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My anxiety is getting worse and depression won't let me live my life, how do I overcome this?

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Last Updated: 09/25/2020 at 4:24am
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Top Rated Answers
Calmseas76
October 27th, 2017 10:36am
I have found that depression and anxiety are most manageable with therapy, medications, strong social support and light exercise. Walking gives me energy, a boost in mood and distraction from the mental chatter or rumination. We really need sunlight. We are not meant to be indoors and sedentary all the time. Healthy food, such as fresh fruits, vegetables and proteins, are important. Depression is an inflammatory disease, so eating lots of sugars and carbohydrates worsens inflammation and leads to unstable blood sugar, which affects mood. I also feel sluggish when I eat fatty fast food. For me, social support is critical. I need people to talk to for support and I need enjoyable activities. Medication helps with sleep and mood regulation and therapy helps with developing coping skills. Therapy also helps with identifying feelings, issues and cognitive distortions. It’s like retraining the brain how to think! Anyway, these are the things that help me, and things I have found to be most helpful to others too.
life30
November 10th, 2017 6:36pm
Firstly you need to open up your mind regarding depression n all... That its also like a fever ...for that medical help is required .but you also have to support yourself..and your loved ones play an important role in it..and everybody face such situation for at least once in life..so its ok...we just need help..and everything will be back to normal
loveyourself11
November 10th, 2017 7:22pm
Make sure to develop new techniques to help you overcome your anxiety. Remember deep breathing and to stay positive.
latticinio
November 16th, 2017 3:42pm
I suggest talking to someone like a therapist or counselor to help you. There's just so much we can do until we feel it's time for you to speak to a trained professional.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 12:36am
think, doesn't matter how many times you fuss over something, or cry, or watch funny videos to make yourself feel better for the moment, the time doesn't stop for you. things that get me carried on in life is, do i want to continue feeling this way, while time passes by? or feel better and spend time with others.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 4:19pm
You need to talk to a professional. You need help and you deserve to feel happy and worthy. Getting help will ensure that you are getting the best treatment.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 5:37am
Anxiety and depression can be really exhausting at times. There are always listeners on 7 cups, as well as professionals to reach out to. Do not be afraid to ask for help!
Anonymous
November 29th, 2017 3:56pm
Depression and anxiety can be such a difficult hurdle in life for many people; it's draining! Unfortunately, there is no magic we can do to cure anxiety or depression in one day. The best we can do is find things that we can do for self-care. (ie. art, music, exercise, meditation, making sure you take care of your hygiene.) Taking the time to recognize when you're feeling anxious and/or depressed is a step in the right direction, and using your coping skills when you feel this way is very brave.
ifyouknowtocountcountwithme
December 6th, 2017 2:11pm
I would recommend to reach for help. I know this can be hard. But if you feel hopeless and demotivated I think it's the best to do. In this cases sounds like you are in a crisis.
neonJas7172
December 17th, 2017 7:07am
I'm sorry to hear that you are dealing with anxiety and depression. I can relate. It's best to seek professional help with overcoming and managing these things. I am here to empathize and listen though!
PosiPotato
February 4th, 2018 12:33am
Step by step. 7 cups can help. Share your feelings with a trusting loved one (friend, teacher, mentor, family member, etc). Have you ever considered therapy?
MeganL91
February 7th, 2018 9:08pm
It would be a good idea to speak to a professional therapist or doctor if you have not already. With proper psychotherapy (and possibly medication as well), you should be able to live a fulfilling and happy life.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2018 6:55pm
I hope you are in a position where you can get help from a professional and maybe a small group of supportive friends and family. It's hard to give the right answers when you don't know the person specific situation but that is okay you don't have to say. I have been going through the same thing and I can't afford to see a therapist, I do have my faith which help sometimes but I must admit its not a remedy yet. I think venting always help me, write down all your anxieties and fears and what may be going on in your life that may lead to your depression or made it worst.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2018 4:40am
If you're anxiety is getting worse and depression is holding you back at the same time, you can look for a friend or family member who can support you through this and provide necessary resources if you are in need of it and doing breathing excerises can ease your anxiety a bit too.
Engineeringhappiness
March 8th, 2018 10:57am
focus on what makes you happy. you can do this! i believe in you! talk to someone and seek help. we are here to help.
