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I hate myself for being fat and ugly. What can I do?

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Last Updated: 10/22/2019 at 8:40pm
I hate myself for being fat and ugly. What can I do?
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Top Rated Answers
eternalRose73
June 8th, 2016 5:21pm
Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself again and again that you are beautiful just the way you are
Anonymous
June 9th, 2016 11:10pm
Being fat doesn't mean you are ugly! The only thing that makes you feel you are ugly is not having self confidence! Being fat is not sth that can't be fixed !!! Its not like not having a leg !!! You just need to have will ! And never give up ! If you can't you should not haye yourself for being fat you should hate yourself for not having will !
CarmenCares
June 10th, 2016 9:09am
If you think you are fat and ugly, try to remember every person's body is shaped differently and genetically programmed to look unique. If you really feel unhappy in your body, what will it take to get you to a place where you are healthy and have an amount, no matter how small, of self-love?
juliette99
June 10th, 2016 12:26pm
You shouldnt hate yourself. You are beautiful, as is everyone else in the world. If youre unhappy with yourself, you can change that. Maybe with the help of family, or friends. Maybe try to lose weight healthily. Exercise and eat healthy. Drink lots of water and get good sleep. Be accepting of yourself, and tell yourself you are beautiful every single day.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 2:52pm
hi my friend how are you i have pimple on my noes some time it get red some time its comes in natural colour ppl judge me by my pimple or some time they feel o god what a bad look and some laugh . see my friend rose is a beautiful flower we all se moon at night have u ever think to get the rose we have some obstacles moon is having to much holes still we love rose and we love to see moon so dont hate your self love your self you may have some qualities which other dont have.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 4:50pm
Some people accept their appearance , others don't . Well try to give yourself more time to take care of you . Try sport to stay fit and it might also boost your emotions about yourself . Or you can simply focus on what you love about yourself , it will make you feel more confident
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 10:35pm
One must focus on having a beautiful soul. You can try exercising. Don't starve yourself for there are people who will love you for who you are not for how you look.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 10:42pm
realize that nobody is perfect, and that no one is truly content with their body. Learn to accept the way you are; tell yourself that if you want something to change, only you can help yourself. But never beat yourself up over having to do more and more, let your mind and body work naturally to help yourself. Don't tell yourself you have no fight left, there's always something there, you just have to find it.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 10:26am
I've always believed that we are not our body .We are the host within our body and it is our responsibility to take care of our body. If you are of an unhealthy weight and you want to improve your lifestyle , you should see a nutritionist/ dietitian who will be able to assist you with becoming healthy. If you aren't overweight and you feel that you are fat you should speak to a listener as we have two ears for you 24/7 as we care :D You can close your eyes and not look into the mirror or at yourself. Or you can seek support to improve your situation. The word ugly is an insult to your creation. If you knew the complexity of your creation you wouldn't be calling yourself ugly. Your body is a unique creation tailored to fit you. The world ugly is insulting to the people who created you. You might be feeling ugly because people have told you that you are ugly. The people might be jealous or ugly so they are trying to make you feel ugly. You're falling for the trap. You might be ugly because you're hanging around with people who talk lowly of themselves. To fix this-find new people. You might be feeling ugly as you have been focusing on the negative aspects of your character...focus on the positive. You must find out why you are feeling ugly and if you can't fix it embrace it.
HelpWisely
June 12th, 2016 8:06am
If you hate yourself for being fat and ugly then why not try the other way, love yourself for being fat and ugly. Love yourself just as you are.
SunSeeker81
June 12th, 2016 10:57pm
Who says you're fat and ugly? Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes but physical beauty is not what matters. There is nothing more attractive than kindness, courage, strength and intelligence; inner beauty is what matters. You've got to learn to love yourself!
DG943
June 18th, 2016 5:50am
Its important to know that you are not fat and ugly. You are beautiful and worthy of love no matter what size you are!
joyfulLove33
June 22nd, 2016 2:32am
Nobody is ugly. Everyone in the world is beautiful in their own way. Don't compare yourself to other people because everyone has their own flaws. If you feel "fat" then try excersizing to feel a little bit better about yourself. I myself am overweight so I excersize twice a week. No matter what anyone says, nobody is fat, ugly, too skinny, too short, etc. everyone is unique in their own way and we all have to learn to embrace ourselves and each other and stop judging, and self-hating.
Paulina2043
June 22nd, 2016 11:28pm
Look at yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself out loud that you are gorgeous, because you are. You are worth love and happiness as much as anyone else. You are loved. No matter what anyone says, your size is irrelevant. You are perfect the way you are. If you have stretch marks, start loving them.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2016 1:12pm
You can try and look for a professional help regarding your body image. There's nothing wrong with looking for help when it's needed!
Pineapples456899
September 27th, 2016 5:43pm
You can start by loving yourself :) Buy a notepad or just any scrap of paper and write down a list of things you love about yourself, it can be what you think or what other people think. Stop telling your mind that you're fat and ugly because you're not. However even if you are fat, it doesn't really matter. What matters is what's on the inside (very overused but it's because it's true), the second you let other people dictate your life, the second you look at yourself and wish you had something someone else does, the second you start to point out the flaws in yourself is when you loose control and your just mental health begins to take a downwards spiral. "Be yourself because everyone else is taken." And I cannot stress how important it is to love yourself, because you are worth it.
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 12:30pm
Accept yourself. That's the only way you'll get through it. You are the only one who can change the way you feel, if you eat well and exercise regularly then love yourself for being you. We are all meant to be unique and different, just because you're not the same shape as the photoshopped girl in the magazine does not mean you're not beautiful. Because you are.
plushEars54
October 18th, 2016 1:01pm
First, you must realize that what you feel about yourself is a result of low self-esteem. You are a beautiful person, inside and out, and I can promise you that anyone who meets you knows this, whether they say it or not. If you ever need someone to talk to, I and other members of 7Cups are here to talk to you.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2017 6:53pm
No one is ugly, everyone has beauty on their being. Even if you can't seeing yourself. And if you think you're fat, that's something that can be changed. For example, if you were mean, that's your personality and it's difficult to change because sometimes it's part of the person's nature. But being fat can be changed with effort and be willing to start eating healthy and maybe start exercise. But have this in mind, everyone's body is beautiful in it's own way. Just like the owner
ItsTheSid
April 4th, 2017 8:07pm
Name at least 7 things that are beautiful about you (e.g. Hair color, eyes, personality). This can be hard at first, but you need to believe you are more than your thoughts
Rosealyn
October 22nd, 2019 8:40pm
I follow the three good things rule. Sure, you can continue to believe this statement. But in return, you must choose three things about your appearance you like. Soon your attitude will change for the better- and self-love will become easier to achieve. Remember that this is the skin you are in. You can change it if you want to, but seek healthy ways to do so. For example: I dislike that I live with a disability. But, I love the color of my eyes. I love that I can sometimes play with my dog. And I love that I have a supporting husband.