Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?

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Last Updated: 07/01/2018 at 3:01am
Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?
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Anonymous
July 4th, 2016 4:08pm
Of course that it is, at least it's way better than trying to cope with feeling down with things that are self-destructive (alcohol, drugs, self-harm...). It's okay to search for help online and if you always come here instead of doing something bad to yourself then I'm extremely proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself too. But have on your mind that sometimes you're problems can be really big and that you may need professional help, but if you're not available at the moment to get it, of course that it's okay to come here and just vent and get help.
amisfit
July 2nd, 2016 3:24am
7Cups Of Tea is a site/app for people who need a shoulder and an ear to lean on and to listen to. If your problems are a little too "bad" then maybe it'll need some professional help, but if it's to listen to then, it's fine. Everyone here on 7Cups really does care about you. We're all here to listen to you. Don't feel bad. Think of this place as a safe heaven :- )
enigmaticMoment64
July 16th, 2016 2:52pm
Problems can be opportunities in all areas of life. I think it's good to use the site when you feel you have noone to listen to you, when you feel cornered, or when you need a neutral space. It is okay and you should feel allowed to find someone to listen to you. However, there is a limit to what the site offers - it follows a specific purpose in a specific kind of interaction, that of listener and member. If you can open up to your friends (maybe even after you talked it over first here, so it is a little easier), or to your family, or other people in your life, you can find a variety of life-enriching support, conversation and discussion. And while we are often suggested that being "down" or sad or angry is "bad" in our personal lives, it can also make us open up and connect with people around us on a deeper level. They tackle areas of our lives, sides of ourselves we don't always show to others. Taking that step takes a good deal of trust, and it can go a long way to connect and feel valued, and it would be a shame if you never connected with those around you.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2017 12:11am
Hmm well this site is a great source of comfort but i don't think that it should be your only source of comfort
Anonymous
July 5th, 2016 3:11am
Its absolutely fine to come to this site to get yourself back on your feet, but do not fall in the trap of dependance, never become too dependant on anything. Because you may come to a time in which you cannot access 7 Cups, or 7 Cups may no longer suit your needs. You need multiple methods of coping and have a sense of independence too. Build a support network on 7 Cups, and with the people in your life. This way you will be on your way to recovery.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 9:30pm
No, not always. Listeners are not always so consistent with their support and listening skills. A listener might be trying their hardest to assist you, but it might not be what you feel is right for you.
Aryore
July 1st, 2016 10:18am
We are here to support you whenever you need it and help you get through your situation
Naturallyhappy00
July 15th, 2016 4:57pm
Yes it is okay to depend on this site when you feel down because sometime it's easier to talk to someone that you don't know
romanticthi3f
November 22nd, 2017 3:22am
It's wonderful that you have this site as a resource; that's exactly what it's for! There are always people around who are in the same boat or willing to chat with you. One of the problems with relying on this site though is that sometimes the advice isn't helpful or you need more support then it can provide. This is why it's good to find other strategies that can help when you feel down like exercise, therapy, etc so that you have a few different go-to's.
Apollosdaughter
April 7th, 2018 5:36am
Yes but no. Depend on yourself than others. What others feel or say is their opinion and golden experiences which they gave acquired through life. Do what your heart says. Listen to your heart, it knows much better
Georgia
August 27th, 2017 12:31pm
It's certainly okay to depend on 7cups when you feel down, because 7cups is considered a healthy and supportive atmosphere where people tend to feel better! In the long run, we hope that many people find their way out of their depression/anxiety/whatever they've come here for, but before they feel comfortable leaving, were always here as a supportive community ❤
jupitermoons
February 15th, 2018 3:16pm
Yes! There are always going to be people who want to help you. They want you to feel safe, and talk to you about the road to feeling better.
