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Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?

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Last Updated: 05/03/2022 at 12:09pm
Is it ok to always depend on this site when you feel down?
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Anonymous
July 4th, 2016 4:08pm
Of course that it is, at least it's way better than trying to cope with feeling down with things that are self-destructive (alcohol, drugs, self-harm...). It's okay to search for help online and if you always come here instead of doing something bad to yourself then I'm extremely proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself too. But have on your mind that sometimes you're problems can be really big and that you may need professional help, but if you're not available at the moment to get it, of course that it's okay to come here and just vent and get help.
amisfit
July 2nd, 2016 3:24am
7Cups Of Tea is a site/app for people who need a shoulder and an ear to lean on and to listen to. If your problems are a little too "bad" then maybe it'll need some professional help, but if it's to listen to then, it's fine. Everyone here on 7Cups really does care about you. We're all here to listen to you. Don't feel bad. Think of this place as a safe heaven :- )
enigmaticMoment64
July 16th, 2016 2:52pm
Problems can be opportunities in all areas of life. I think it's good to use the site when you feel you have noone to listen to you, when you feel cornered, or when you need a neutral space. It is okay and you should feel allowed to find someone to listen to you. However, there is a limit to what the site offers - it follows a specific purpose in a specific kind of interaction, that of listener and member. If you can open up to your friends (maybe even after you talked it over first here, so it is a little easier), or to your family, or other people in your life, you can find a variety of life-enriching support, conversation and discussion. And while we are often suggested that being "down" or sad or angry is "bad" in our personal lives, it can also make us open up and connect with people around us on a deeper level. They tackle areas of our lives, sides of ourselves we don't always show to others. Taking that step takes a good deal of trust, and it can go a long way to connect and feel valued, and it would be a shame if you never connected with those around you.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2017 12:11am
Hmm well this site is a great source of comfort but i don't think that it should be your only source of comfort
Anonymous - Expert in Depression
July 5th, 2016 3:11am
Its absolutely fine to come to this site to get yourself back on your feet, but do not fall in the trap of dependance, never become too dependant on anything. Because you may come to a time in which you cannot access 7 Cups, or 7 Cups may no longer suit your needs. You need multiple methods of coping and have a sense of independence too. Build a support network on 7 Cups, and with the people in your life. This way you will be on your way to recovery.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 9:30pm
No, not always. Listeners are not always so consistent with their support and listening skills. A listener might be trying their hardest to assist you, but it might not be what you feel is right for you.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 10:18am
We are here to support you whenever you need it and help you get through your situation
romanticthi3f
November 22nd, 2017 3:22am
It's wonderful that you have this site as a resource; that's exactly what it's for! There are always people around who are in the same boat or willing to chat with you. One of the problems with relying on this site though is that sometimes the advice isn't helpful or you need more support then it can provide. This is why it's good to find other strategies that can help when you feel down like exercise, therapy, etc so that you have a few different go-to's.
Naturallyhappy00
July 15th, 2016 4:57pm
Yes it is okay to depend on this site when you feel down because sometime it's easier to talk to someone that you don't know
MissLouise13
May 5th, 2018 4:48am
Yes it is okay to depend on this site when your down, it is nice to have somebody to talk to and vent to.
Elena2081
April 26th, 2018 9:40pm
I'm going to be honest with you. No, it is not oke to depend on the people here, maybe on some of them, but even the nicest people can just go offline and can't come back, even I have done it. And in all honesty I feel really bad that I did something dumb like that.
