What to do when you're lonely and depressed?

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Last Updated: 09/11/2018 at 2:03am
What to do when you're lonely and depressed?
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Kristin Noyes, MSW, LCSW

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

Depression and anxiety can feel overwhelming even on the best of days. I believe in helping clients understand these disorders and help them to reduce and manage symptoms.

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Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 1:18pm
Please try not to feel this way. I know it is very difficult to get yourself out of this situation but you have to know that you are a beautiful person. You are the only one that can ever be you. The whole universe revolves around you at this moment. That's what makes you so special, because you are and you always will be. Never ever forget that. And you are very loved I promise you that. Even if you don't feel like you are at the moment,all of your family and friends love you. You can't see it right now but you will and in the meantime let me just say that I LOVE YOU and I feel for you every moment of the day. You will be happy believe in yourself you are probably better than most people you know! Love to you always xxx
FoundMarbles
April 22nd, 2016 2:54am
I get outside and go for a walk. I look for people I can help in some small way, be it holding a door, carrying a bag of groceries, helping a neighbor with weeding or just a cheery greeting to someone who also seems down. I phone my mother, that I REALLY don’t get along with but after the call I pat myself on the back for doing the hard but right thing. If I’m feeling flush I might treat myself to a meal in a food court; I’ve been known to spot a friendly face there and ask if they mind my sharing their table. I try to be really, especially nice to service people. At the end of the day, I know I cheered others up and that most often cheers me up. If I don’t feel much happier, I get out a piece of paper and write about all the good things in my life or sometimes I write down all the times I have been down before and remind myself that every time, the mood passed and it will this time too. It’s like waiting for rain to stop, we don’t know how long it will last and sometimes it seems like it will rain forever, but I know it won’t, eventually the sun will come out again.
Winterkat
April 19th, 2016 2:43am
There are two types of lonely. You can be alone because you have no one really around, or have recently lost someone, or you can have lots of people around and still feel lonely. Maybe because you feel like no one really understands you or you think they don't really care to talk to you. Feeling lonely is a state of emotion, which can lead to depression. However, you don't have to feel this way, you have to be more active in making these feelings go away. One way is to get every feeling off your chest, talk to someone. Because realizing you feel lonely and depressed is already a step to get better. One of the greatest parts about 7 cups of tea, there is people willing to listen and hear you out, as you get these things off your chest. :)
neverendingSunrise99
April 29th, 2016 5:29pm
Listen to a good song. Watch a movie. Cry hard. Get some sleep. You'll wake up and your mind will be clean again.
HereToHelpAsBestAsPossible
April 9th, 2016 4:38pm
One way, of course, is to come here to 7cups and talk to someone. Beyond that, there's many ways to go. You can do things you know feel make you happy. Or you can embrace the sadness. Know yourself and know if it's best to swim or to ride the waves.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2016 2:06pm
We're never lonely, we are our own individual and at times where we physically do not have contact with another soul, we have ourselves.
peacefulIris56
May 1st, 2016 4:56pm
Go out and do things. Talk to a friend or family member for support. Find groups that meet up for some particular interest. Come to 7 Cups and talk to us.
EmilijaS
April 9th, 2016 9:33am
Well first of all, you must know why do you feel that way. If you don't, seek for the reason. I was amazed by this one exercise we did on one meeting, when we dived deep in ourselves. I am happier after that. Knowing the reason for these feelings will lead to the right answer of solving the given problem. Good luck ♥
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 10:13am
I just sit and think. Emotion is unlike anything else in the world, and sometimes when it overwhelms me, sitting and thinking about it can introduce me to things unbeknownst to me prior. It's a truly introspective and reflective period that, whilst at times unbearable, adds another color to my life; as a part of the composition that makes up who I am.
CindyNE
April 16th, 2016 2:18am
Whenever I feel lonely or depressed, I try to remove myself, mentally or physically, from the environment that is making me feel down to a safe place that lifts me up. Sometimes it helps to get up and take a walk around the house while thinking about 3 things I am grateful or happy for. Reaching out and contacting someone I trust to talk about it or talk about anything can be very hard but it also really does help and its worth the step.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2016 9:52am
There are different kinds of depression but studies have shown that exercising helps with depression. It might also help you with loneliness, you could go for a walk or cycling, etc. There are various activities you can do to not feel lonely, painting, listening to music,etc. Try to keep yourself busy and avoid overthinking.
Pando
May 19th, 2016 11:44pm
when im depressed i usally play an online game with my friends. the game helps get my mind off whatever made me depressed and the online friends helps me not be lonely im usally on Ps4 so if anybody needs to talk and play im Pandokat on psn
WOlfDima
April 21st, 2016 2:31pm
Think about the most meaningful and enthusiastic thing for you.. And work to achieve it. Get a pet or a friend. Try on with some motivational or funny videos. Be creative and cook different or invent different kind of foods. Play some music, dance with yourself and take a long shower with a redbull hehe you'll be fine
ClaireFrusa
May 2nd, 2016 8:24pm
The worst thing you can do is stay home, in your room all alone and contemplate about how miserable you are. If you cannot stop your mind from going that direction, try to keep yourself busy. Go out and do something. For example, go ride your bike across town, go hike in the mountains with your dog or your sibling, get a gym subscription and lift lift those weight, join a yoga class, etc. Plenty of things you can do which affects your mental health without you even realizing it.
Aliveinsideink
April 22nd, 2016 9:15pm
Try to go out on a public outing. Surround yourself with people even if you don't engage in any conversation. Realize that you are not alone but there are billions of people on this earth, many with the same fears, concerns, and feelings that you have.
