What's the easiest way to break up with someone?

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Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 5:09am
Directly. If you do it in person and speak respectfully but clearly, then they will definitely understand that it's over, but can't be upset about you being rude.
LilithPA
January 24th, 2016 7:49pm
I would say the easiest way is by being honest and always face-to-face to make sure things are solved properlly.
Greatlistener87
January 27th, 2016 2:32am
Be straight forward, beating around the bush will only get you to more issues. Be clear and straight and explain the reason on why you made the decision for the breakup and make it also sound like its your final and solid decision.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 10:19am
face to face and being honest and up front about why you need to break it off with them in the first place I know easier said than done of course
onthatgoodvibe
January 27th, 2016 2:37pm
well breaking up over social media may seem like the easiest way out for the person doing the dumping however it usually makes things worse. I suggest sitting the person down and speaking to them face to face so that everything can be layer out on the table.
Eluna
January 28th, 2016 12:19pm
The easiest way to break up with someone is to just tell them rather than dragging it on and allowing it to continue for longer than you want. Just straight out tell them in the nicest way possible, don't be rude about it, but don't be too nice about it or they'll think they can still be with you or try to win you back.
mysteriousBubbles12
January 28th, 2016 8:10pm
You do it face to face you are calm about it you tell the slowly and explain why so they understand its not there falt
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 2:20am
Be honest and tell your partner how you are feeling and explain why. It is the easiest way and helps them to move on.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2016 12:37am
Tell them exactly how you are feeling don't lie tell them straight Out what's up. But also don't be harsh
crimsoncomputer8169
January 31st, 2016 3:18am
Meet them at a local shop you trust or somewhere private with a calm vibe. Then break the news and be blunt to them and explain why instead of beating around the bush.
peacefulPond74
February 2nd, 2016 5:30pm
Meet them and be honest about your feelings. Everyone deserves a proper closure. If you hurt someone now someone else might hurt you the same way tomorrow. So always stop and think! Put yourself in the other person's shoe and do what is right even though it is harder.
thelanman31337
February 3rd, 2016 12:44pm
Be honest with them, tell them how you feel so you don't drag it out. This way they get no false sense of anything.
TreatedSoul9
February 4th, 2016 3:42am
The easiest way is to be honest and sincere going into the conversation. You have to be clear about what you are feeling and why you feel this way. The other person may often want to argue or debate your reasons but you must always know that it is not a debate. If you do not want to continue working on your relationship and you feel that breaking up is what you need to do then there is nothing to argue about. This does not make you heartless, just self-aware. You also need to have a clear idea of what level of contact you wish to have with this person moving forward. Find a ground you two can agree on and stick to it until you both agree on something different. Do not send mixed signals and do not compromise your emotional wellbeing to help them cope with the breakup.
AliciaJ
February 4th, 2016 4:25am
Try to break up with them in person rather than sending texts. It shows that you're sincere and serious about this talk. Don't hurt them, make personal attacks or say bitter things to them because you both deserve respect, not any kind of abuse. Breakup will hurt, and it will be hard for probably both of you. So if that's really what you want, then you should deliver the message clearly. Don't forget to appreciate the other person's company and the happy times you were together. Tell them that you will be thankful for those good days at least. You were once in love after all, and you both deserve a proper ending.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 11:55pm
Tell them honestly how you feel and why you are having second thoughts. If they react in a negative way, this shows you may not be meant for each other. If they want to change and fix things (ie. have felt the same way), maybe it is worthwhile to mend the relationship.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 4:17am
I recommend to do it in person,but you can do it by text. If you are a guy and breaking up with a girl through text don't tell her you aren't good enough, it's dumb tell her how she is perfect and that feelings changed.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 12:44pm
There's no easy way to break up with someone, unless you don't actually care about them. The best way, however, is to just be honest and considerate when breaking up with someone.
WhisperingPiano
February 7th, 2016 5:31pm
Be gentle and honest. Be prepared for tears or anger. Break ups are never easy and that is something you need to go in expecting.
Sunshinelove22
February 10th, 2016 10:31am
Breaking up with someone can seem easy if the relationship is no longer what you want and your ex accepts that. Usually it is not so straightforward. People may linger in relationships because they don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings, or because they hope things might improve. They may fear they’ll be labelled the ‘bad guy’ for ending the relationship or lose mutual friends. They may struggle to give up on something they’ve invested their time and emotions and worry they’ll be seen as a failure for ending things. The best way to do so is being honest and transparent about the reasons behind it and making the right choice to end it
softDancer19
February 10th, 2016 6:30pm
The easiest way is taking them to a public place, like coffee shop or bookstore, and telling them exactly how you feel and thank them for this learning experience.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 10:58pm
Sometimes the easiest way is not always the best - do it face to face, be gentle and kind. Reason with them and make sure there is a mutual understanding.
calmingeffect
February 11th, 2016 10:08am
Letting them know gently why it isn't working out would be best. It would make them hurt less and a mutual understanding would be great.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 12:16am
After falling in love with my best friend, i knew my boyfriend had to go. i called him and asked him if he was still happy, to which he said yes. it broke my heart, but i deserved to be happy to. i told him i was struggling and that it wasn't working for me anymore. he understood and we hung up after saying "i love you" one more time. after that, i cried into the arms of my soon to be lover. i'm so happy i made the decision to leave my ex.
NadineH
February 12th, 2016 5:31am
You just need to be honest, straightforward and empatheitc towards them while it, don't keep going around it just be straightforward!
Sam32
February 12th, 2016 6:46am
The easiest way to break up with someone is probably just simply telling them and just move on so yes
xcxmotionless
April 26th, 2016 2:00pm
The easiest way for you is probably over a text, but honestly that isn't fair to the other person. The best way to break up with someone is to their face in person.
Deadlyxrealityx
May 30th, 2016 2:05am
Explain to them how or why you think it's best if you guys break up and try comforting them if they need it
peacefulWinter66
June 7th, 2016 10:34pm
Be honest and direct. Keep it simple and make it absolutely clear that this is what you want. Don't leave any doors open today that you don't want to have to board up tomorrow.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2016 7:09am
To be honest and tell them how you feel. Avoiding them will not help. Give them the respect they deserve!
ladycat946
July 5th, 2016 9:36am
To talk to that person face to face. I think it's a mark of respect to do that. You could tell them why it didn't work, so they will be able to know why and maybe work on that for their future relationships. You have to do it in respect, like how you would react if someone would dump you like this. Of course they are going to be sad, but they don't have to hate you for being mean or whatever.