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How do I stop being jealous of others success?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2021 at 8:38pm
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August 22nd, 2015 7:56pm
Every one has their own capabilities and their unique situations.Some achieve success earlier but may not be able to maintain that , others may get success latter , The sooner one realises that we all have our own forte we will not be jealous of others for what you may be good in they may not.You can stop being jealous of others by working on your weak spots and exploiting your strong side.
December 4th, 2015 12:36am
This can be hard! Sometimes, we fall into a worldview where it seems as though we are in direct competition with everyone around us, and somehow, their success decreases the chances of us being successful as well. As an artist, I often see other professional artists and designers whose work and success I feel envious of. What's important is turning that feeling of envy and spite into motivation, recognizing that their success came from hard work, and that I can achieve success as well if I'm willing to do what it takes. The successes of others can serve as an example to us, and inspire us to do better, but don't let them push you down or make you feel inferior--we are all on our own path, dealing with our own struggles and goals. Each human life is so vastly different, and we cannot judge our personal value based on how successful we perceive others to be. In fact, I think if you saw inside the lives of those people whose success makes you jealous, you'd find that they are facing many of their own struggles and hardships--perhaps they would even be jealous of aspects of your life. Most importantly, have patience with yourself, focus on improving your own life (rather than out-doing the people around you) and remember that everyone has their successes on a different timeline.
August 20th, 2015 6:48am
well jealousy is something natural. It is like something happens to everyone. And when ever you are jealous of something you have to accept it. And if you are jealous of someone best way is to congratulate him or her on his or her success.
August 21st, 2015 3:03am
Understand that what you see from others is their highlight reel. Everyone no matter the rank or position has problems of their own. When we see another as just another person instead of idealized, we can empathize with them more and understand that maybe their success isn't what we wanted in the first place. From that point we can begin to determine what about their success we really want and how to actually achieve this aspect in our life.
December 6th, 2015 1:18am
Set short term goals for yourself and accomplish them. All you need is a win,focus on that..allow yourself the opportunity to achieve a set goal and it'll make you realize your own true potential.
August 21st, 2015 3:21pm
The best thing you can do is acknowledge your own self-worth. Everyone has something to be proud of and no two people are the same. We all have our strengths, weaknesses, and experiences. That by no means make any single entity better than another. Embrace both your strengths and shortcomings to help solidify that confidence and you will find that there are those that will be envious of you as well.
September 17th, 2015 1:24am
Focus on the positives that you have and what you can make out of them. See life as a race, one in which you must focus on your own track and your own goals rather than looking at others, which can slow you down. Believe in your own abilities that you too can achieve great heights! Jealousy is human nature, but overcoming jealousy is what true courage can do, and that is what differentiates the good from the great.
February 4th, 2016 5:06pm
Understand that success comes in many different forms and at many different times. Your success will come at one point in your life, whether it is big or small and the satisfaction of knowing that you, yourself, are happy with the outcome will help you fully succeed in it's own.
August 19th, 2015 8:36am
Replace envy with compassion and Don't forget to count your own blessings.When our envy is rooted in things we cannot change about ourselves, such as a difficult childhood, a traumatic event, or certain health conditions and disabilities, using envy to motivate self-improvement is more likely to dig us deeper into frustration and self-blame. But sometimes envy alerts us to things that we want in life that are potentially attainable.we're better than others... It's more about refocusing on what is really important in life.
September 19th, 2015 5:05pm
by removing the ignorance that caused it.
September 27th, 2015 3:31pm
I get this a lot; it helps me to make an active choice to see how much better that persons success is doing for the world and using their path to drive mine and considering what they have done that I could improve on; basically going on with my own path but using them as a way to appreciate and build on the thing I am striving for.
August 19th, 2015 8:16am
Focus on yourself and sometimes it's alright to be a bit selfish, Self improvement is the best option
August 19th, 2015 3:59pm
Being jealous is normal. But you can use that as your inspiration to do better and strive for success yourself. :)
August 20th, 2015 6:45am
By knowing that our journeys WILL NOT all be the same. Some people are stronger in areas of their lives where i am not so strong. But i might be stronger in other areas. Key is to know the SELF
August 21st, 2015 10:15pm
I personally think that this is a hard one, because as humans we are always comparing ourselves to others. However, we need to stop this! Every single person has gone through a lot in their life, whether they believe so or not, and that includes you. You are still alive and you are still going on! Congrats!! I think a good way to not be jealous of others success is to look at your life and the things that you have done and where you want to go and remember that you will soon be succeeding too! "\ml/"
August 21st, 2015 10:15pm
Theres no way to just automatically turn off the feeling of "jealousy" .But ways you can help yourself to overcome some of these feelings if they arise is to concentrate on you and the good things you may have in your own life.Or the good things you have planned ahead for your own future. Such as family, friends, schooling , a great job, or whatever in your mind you have that you can focus on that will make you happy.
