parties are willing to compromise when dealing with tricky situations. 10. He/she offers stability emotionally, physically and spiritually in the relationship.
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2019 10:22am
Lets be very honest here. You left them for some very good reasons. Be it they were abusive or manipulative or you just down right lost feelings. It could also be they cheated multiple times or were talking to other people. The reason is there and just because there sad or want you back doesn't mean you should just take them back with no doubt. Remember they are an ex for a reason. Why go back to the way things where. You would be going back to the same black and white routine of arguments and unhappiness. The thought of going back with them shouldn't even exist.
MedTheory
October 25th, 2019 7:09pm
The answer to this question is dependent on so many factors. However, the most important thing is this: Does this person make you happy? If your answer isn't immediately yes, then you should probably look for someone else. Over the years, I have learned that a lot of people are scared to be alone. While it seems frightening to not have someone whom you can rely on 24/7 , it is also important to remember that you should not be dependent on someone else to feel fulfilled and happy. It is important to develop your own sense of worth and confidence and then you should find someone who loves you for who you are.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2019 1:38am
There are very few reasons you should go back to him/her. One of which is if it was simply bad timing on both ends but both have feeling for each other. But there is almost always a really good reason you left them. Before reentering a relationship, ask yourself why you left them in the first place, reevaluate their pros and cons. Even if your ex says they miss you and still love you, think hard on your previous relationship. And if they broke up with you, put into consideration why they left you and if they still might consider that reason again.