Apollosdaughter
April 7th, 2018 5:36am
Yes but no. Depend on yourself than others. What others feel or say is their opinion and golden experiences which they gave acquired through life. Do what your heart says. Listen to your heart, it knows much better
Robinzoo
May 5th, 2018 3:19pm
It is ok to return here when you are feeling down. It is although, not very good to be dependent on this site to feel happiness. The site is to help you through hard times, we are here to support you. In the end, you must only be dependent on you to find happiness and continue to be happy.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2018 7:30pm
For me to come to this side when I feel down. Is in a way trying to find an escape someone truly brings me and hurts me. As much as we try not to depend on being here. It seems to be like an ember on that's left over from a fire. You pray and hope that that tiny piece of wood or charcoal that is still burning can give you the Comforts that we need to soothe the pain but we are having to deal with at that particular time. For me I I'm always looking for someone to care so deep that I can finally learn to move on not just as a listener but as a true genuine friends because in today's world in person it's very difficult to see that friends because you are so caught up with everything that is going on in this crazy world
Tan18677051
May 3rd, 2018 6:16am
Well, not necessarily always, I mean sometimes we need to interact more people face-to-face to feel that human contact with friends and family.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 9:39am
Simple answer. Nope. You can come here often but it shouldn't be habitual. It shouldn't be only thing for ur low times, pick a place, some other person or activity and sometimes turn towards them instead of a site.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 3:13am
of coarse ! everyone needs someone to talk to. sometime people don't like to talk to their family and friends about whats on their mind. here at 7 cups we listen and no judging
Anonymous
April 20th, 2018 12:50am
If you feel comfortable coming to a listener on here, Than you can. But you can also confide in an adult or someone around you that you trust.
Kallie112358
April 14th, 2018 12:35pm
We all have different things that we depend on when we feel down - talking to people and our support system is a massive one of those - to me 7 cups is a friend who listens when I'm struggling so used in conjunction with other mechanisms it is a great place to reach out for help
BrodieAlexander
April 11th, 2018 8:57pm
I would say that building a varied network of support systems is always better than relying heavily on one. I have seen most success when people's crisis survival/relapse prevention plans incorporate a number of skills, strategies, and supports. So, in short to always depend on any one thing may not be the best choice regardless of how effective it is.
princessmissy007
April 8th, 2018 2:40am
Its okay to depend on this site, but maybe fine someone in person you may be able to depend on too?
XenSoftly
April 7th, 2018 6:53pm
While 7 cups is a great resource, I believe that it is healthy to have many resources available to you in times of need, especially those that are available offline. I would encourage anybody to seek support from friends/family/professionals in their area in addition to online resources.
StillLife
April 7th, 2018 6:17pm
Although there's great self-help resources available on the site, it's not a substitute for a friend's or your family's support when you stumble and hurt. Meditation - done right - is also really helpful. Don't keep all your eggs in the same basket
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 6:19am
Yes, of course! We may not be able to give you all the help you may need, but we sure will try our best! This site is the first step of many towards progress!
Emmur
April 4th, 2018 1:29pm
Absolutely! I think that 7Cups is an incredible site that has lots of individuals who can both relate and bring you up during hard times. Think of it as depending on a friend that will always be there for you. 7Cups is here to support you, and I think that it's a good coping skill that has been created for our usage.
glassmarble
April 4th, 2018 12:08pm
I think 7cups as a site to talk to and connect with kind, understanding people is an example for a good coping technique. It is important to have different coping techniques though, experts suggest that three should be the minimum and the more, the better, if I remember correctly. So as long as 7cups isn't your only way of making yourself feel better, it should be totally fine.
frostlight
March 3rd, 2018 3:47pm
It's great to have a support network behind you and this site is a wonderful place to find that. However, dependency for any reason and in any form is never good. If someone feels dependent on 7cups for support, they may be shutting out friends and family who also have a role in providing support in real life. This is the point at which an individual should seek professional help from a doctor or a therapist. Its wonderful that 7cups can help someone when they're feeling down but if this creates a dependency then its a sign that this method has not lead to improvement.
breathinout
March 1st, 2018 9:20pm
You know yourself best and if you feel that you are helped enough by chats on this site then it might be. However, you may also find that you need face to face interactions, or speak to a therapist - which is also OK!
fishy3242
March 2nd, 2018 6:54am
I think that 7 Cups is a great source, but it can't be your only source. It's always good to talk to someone anonymously and safely, but you need to be able to talk to someone physically. Because there is only so much you can do online. You have to be able to get help in person. And also sometimes it's ok to be sad but you can't always rely on somebody else. Sometimes we get sad, but that is a part of being human. 7 Cups is a great way to communicate and talk but it's not a way to find sympathy and to gossip.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 6:55pm
It's always okay to depend on this site when you feel down. If you find that it works for you then just do it. It's not wrong in any way. If you prefer using the site then other options then just use it. There will always be people on here to listen to you and try and make things better.