What do I do when I feel like I've hit rock bottom and I'm not worth it anymore?
Last Updated: 03/19/2021 at 3:15am
Jennifer Patterson, LMFT, ATR-BC
Life can be messy. Sometimes you need a little support to make your way through it. I love to help guide people through their challenges & to find the beauty in our messes.
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There is something magical and beautiful in hitting rock bottom. It’s a place where you're forced to look in the mirror and think about who you are. You get to reflect on your past and look forward to your future. This is probably the first time you've ever had to truly do both. There is something beautiful in falling part. It gives you the chance to put the pieces back together however you like. Everyone has a story. It doesn’t matter how tragic or not tragic yours is. We all have felt like we're stuck in this continuous rut with no escaping. We all have felt like we're not the same person we used to be. You know what? That’s okay. We're not meant to be the same person we were a year ago, a day ago or even an hour ago. We will not be the same person tomorrow that we are today. As a society, we like to think that someone can only hit rock bottom after something big goes wrong. Someone has had to have went through some huge loss, a huge drug overdose or anything else that’s just straight up horrible. These of course, could very well cause someone to hit rock bottom. Who are we to judge someone else’s struggle? We try to rationalize what can be determined as “rock bottom” and just “non-motivated,” this however, is crap. Sometimes it's taking hits from the little things over and over again that causes you to hit rock bottom. It’s the words said, the words left unsaid. Maybe it’s a person or maybe it’s a consistent battle with yourself that has led you to this place. It doesn’t matter who or what has brought you here, all that matters is what you do now.Everyday you have to make a choice to move forward, to not look back and remember where you’re going. Don’t forget where you were though. You have to remember how you felt hitting rock bottom. It will remind you time and time again that you don’t ever want to feel that way again.Everyday you have to make a choice to move forward, to not look back and remember where you’re going. Don’t forget where you were though. You have to remember how you felt hitting rock bottom. It will remind you time and time again that you don’t ever want to feel that way again.You have to now focus on yourself, and frankly, you deserve to focus on yourself. You deserve to have that happiness. You just fought through hell to climb your way out of rock bottom. You deserve to celebrate that. It’s hard finding yourself all over again, that I won’t lie about. I wasn’t, however, lying when I said that there is something beautiful and magical in doing so. You get to create yourself all over again. You get to dream new dreams, strive for new goals and set new standards for yourself. You get to build yourself from the ground up. You soon find yourself appreciating and finding true happiness in the little things like you never did before. You no longer have to struggle to find the light because you're finally out of the dark and that is absolutely beautiful. Stay strong and beautiful and amazing. You can do this. I believe in you. Rock bottom is temporary. You're worth it.
"Rock bottom became the solid foundation upon which I rebuilt my life." ~J.K. Rowling. Remember that there is hope. And you might want to seek professional help. They know how to help you. It can get better. Don't give up!
There are many things you can do. Message me, anyone on here. We'll try to help you as mush as we possibly can. Remember: You are a beautiful human being,
Keep breathing. You are unique, you are an individual. You are irreplaceable. You are enough. Rock bottom can be the solid foundation for you to build your life on. Do things that you love, be with people that you love, and never be afraid to show how you feel because it means that you are courageous. Trust me, it takes a lot of courage to not be afraid of what people think of you. I wholeheartedly believe in you.
it can be incredibly hard to cope with those feelings; i completely get it. some things that might help are talking to people, whether anonymously or in your everyday life, doing activities that you like in order to make yourself feel better, and even though you probably won't believe it, it doesn't hurt to remind yourself that you are enough. it also doesn't hurt to have someone else remind you, so i'm here to tell you that you ARE enough. you are worth it, you deserve to be happy, and you and your feelings are valid. take care of yourself
A change in perspective can be a very powerful tool. I find that when I am spiraling and there is no hope, no light at the end of the tunnel that following that tunnel will only lead me to the end. But if I change my view point about the issue, change the direction I'm looking, I find the light no problem. Good ways of changing perspective can be as easy as writing down what you are feeling, the issues you are facing and the methods you have tried. Go away and get your mind off of it completely for a while, tend to other things like house plants, laundry, go for a walk. Spend a day, if you have more time wait a week. Return to your trouble and look at it with fresh eyes. Avoid the methods you wrote down and form new strategies, new choices or new a outlook.
There's a Russian joke: "We thought we had hit rock bottom, and then someone knocked from below." Depression makes it feel like you have nothing left to give anymore. It's ok to take a break from yourself and these struggles and try just to enjoy yourself and treat yourself for the heck of it, because you deserve it. If you've been at rock bottom for a while or if feeling worthless affects your day-to-day wellbeing, it's ok to seek professional guidance from a doctor, counsellor, or psychiatrist - or even just to tell a friend, family member - or us here at 7cups. You deserve to feel worthy. Your worthiness is all up to you: no one else can set those standards for you. We cannot guarantee that things will get better - but we know they will stay the same if we give up entirely. Love yourself because you need a friend, and there is no better friend, that the person who wil literally always be there with us: ourselves. Best of luck to you, sincerely.