ThinkingTiger
March 8th, 2018 3:03pm
You can fight the depression, either by applying positive pressure on yourself, in form of excersize, meditation, change of scenery, creative outlets or anything that makes you happy. The anxiety cannot be fought in a traditional way, as its like sinking in quicksand, here you need to meditate, expose yourself to the anxiety and learn to deal with it. You can also try to locate the root of the depression or anxiety, and deal with that direct on, though if the root is something thats not present, or something thats undealwithable, you have to tackle it differently.
Kaceface
March 24th, 2018 12:45am
Anxiety and depression are two very difficult illnesses to overcome. You are an amazing and strong human being and you have the power to overcome situations just as well as anyone else. You can begin to tackle it by exercising safe ways to express yourself. Begin to use your favorite interests as an outlet, and perhaps try journaling or saying out loud to yourself how you feel. This is completely normal to feel a roadblock by depression and anxiety. However, do not let it consume you entirely. Take a deep breath, get outside of the house, and do the great, healthy things that make you feel alive so that you can stand strongly knowing you're still making it. Stay strong!
debojyoti012
March 25th, 2018 5:45pm
Anxiety is a healthy and normal emotion that everyone feels from time to time. Anxiety can, however, manifest to a mental disorder that reduces your capacity to cope with these feelings of anxiety. When trying to overcome anxiety you should not try to eliminate your feelings of anxiety but should aim to develop your coping mechanisms when you do feel anxiety. Having the ability to cope with anxious thought is the key to overcoming anxiety.
scoobydoobydont
March 30th, 2018 4:17am
Learn how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy thoughts. Come up with a way to negate those unhealthy thoughts and turn them into neutral thoughts or better yet positive ones. I know it's hard but try your best to do three things everyday, for example cook a meal, do dishes, go to the grocery store. Small accomplishments are important. Happiness may not be in your reached but we can at least distract ourselves from sadness and try to feel like a person again.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:58pm
See if you wanna overcome it... You should try getting into some self help stuff which might help you... Like reading self help books on emotional intelligence ....there are also many youtube channels like Actualized.org which might help... It's gonna be a long journey some days you also might feel like giving up but don't because at the end it's gonna be worth the struggle... Hope it helps you.... All The Best on your journey
KindaKate88
April 7th, 2018 6:53pm
Well logic the rapper says that the mind controls the body, a change in mindset is helpful I believe. But he also said by accepting yourself you can learn to overcome or live with anxiety. Song is called anziety if your interested.
ruedabega13
April 19th, 2018 7:37pm
I would really suggest going to a psychologist or psychiatrist! It really helped lessen my debilitating depression and anxiety.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 9:44am
first of all, if it’s getting worse and worse, you should get some professional help and i can’t give you any special advice because everybody is different.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2018 11:44pm
Find something to focus on like colouring or a new interest and really focus. I found that by going to a boxing club my mind didn't have time to think as I was beating out my frustrations and sooner or later my mood started to lift!
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 6:40pm
Try speaking to a trusted adult/friend or maybe your GP and see if they can help?? have you considered therapy at medication??
Anonymous
May 11th, 2018 4:11pm
Getting in contact with a professional, such as a therapist or psychologist will help to solve this problem. Having an expert to support you will make it easier for you to deal with anxiety and depression, knowing that there will always be someone to guide you and be there for you. If you have been prescribed medicine to help you, don’t forget to take them as instructed. One important thing to remember is that your self esteem and confidence will impact how you feel. By improving these, you will find it easier as you will remember that you aren’t worthless.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 5:55pm
Try talking to an trusted adult or friend.Think only Happy and positive things and do things that make you happy
meiixae
May 20th, 2018 12:04am
As someone who has experienced these things, I think it would be best to focus on something other than your anxiety and depression. For instance, hanging out with someone close or gaining/having a hobby. Also, if it gets really bad, I find that it is nice to talk about it to someone. If the idea of sharing these things makes you uncomfortable, then you can always do it anonymously. I think just letting it out can bring some of the weight off of your shoulders.
blissfulEyes47
May 20th, 2018 12:47pm
You will overcome it! Be positive and take your time you can’t just sleep on it and your depression and anxiety will go. You need to distract your self and do activities like tennis and also speak to someone and get as much support you can.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2018 3:47pm
Contact a professional therapist or your GP about the issues and start going to therapy. Sometimes you can be prescribed medication. Another alternative is to reach out to friends, join a community or talk to people online.