MidnightAngel14
February 15th, 2018 4:15pm
Yes it's ok to, we are here to help with anything, 7 cups to me is like a big family and we help/support and guide each other through anything
Brittany8013
March 1st, 2018 1:04am
This is a tough question. I would say that it depends on the circumstances. However if you feel you are completely reliant on us here at 7 cups, perhaps looking at other professional supports would be beneficial to you.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 6:55pm
It's always okay to depend on this site when you feel down. If you find that it works for you then just do it. It's not wrong in any way. If you prefer using the site then other options then just use it. There will always be people on here to listen to you and try and make things better.
breathinout
March 1st, 2018 9:20pm
You know yourself best and if you feel that you are helped enough by chats on this site then it might be. However, you may also find that you need face to face interactions, or speak to a therapist - which is also OK!
fishy3242
March 2nd, 2018 6:54am
I think that 7 Cups is a great source, but it can't be your only source. It's always good to talk to someone anonymously and safely, but you need to be able to talk to someone physically. Because there is only so much you can do online. You have to be able to get help in person. And also sometimes it's ok to be sad but you can't always rely on somebody else. Sometimes we get sad, but that is a part of being human. 7 Cups is a great way to communicate and talk but it's not a way to find sympathy and to gossip.
frostlight
March 3rd, 2018 3:47pm
It's great to have a support network behind you and this site is a wonderful place to find that. However, dependency for any reason and in any form is never good. If someone feels dependent on 7cups for support, they may be shutting out friends and family who also have a role in providing support in real life. This is the point at which an individual should seek professional help from a doctor or a therapist. Its wonderful that 7cups can help someone when they're feeling down but if this creates a dependency then its a sign that this method has not lead to improvement.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2018 4:34am
It is always okay to get help and support from this site when you are feeling down but it's not recommended that you completely rely on this site to resolve each situation you go through each time because than you are not thinking on your down on how to improve the situation you're in, we're here to help and support you and see options that may benefit you through each time you go through this, because eventually you can advocate for these situations and ask for help confidently without needing assurance from others.
meritocracyis
March 4th, 2018 11:02am
It's a mixed bag. Venting to people here can make you feel a bit better or make your problem magnified. It's still however a place where you get support.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2018 4:48pm
Of course it’s okay! We’re here to help you, no matter how insignificant your issue may seem. As long as you feel this site helps you there’s no problem depending on it.
Mikcar1970
March 8th, 2018 8:50pm
No but it’s a first good step to take, then you have the ability to devise other options or see what help you need
ExpressingEmotion84
March 9th, 2018 10:44am
No! You should always have a few people whom you can trust (supportive people only) that you can reach out and/or telephone numbers and support lines that are open 24/7. You can call these organizations whenever you need extra support. Be prepared .
CastaDivaRadhe
March 11th, 2018 4:01am
We should learn coping skills that can help us to depend more on ourselves in times of need. Than in any other external form of assistance. However I believe from this site we can learn those skills. And most certainly we should always know, that no matter where we are. No one is ever truly alone.
mvpeng
March 21st, 2018 6:10am
It is okay to come to 7 Cups in the same way that you might reach out to a friend, so while it is okay to ask for help sometimes and rely on 7 Cups, you do not want to become too dependent. It is important to make sure that you find other healthy coping mechanisms that you can implement on your own too.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 2:45am
It is okay to depend on this site when you are upset, but maybe not every single time. It might be more beneficial to you to work through smaller problems yourself.
BethC123
March 29th, 2018 11:36pm
Yes, it is okay to always depend on this site when you feel down, there are some great listeners who can provide great advice! ☺️ However, if you find that you feel down on a regular basis, you should consider seeing a GP who you can talk to in person and who can possibly prescribe medication to help you feel happier!💁🏻‍♀️
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:50pm
It can be. This site offers a lot of tools to help people with different situations. Sometimes it's good to talk to people you normally wouldnt.
glassmarble
April 4th, 2018 12:08pm
I think 7cups as a site to talk to and connect with kind, understanding people is an example for a good coping technique. It is important to have different coping techniques though, experts suggest that three should be the minimum and the more, the better, if I remember correctly. So as long as 7cups isn't your only way of making yourself feel better, it should be totally fine.
Emmur
April 4th, 2018 1:29pm
Absolutely! I think that 7Cups is an incredible site that has lots of individuals who can both relate and bring you up during hard times. Think of it as depending on a friend that will always be there for you. 7Cups is here to support you, and I think that it's a good coping skill that has been created for our usage.