I listen to music. Good music. It depends on the severity of my mood. Listening to sad, slow music can be therapeutic. Or it can worsen the mood. Listening to happy cheery upbeat music is a better option. But then again it could make you feel worse as it's really not what you're feeling or anything you can relate to at the moment. So, that's why I go for badass music. The one that makes you feel empowered and beautiful and bold and careless. Taking a shower helps. I usually get dressed up. Make myself look good and feel good. Put my favourite lipstick on. Add some sparkle to my face. I'm worth it. Everybody feels this way and that's okay. But now, now I'm a cool rockstar. And then could go and talk to someone who loves me, my sister, or a friend. For support and love and reassurance. I'm okay again.
Because you want a change. Hitting rock bottom is a blessing in disguise. Your body's natural response is to make you react to that situation, so you can actually change it!
You need think about your future. It's important always be curious with "what will happen with me in a couple of years or in a couple of months." You should be your own investigator and discover if you have a good ending or not. And remember; If it is not a good ending, it mean that is not the end.
It depends on whether you're feeling suicidal or not at the time. If yes, find a suicide helpline for your country (you can find ones to text as well as call). If no, I recommend emailing the Samaritans here: metanoia.org/suicide/samaritans.htm it has really helped me - although keep in mind they typically have a 12 hour wait for emails so if you are needing help within a timely fashion, then they aren't the best choice. Also, obviously 7cups can help a lot if you find the right listener. Lastly, remember that there are lots of people who care about your welfare, whether or not you know them personally (for example all 7cups listeners care about everyone in pain, including yourself) and although you may not believe it at the time, you are certainly worth it.
Make a list of all the accomplishments you’ve made. Make a list of all the things you’re good at. Go over those things as often as you need to. You’re doing great and you’ve come so far. You can’t give up now.
Try and think about what you can do, so you can give yourself a boost of confidence. Try and be yourself all the time, and you will feel so much better, because then you will know who you are, and you are perfect no matter what happens. You should know that no matter what happens to you, and thinking this, you will feel better instantly.
Sometimes all the things we experience everyday all start piling up. Even the smallest of things can add the heaviest weights to someone. But even when you hit rock bottom, always remember that you can climb and get better again. If the door closes, and you feel like you can't find a new door, break the door and make a window.
We all go through this phase but like a soldier who have to fight back again, again and again. when a spider builds its web, it is broken 100 times but it still keeps building it.
Talk to someone who loves you. And if that isn't possible at the moment, try doing something nice for yourself. Making hot cocoa, taking a bath, reading a book, binge watching your favorite tv series. Whatever makes you happy :) I hope this helped
you stop everything you're doing at that moment and take a second to just breathe. Know your worth, know you are worth it. Start over mentally, not totally, just fresh. Give yourself a break and start new with yourself, forgive yourself.
There are many things, but start off with trying to remember or writing down at least three things you are good at, or three people you made happy. Contemplate about these three people, or actions until you find your inner strength. You can also try to make someone happy, even a small child. Seeing people smile becauseof you will be a great acheivement that not all people can do.
I need to distance myself from certain negative people in my life. I am so done with being around people who constantly complain about their friends. All that does is show how unhappy they are with themselves, and it’s just too much negativity to be around. I understand we all need to vent sometimes. But you don’t need to complain about your so-called friends every second of every day to every single person. “When people judge another, they are defining themselves.” It’s so true.
You are worth it. ♥️ It may be a very difficult time for you, but please try to remember all the hard times you went though and you got through all that. Great job! 😊 You're here, and that matters so much! ❤️ The bad times will pass. They always do. You will get through this. I believe in you. ☺️
I have a cry.. feel sorry for myself for half a hour then I get up give myself a wobble and put my makeup on and get on with my day! And talk down to my demons and say out loud I am worth it!
You do something that makes you feel appreciated. You do something that you want to do, for you, and not for anyone else.
Sometimes its hard to get out of ruts, to come back from being in a "rock bottom" place; its hard to know how to react or what to do in order to feel better, to do better, to be better, but it is okay; things will improve with time, patience and effort; one must be self determined, motivated, and courageous to come out of such feelings of "worthlessness," frustration, depression, anxiety and so on; hardships come about in life, struggles and obstacles, negatives happen, its important to remember that you are unique and capable of great things, you are special and worth everything there the world has to offer. Take hold of yourself, aim forward, and hoist upwards; you will make it.
If you've hit rock bottom, then there's nowhere to go but up. It sounds cheesy but its true. You're worth it, and you're a beautiful person.
As cheesy as it may sound there is a quote from a song "Hope is real. Help is real. You are breath/ you are life/ you are beauty/ you are light/ Your story is not over/ You are not a burden to anyone." Rock bottom can help us to learn what our values are and who in our life is valuable. If it is safe for you to do so, reach out to a friend. You don't have to talk about the things that embarrass you too much, just tell them a little.
Remember it's not the end of the world and you're always worth it. What you're feeling is not who you are. If you're feeling dreadful, you aren't the entity of dreadfulness. What would you like to do so you feel like you're climbing the latter and you're worth more than all of the money in the world? Every change you want to accomplish starts with your first step.
One thing that definitely helps when u feel lost and worthless is sitting down and jotling down all ur achievements...trying to memorise and harness the positive memories that have helped to boost ur self esteem in the past... should definitely help!
You learn how to bounce back. Make new plans for life. Get new motivations. Never ever give up on life because you only live once.
You take a break. Talk to someone. Good thing that there are people here willing to listen to you! :)
You were put on this planet so you can do things that most people can't do. You are worth it. You can make the impossible possible. You just need to keep pushnig yourself to the limits.
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