ElectrifyingSoul26
April 28th, 2016 7:13pm
I find that painting what I feel at that time, always makes me feel better. A walk in nature is a great way to calm down for me, too.
AfternoonFirefly
May 13th, 2016 5:04pm
When I'm lonely or a bit blue, I like to listen to music and even dance if I'm in the mood. I usually just put on my favorite record and pretty much just dance around my room like a complete idiot for a few minutes. It always lifts me up! It's up to you, though. Whatever make YOU happy!
Anonymous
June 9th, 2016 3:35pm
Stay with the people who you know care for you, and if you can't, don't stay focused on the negative thoughts and feelings, even if you don't feel like it, even if it seems impossible, because the more you keep on feeling sad, the worse is gonna get: it's a downward spiral. Keep in mind that the negativity is not you. The depression is not you. Do something, whatever, to distract yourself, even if you feel tired and just want to sleep forever and never wake up. Go out to take a walk. Listen to some music you like, possibly not angsty. Write down your feelings, worries, fears. Watch funny videos on yt, or browse Tumblr for cat photos :) or just have a chat with someone here on 7cups. Since depression can't be switched off at comand, maybe doing all of this won't help. Maybe you'll just keep on being depressed. But there's still the chance it might be otherwise, and it's worth giving it a try
Anonymous
April 10th, 2016 1:26am
When you are lonely and depressed it can be hard, but you do not need someone to be there. Find something that makes you happy and live by that. Trying to be happy will soon to raise you back up.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2016 5:16am
hi my friend so you have two things with your self and it carry too much negative power which make your brain weak and dont allow you to sleep make you nervous you get irritate hate everything feel like you have lost many thing my suggestion avoid all those thing which make u upset just let it go for time being bcz its not in your hand to fix it now distract your mind watch cartoon go for long drive or walk sing song play guitar or for time being go to your friends house or ask them to come to your place avoid those topic which will hurt you enjoy all the moment i know it will take time but it will work eat lots of lots of food and drink too much of water it will heal you more fast dont think ur alone we all are with u 7 cups is with u feel free to come and talk
Catlamm
May 1st, 2018 10:56am
Do something that makes you happy. Whether thats going on a walk, reading a book or singing, putting your mind and body in a place where you can be happy is the first step. If your depression ever gets to the point where you feel suicidal or are engaging in self-harm, please contact someone who can help you immediately.
DipityEnigma
April 13th, 2016 12:16am
If you have social media, you can speak with your friends and/or family via social networking. You can also take the time to have some "me time" and do the things you can't do when you're with others such as reading a book, listening to some music, playing some games etc. You can also take time to look for more hobbies and even use websites such as meetup.com to find common interests to expand your social circle. You could always invite people over if anyone's available and if possible, have a sleepover with movies, gaming and such. The worst part about being lonely and depressed is to find the positive sides as there are very little but once you find something that brightens your mood, you'll feel much better. If you like quizzes, you could always try out blogthings.com that have quizzes created by many different people on a daily basis! Hope you feel better soon. :)
meg97
April 22nd, 2016 5:45pm
I feel lonely and depressed a lot to but as hard as it is you have to let people help you. 7cups friends family whoever. Just find one no judgmental person who can be there for you no matter what. My bestie was that person for me
CompassionateGirl90
April 24th, 2016 9:19pm
I like to have a cry and just let it all out. If I can't cry, I write about the feelings in my blog or in a private journal, if it's too personal to publish. Then once I'm done with the emotional release, I think of what I could do to feel just a little bit better, or at least take my mind off my troubles. Even if it's just something like getting food or something that will only relieve you for ten minutes or so, it begins the momentum and may lead to other positive actions you take to feel better. If happiness feels too impossible to reach, then go for relief. And as I always say, what feels like happiness or relief will always be unique to you. You can look to suggestions to try, but ultimately the only one who is going to know how to make you feel better is you. You hold the cure to your loneliness, but you just don't realize it yet. Take baby steps toward relief and you will begin to realize your Superpowers day by day.
GoBackToBed
April 28th, 2016 5:29am
I reach out to people in my life who are willing and able to listen; I also make sure that my physical needs are being met, such as nutritious food, water, and enough sleep.
WhimsicalPonderings
May 5th, 2016 1:12am
Take your focus off of whatever is causing your depression. Do something of your interest to distract your mind on the subject, like maybe watch some TV or read a book. As long as it's safe, any distraction helps. You'll be smiling in no time.
forestmist
May 5th, 2016 5:52pm
Try to do something that makes you happy. A good books, guilty pleasure movie, talk to a friend or family member. Whatever it is that makes you happy.
BeBeUnicorn
May 20th, 2016 3:04am
Being lonely is always something that i very don't like feeling, and to be completely honest i hate this feeling. To deal with this feeling i always occupy myself with something i truly love to do, like making art or watching my favorite TV Shows (i know its lame but, it helps). Another thing that always brings me up is always beliving in the power i have over my body and my fate. I like to think that "the fate is in your hands and your hands only, and you are the only one who is able to change it", so always stay positive and hope for the best, never give up on anything or anyone.
ari88
May 20th, 2016 3:09pm
There are so many resources you can look at just on this site that have lots of benefits for you. Take a break and be by yourself for awhile, it's okay to be alone and to care for yourself first. Maybe you can advantage of this opportunity to get to know yourself better and get your mindset sorted out maybe a little bit more than it would have been. It's important to know that you're never really alone and it's okay to be depressed and not be okay.
Anonymous
February 27th, 2018 8:32am
Usually, I go for long walks or bike rides while listening to my favorite music plays in the background.