What's the easiest way to break up with someone?
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Always with compassion and empathy. Nobody likes being talked to as if they are inferior. Always discuss why you are breaking up with them, and what you plan to do afterwards. It's good to be clear, but not abrupt or forceful. Understand that they may not want to break up with you, and how this break up may affect them emotionally. It's important to treat them as a person, whether or not you like them anymore.
The easiest way to break up with some one isn’t to let them down easy. You want to not lead them on but to let them go. Don’t say that there might be a chance that you guys may get back together. Undated say that it was a great relationship and you still want to be friends but you don’t feel like it works out romantically. And do t say that you like someone else just leave it plain and simple and don’t go into detail. You don’t want to hurt them
Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 1:33am
tell them how it is! honesty is always the answer and you will be nervous no matter what so if you are just up front with it it will be best
Tell them the truth! Never hold back. Tell them that you think it would be best and simply explain to them why and answer any questions they may have.. Honesty is key.
Whatever you do, do it in person. Doing it through a text or social media can really hurt somebody, probably even worse.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 4:37pm
There normally isn't an easy way to do it when you really loved that person and then watch them getting their heart broken. But the best solution is to talk to them about the issue. Tell them that you need to talk to them about something important and then tell them how you feel.
The best way to break up is by talking to the person in a private place. Being honest and kind with your reasons for breaking up.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 8:25am
I think there is no easiest way but to talk with that someone you your self because breaking up is not an easiest task
In my opinion I think in person is the best way to go. It gives you an oportunity to see emotion and gives you some sort of closure.
Be gentle been too harsh could cause more pain and damage than anything, explain the situation and the reason for the break up maybe suggest been friends and see what the future hold for you both
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 1:52am
If you're not happy with someone you must be direct and honest as soon as possible to prevent any emotional damage. Easiest would be through text, fully explaining why this breakup is occurring, don't let the other person assume why you left. Be honest and loving.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2017 1:49pm
The easiest way to break up with someone is to sit down with the person you plan to break up with in a secluded place. Just you and that person. If you feel unsafe doing so, you should have a trusted person nearby. Just tell them your feelings and why you would want to break up.
Breaking up with someone is never easy. With that being said, what one person may find the easiest may not work out that well for someone else. Although I have to say that in my past experience, it can be easier to be straightforward and break up with someone right away instead of letting it drag on.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 4:03am
There is no easy way, but it would be best for you to just be honest with them completely. If the feelings have changed, it's their right to know.
Explain too them how you feel, open up too them that you aren’t happy with the relationship, don’t lead them on. Either you work on things together by communicating or you get out of the relationship
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 10:28am
The easiest way yo break up with someone is to sit down and have a conversation to express how you feel.
This is a really good question! The best way to break up with someone is to be honest. They will be hurt, however they can use your feed back to improve themselves!
I'm not sure it's the "easiest" way, but the best way is to be honest, kind, and swift. Tell them it is over without dramatics or debating, and then give them and yourself the space to process your feelings.
Ask them to meet you somewhere where you can leave whenever you want. Not your place, ofc. Then tell them how you feel, and explain them how you see your future, and that you feel that you don't see them in the picture, not even in the background, and that you need to focus on yourself.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2018 8:24am
Be kind towards that person and respect their feelings. Write them a beautiful letter. Words don't always come out the right way
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 10:51pm
There is no easy way to brake up, understand hearts never break even. One will always hurt. A quick brake up is the easiest with in person comunication.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 4:33am
The easiest way to break up with someone is to do it over text. However, it's not very nice and can really hurt the other person's feelings.
Be honest. Tell them the truth and do it face to face instead of doing it over messages. If they hurt you, tell them. Make sure they know the exact reason.
Explaning to them what the problem is or why you want to break up with them, it is better to sort of let them know the problems first before being assertive that you want to break up with them as maybe their situation can change and the relationship does not break up.
Be honest, and say exactly what it is that makes you feel the relationship is no longer what you've wanted.
Honesty is best because there can only be 1 truth. Decieving lies, passively wait for the other person to do the "talk" only makes the situation worse.
I always vow to honest, open communication.
To be perfectly honest, I've never seen an easy way to break up with someone. Break up's are hard and rough, and it's mentally straining on both you and your partner. However, I do feel like the best way is just to be honest! Because at the end of the day, whatever way you phrase it, a white lie or the truth, it's going to hurt in the long run, because whatever the reason is, it's the end of a relationship, and that's going to hurt. From experience, I feel the best way is, to be honest, and tell them the truth. You don't have to be harsh, you don't have to be mean, but you've got to be truthful to both you, and your partner.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2017 3:34am
Personally, I think the best ways, is, to be honest, and open. Don't end thing with questions still hanging in their mind. Make sure they have a full understanding as to why you're breaking up with them. Nothing is worse than being blindsided during a breakup.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 5:26am
There is no easy way when breaking up with someone. It will always be hard because you will end your relationship with the person who just has a big place in your heart. But it will be less hard if you tell him or her every reason you got why you want to have a breakup, and it's still hard.
There is just no easiest way to do that. Relationship becomes a habit after time. Talking to other person, spending time with them. You will feel connected to them, breaking up will cause an emptiness in you. It might be always hard but if you are confident that other person is effecting you bad. Maybe you thought about what results could be and this is helpful. You should think about how your life will be without the other person. Will you be sad after 1 week but will you still feel you did the right thing? If after thinking about your emotions, feelings, basically after thinking about every part of this action that could affect you. You will feel ready. When you feel ready you may not feel afraid and confidence in yourself may help to you.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2018 9:21pm
Sit down with your partner and have an open conversation. Tell them them the reason you are breaking up with them, be gentle but don't lie.
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