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How do I tell my parents I'm depressed?

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How do I tell my parents I'm depressed?
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summertheseason
February 28th, 2016 7:19pm
Telling your parents you're depressed can be hard. I recommend doing it at a time when they can give you their complete attention. Not when they are stressed from work, busy cleaning, or doing something else. Try mentioning to them that you've been feeling a little off recently, and would like to talk to them about it, Be ready to explain, in detail, how you have been feeling. It's okay if you aren't sure why you're feeling that way, but chances are, they are asking so they can understand. Typically, parents will be worried about you and not upset. Stay strong. & good luck,
Anonymous
November 19th, 2016 12:09am
Tell your parents that you need them to fully listen to what you have got to say and explain to them how you have been feeling for however long it may have been. Tell them you would like their support and love. then you can tell them your problem.
saintmccallister
May 18th, 2018 9:03pm
You tell them on your own time, number one. Number two, you let them know that you're coming to them because you want them to be apart of your life-- no more isolation.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2019 8:05am
It depends on what type of people your parents are. Some people are good listeners others tend to give order much more than to listen to their children. If your parents who listen to you, tell them directly. If not, try to advertise the idea to them. For example, give them magazines, books etc that talk about depression. Also you can ask them to watch TV shows or any other TV programmes about depression. If that is not working for you, don't worry there are many other ways to inform them such as, telling your teachers to inform your parents or your GP doctor. If you cannot see your doctor alone, tell your parents that you need to see a doctor or when you go with your parents to see a doctor for any reason,, tell the doctor about your depression and to tell your parents about it and what they should do. Also, you can write a letter for them or sending them some messages to explain that you have depression. Don't feel bad if they don't listen to you, it means nothing. People trust different people in different things. For instance, some people trust doctors, some people trust relatives, some people trust close friends, some people trust religious people etc. If you know who they trust and who does understand about depression, you can ask that person to inform your parents. May happiness be your best friend 😘💞💞💕💕💕💕
bambooPanda15
February 13th, 2016 5:06pm
Try to bring it out slowly by telling them that you are sad. Or even just feel a little depressed...
Anonymous
February 13th, 2016 5:25pm
Slowly. If you don't want to talk to them get a therapist to help you to find ways to tell them. You should tell them in case they want to help you.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 4:51pm
How you decide to have that conversation is up to you. It may help to do this during a doctor's office visit with your primary care physician, whom can answer more questions for your parents than you may be able to.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 9:38pm
Your parents love you, so trust me when i say they would rather you let them know how you feel, rather then suffering the consequences later. Your parents are adults and should understand.
Loveforever0422
February 17th, 2016 7:30pm
Say "Mom, I am depressed, and I would like it if you could get me some help. If you could. Be safe!"
Anonymous
February 20th, 2016 11:19pm
Be honest with them. Tell them how you are feeling. I know it's harder to act on it than to say it but if you never seek the help you need then it will be harder to dig you out. Seek the help. You don't have to say it to them but you can also write it down in a letter or a text. Whatever you do its best.
Unicornsparkles94
February 25th, 2016 1:24pm
Don't have fear of telling them, just sit own and talk t them and tell how you are feeling, you will probs feel better for letting it out in the open, they will probs want to support you so that you don't feel so alone!
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 5:49am
I would recommend by first asking your parents for a moment of their undivided attention to talk. Once that is established I would acknowledge to them that this is difficult to say but I'm stressed/overworked/sad/depressed/et cetera, and would like unconditional positivity from them to help support me.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 8:44pm
Sit them down, and go through the emotions and try to explain. It can be uncomfortable sometimes, and occasionally awkward, but in all honesty, it's something that needs to happen.
EternalMaps
February 26th, 2016 11:55pm
There is no easy way to tell them. Sit them down at a convenient time and explain to them how you feel.
colorfulSummer66
February 27th, 2016 12:53am
It's hard to admit to anyone that you're feeling depressed. It can be intimidating, but ultimately your parents will be glad that you told them how you felt, so they can guide you towards the help you need.
Sam177
February 27th, 2016 5:25pm
I would write them a letter telling them exactly how you feel that way you have time to figure out what you want to say and you can always go back and reword things before giving it to them!
Anonymous
February 28th, 2016 6:36pm
have a sit down with them and tell them how you are feeling and the reason you feel depressed im sure they will understand
Winter41
March 3rd, 2016 3:00am
Parents are supposed to be your angels on Earth , choose the parent that you are closer to and explain why and how you feel and I am sure they will understand
tuesmuycaliente
March 3rd, 2016 2:53pm
Ease into it and ask for help and advice from them. Try to help them understand why you're depressed. Try and be courteous to their feelings as well. It may be a lot for them to take in.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2016 6:32pm
Some people can just sit them down and talk to them but others find that difficult so perhaps writing a letter explaining how you feel.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 3:42am
Telling your parents that you are depressed can be hard. But, you do have to tell them. People can be really supportive and help you out! So when your ready (don't rush!) you can tell them.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 5:49am
I think you should just be straight up. Tell them what it is, and why you have it (if you know the cause of it and are comfortable talking about it, and tell them that you want to get help
FroggySarafina
March 6th, 2016 4:13pm
Try to sit down with them and express how you feel in a mature and simple way. Try to put a name to all of your emotions.
Gozzil
March 6th, 2016 11:18pm
Try to think of depression as an illness like any other. Would you be embarrassed or worried they'd judge you for having a sore throat or a stomach bug? Depression is as real an illness as any other. From a personal point of view, I explained my symptoms during a doctor's appointment and the doctor suggested it. My mum was present and the support of a medical professional took away some of the anxiety that she would laugh at me or not believe me.
insightfulParadise25
March 10th, 2016 4:56pm
It's not easy to tell your parents you are depressed, as they will see this as a failure on their behalf to keep you happy, but they will appreciate you being able to talk to them and tell them. It will start you on a pathway of feeling better.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2016 6:48am
What I do is if I am feeling down I tell my parents I really don't feel like doing anything at all because (insert main issue here). I go into detail about what is upsetting me and how at times I feel as if I don't have actual friends and that I'm lonely. I repeat this process each time I feel down and my parents eventually get the message. My mom recently told me that if I need a counselor we can work one out.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 7:56am
talk to them directly.Tell them your problems. Don't be ashamed about it. They will help you for sure
zaix
March 13th, 2016 3:01pm
I say, you sit down and have a conversation with them. They cannot read your mind so you have to let them know what is going on and help them help you.
SoulEaterEvans
March 14th, 2016 1:10am
I'm sure your parents will understand if you say, "Mom, Dad, i need to tell you something important. I am going through some tough times, you may or may not see it in me, but i'm depressed. Can you help me?"
CaptainObviouslyOblivious
March 17th, 2016 2:30pm
First things first; Depression is nothing to be ashamed of. Remember that it's a everyday thing that millions of people struggle with. It's a battle you have to fight, but not one you should be ashamed of. Talk to your parents simply like this; Be honest, state the facts, and be aware that even though you're the one talking about your pain, knowing you're hurting can cause people hurt and worry to. But telling them helps them know you need help.