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How do I stop being jealous of others success?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2021 at 8:38pm
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Top Rated Answers
Zoetic
September 5th, 2015 1:53am
Remind yourself that you too are capable of achieving that same success. Let them be and inspiration!
PurpleKitty123
September 6th, 2015 2:47am
focus on your sucess and be the best you can be,because being you is going to make you happy.and know that you are amazing and great.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2015 2:10pm
It all comes down to the energy of the emotions you’re carrying. Frowning on another person’s good fortune doesn’t feel good; therefore, it can’t be creating good things. Feeling excited for someone feels good; therefore, it can help create more good things, for you and for them.
autumnfrost
September 10th, 2015 2:03am
Focusing on yourself and really clarifying your goals will take your focus off others and place it back on yourself. Try to be happy for others and realize that they do not define you, and you do not define them.
Anonymous
September 10th, 2015 4:53pm
Good question! I'm not too sure we can ever not be jealous completely. We want to be successful so naturally, when we see others being successful in the same areas we are interested in then it's natural to want what they have. Is this jealousy? Envy? Maybe it would feel better to say that we are envious since the word "jealous" tends to carry a negative connotation. I think it's fine to envy others' successes - it can be motivation for us to do better in our own lives.
EthanDefabulous
September 12th, 2015 5:49pm
when you feel jealous about other success, remember we are all different. They have that we do not have and we have what they do not have. Life is colorful, people can do different things which are unique and special. Lets not be jealous of others success but convert it into a challenge, an inspiration, an motivation for your
Anonymous
September 13th, 2015 12:38am
By doing something about your own situation. As famously said; "When you gotta shoot, shoot, don't talk."
TamaHawk
September 13th, 2015 10:58pm
Honestly, success can't be measure using one measuring device NOTHING is one size fits all... One person may be happy and feel successful just showing up and being present in their child's life everyday. While the other may find success being the CEO at a fortune 500 company. How can you stop being jealous of others success.... Find your own. Regardless to what measurer you use, just as long as you achieve your own sense of success.
VencyDinn
September 16th, 2015 4:29pm
By being focused on your personal development and making conscious efforts to succeed personally. Instead of being a spectator of someone else, it is better you be a participator in your plans to succeed as well because your being jealous does not reduce the success of others in any way, rather it reduces your ability to be successful.
professionalRainbows11
September 17th, 2015 1:26pm
First of all, I don't think we should feel guilty for feeling it. We've all been there, we all felt it, one time or another. It's human. But, I think this jealousy should give you strength to work on yourself, to feel occupied trying to achieve your goals, trying to improve. If you know you are doing your best, you will feel much better, and what others have or don't have, won't be much important as time goes through
MrHelpful
September 17th, 2015 9:34pm
Everybody's success is relative. You need to focus on your passions so you can get what you want and get to the top!
Anonymous
September 18th, 2015 12:46pm
The best way to stop being jealous of others success is to focus on your success. Being Jealous will keep you stuck.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2015 11:50am
try to think that everyone has their own specialization. maybe you are not good in cooking and you are so jealous of your friend who becoming a chef, but someday maybe you will have your own way of success.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2015 2:08am
You can stop being jealous of others success by surrounding yourself with amazing people that you can learn from and be motivated by. it helps you to find joy in the accomplishments of others instead of falling into self-centered-ness.
AmityAllecra19
September 24th, 2015 7:24pm
I acknowledge and accept my feeling of jealousy. Then I push myself to achieve something they haven't done yet
Nicholas5353
September 25th, 2015 9:22pm
If you are doing the best you can you have no reason to compare yourself to others:) Everyone has strengths and weaknesses... Just because you see someone succeeding in one area doesn't make them better than you. You have no reason to be jealous or compare yourself to others as long as you are giving your all at whatever it is you do:)
kindRose22
September 26th, 2015 1:54am
try to make little successes of your own they may not be the greatest thing on earth but at least its progress
FellowTraveler
September 27th, 2015 12:22am
Consider all the things you have done to achieve what you have achieve. Count how many people you have talked to about your worries and failures. Now consider that the person that makes you envious has told roughly the same number of people, and you are probably not one of them. Everyone shows a brighter, happy, more successful image of themselves to the world than what is truly accurate. In knowing that everyone struggles and fails, you might consider yourself to have accomplished quite a lot. Your value is not found in what others think of your success, or of your failures. Your value is innate from birth.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2015 6:02am
Strive towards your own success you shouldn't be jealous of others for their when you have the full potential to reach your own
catherine13
October 12th, 2015 7:30am
You stop being jealous by developing your skills and becoming a better successful person. When you become your own idea of perfection, you will never be jealous again.
YourFutureBestFriend
October 23rd, 2015 3:53am
Remember, you are you. Know that someone, somewhere is jealous of you right now. Yup, that's right. Someone's jealous of YOU.
amazingSunshine50
October 23rd, 2015 3:54am
By you focusing on other people's success gave you last time to work on your own success you need to learn confidence and understand you can do anything you set your mind to
Spiderman93
October 24th, 2015 1:46am
try and just remind yourself that you can be as successful, if not more! dont let the success of others define you!
Wenaria
October 24th, 2015 12:01pm
Jealousy is never positive. In this case, I focus on what I do well. On my qualities. The actions of which I am proud. And I do my best to always give the best of myself.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2015 8:34pm
Use it as motivation to do better than them and have more success than they do. Realize you may be better than they are at what you do and dwell upon the opportunity to better yourself.
itsOKimhere1
October 25th, 2015 5:00am
by focussing on your success.....by focussing on your success....by focussing on your success....by focussing on your success
Anonymous
October 25th, 2015 8:18am
Maybe try to look into what success you have, instead of trying to constantly compare it to other's success.
dancingMango368785
October 28th, 2015 12:46am
Start focusing on your successes. Value the things you accomplish, the smaller the task the more you can succeed at.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2015 12:49pm
Start focusing on yourself, and changing your life choices. You'll be able to make your own success.
phenom
October 28th, 2015 4:41pm
Appreciate the fact that not all people are the same , and believe in yourself ! theres no better feeling than convincing yourself .