August 22nd, 2015 2:48am
Instead of being jealous of someone else's succuess, use it to inspire you. Think about what you are passionate about and give all of your attention to making that dream a reality.
August 23rd, 2015 12:06am
realize that you have accomplished things too, you've done the equivelence to them. you don't need to compare yourself to others because you are unique in your own way
August 23rd, 2015 4:28pm
Try to focus on what you're good at yourself and look at what people did to get that success. Remember that success isn't all life is about, try to focus on what you want to do as well. See how far you've come in life and remember that you can be successful while others are successful as well.
August 26th, 2015 1:28pm
Being jealous and envious of another person's success won't get you no where. There are many way to set up goals. I would just cluster your ideas. See where you want to direct to most important one. Don't give up too soon. All you and you can do it.
August 27th, 2015 11:02am
Clarify the root of the problem: do you yourself feel like you won't be successful if others are? Do you feel as if, when others are successful, you are inferior? Once you have determined the root of this, you can work on coping skills. When others are successful, instead of thinking badly about yourself, imagine that you are all on an equal playing field. Everyone is at the same place in their life, and nobody's success is more important than yours.
August 27th, 2015 6:25pm
By acknowledging that those people also worked hard and maybe even struggled to get to that point.
August 28th, 2015 5:14pm
By realising that mourning over someone else's business won't get you anywhere. In the big tree that business is you will have to climb branches up. While you are doing so you will probably pass some people that once you worked for, then you worked with and now they work for you. Jealousy is a very sharp knife that ends the rope of relationship between many people, that is why, since you might end bossing someone you worked for, an acquaintance needs to stay always in good terms.
August 29th, 2015 12:44pm
We become jealous when we stop working hard and think their is no way we can get it. It makes us feel jealous and enmity. The best way is to thank God for his blessings on you and keep thinking more positively to achieve your goals. If you have missed any opportunity don't feel bad and focus on what you can do to make things better. Jealousy will not bring any good to you but instead you might lose your friend or very close fellow.
August 30th, 2015 7:10am
As a person who strives to be better each day, there are times you find yourself getting caught up in a situation where you compare yourself to others and make mental notes how they're so much better than you. And it's safe to say that thats not a healthy behavior. And despite how you try to be positive about it, you're more likely to take every little thing about you that's less than them to heart and start getting worked up about it. So I always make it a point to start being friends with the people I feel the most jealous of. Because when you're friends with them and you build this connection with them, you're bound to feel a little more than just jealousy. You will start to understand what makes them who you are. How they're so successful. And in return they will start teaching you ways to become what you want to become. Maybe indirectly, but they will and it will work. Just be friends with people. Spread the love, that's always nice and comforting :)
August 30th, 2015 7:13am
The way to stop being jealous of other's success is to focus on your own. Remember that you might be struggling for success, but so are they. In the end you'll get no where without focusing o yourself or you can make it competitive,
September 1st, 2015 10:17am
Being anything less than happy for others is blocking your own chance at success and happiness. You could ponder over it or spend hours every day plotting revenge or hating someone because they are better than you or luckier than you. But you’re only wasting your own life, while this person who is the object of your jealousy wouldn’t even give you a thought. At the end of the day, jealousy won’t help you and it definitely won’t leave you in a better place.
September 2nd, 2015 6:29pm
Jealousy can be checked by counting one's own blessings and accepting the fact that whatever happens, happens for a reason. We should always be humble and content with what whatever have been blessed with. One thing should be kept in mind that just like the five differently sized fingers of our hands nothing in this world is similar or equal one another. And if jealousy hits you again just double check your priorities and focus on your goal to achieve it. Envying and gossiping about others have never helped anyone.It is rather demotivating and encourages overthinking of the situation which is a big hazard to one's sanity.
September 3rd, 2015 1:02pm
Think about every successful thing you have ever had, and change your mindset. So instead of thinking 'I want that success' you can try to start thinking 'whoa that's so great!'
September 4th, 2015 3:16pm
That's a tough one. It's easy for us to tell you to stop comparing yourself to other people, but it's not so easy for you to actually do that! One thing to keep in mind is that people usually only broadcast their successes, not their failures and worries, so those people might actually be having a much harder time than you realize. Another might be to ask yourself what exactly it is that hurts you about their success. Is it just that they did better than you, or that your life circumstances are making you unhappy? If it's just that you feel competitive, you could try focusing on an area in which you feel more competent. If your life itself is upsetting you, try working on ways to make it better.