Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?

you could still have love for them or still care for them . we all have that one ex we will always think about .

Well there can be various reason... For example the breakup was just a few days ago and its memory is "fresh". Or maybe the break up was a bad idea and your brain already realized it. You started to miss him maybe and the time what you spent with him. You can still love him, you just can't admit it for yourself. Who knows? It is a hard question and i think you should figure out the answer all alone. Maybe you can contact him and talk about it, but it depends on how the relationship ended. Whatever you do, i support you.

The notable people in our past are part of who we are because they were are a notable part of our lives. It's not uncommon to be reminded of them or the effect they had on us. Especially if something familiar brings back memories. Of course if there was a deeper meaning behind those thoughts only you could truly explore that. Because it all depends on your connection with your ex and how you feel about them. Just keep in mind that thinking of someone simply means you were reminded of them. If there's more to it, your feelings would likely reflect it.

In my personal experience it has been due to a lack of closure, or unresolved feelings or issues you had with them. Breakups can be traumatic, especially if you feel like you’ve been wronged or it wasn’t your decision and felt blind sided by it. These emotions are difficult to process, you mourn the loss of a relationship and it can be scary to think about being on your own again. Change brings uncertainty and can cause anxiety because it’s unfamiliar. Maybe you’re waking up thinking about your ex because that the person is familiar. Maybe it’s because there are things you wish you could have said or done, situations you may have handled differently. Hindsight is always 20/20.

Dreams are complicated, yet interesting. Most of the times, dreams are an absurd amalgamation of the events in past, your present and your thoughts. If you find yourself thinking about someone while waking up, them it is most likely that you have slept thinking about them. That person must have done something to form an impreasion(positive or negative) on your life. You can scan the past few days and try to find out more about the connection. As on my personal part, I would not ponder over it much. These things are part and parcel of our life. They happen, and then we seem to forget most of them eaisly, as the day passes. Hope you'll find your solution. Take care

You may often miss someone you once held strong feelings for, especially if you still want to be with them. Personally my advice would be to fill your time with friends and family, and try to do things to distract you. Over time these will become less of a distraction and more of what you actually enjoy and you should completely forget about your ex. Don't get me wrong, it's never easy and always hurts but it takes time to get over someone and come to terms with how things are now, so take your time and ease yourself into a new way of thinking and acting.

We often dream about our exes at night because we are reliving past experiences, so whenever we wake up, we automatically think about our exes. It's completely normal and you shouldn't let it discourage you. Sometimes this scares us because we think we aren't completely over our exes, but that isn't true! You can be as over someone as you could possibly be, and you'll still dream about them because memories replay in our brains at night and create new images in our heads with the people we used to be with, or people we used to associate with.

I believe this has more to do with a subconscious mechanism than necessarily with feelings per se. There is a constant need of rewire our brain after a significant change in our lives or ourselves. It’s almost like having to constantly update the OS or the apps on smartphones, computers etc. to get newer versions with improvements, new features and bugs fixed. When we have deep feelings for someone and we’re used to that person being a significant part of our lives, there’s still many patterns sticked to our brains that we can’t just “turn it off” whenever we wish. We’re not only used to have that person in our life but also to think about her, to talk to her in the same way we used to, to see her, make plans, finding things that we’d like to share with that person etc. This takes a lot of space in our brain and it takes time and effort to normalize the idea that the person is gone, and make your brain adopt new patterns that doesn’t envolve this person in particular. The time it takes to achieve this varies a lot from person to person, but it is possible for all of us. You still need to heal completely, so try to be patient and kind with yourself. Don’t take the blame for feeling these things, and do your best to learn how to cope and overcome this. This isn’t permanent.

There are many reasons as to why this could happen! ◆︎ You are still not over your ex. Even if you have had a relationship after, it could be a rebound. Meaning you were with them to forget about your ex. Even though you break up with someone, you need to remember that feelings usually linger. ◆︎ It could also be that you haven't allowed yourself to grieve over the relationship (not necessarily the person). Sometimes you miss the memories and the future it could have been instead. ◆︎ How did the relationship end? If it ended poorly, perhaps your brain is trying to find ways to protect you in the future from these situations or understand why it happened. I could be wrong, especially since I'm not aware of the circumstance, and there's many other reasoning's out there. But I hope you manage to get past this. :) Best of luck.

Because they were part of your life and we are magically connected through chords to all the people we've been in relationship with. We process memories in the night through dreams and in the morning it is when our unconscious is the most visible because we did not yet got into our busy day. Thinking of them means nothing more then thinking of your ex. That's what the mind does.

The reason behind this is that you sleep thinking about your ex. Our mind works like that. Think about geography, you'll wake up remembering that. Think about exams, you'll wake up thinking about that. It's ok to think like that. It'll be okay. Keep reminding yourself that this is gonna pass. And try to think about other things when going to bed. Or you can also try meditation while lying down in bad. You can turn on some meditating music. It'll help you. See, if you are willing to do something, you can make it happen. Make sure you are making right choices. All the best!

When we sleep, our minds are generating ideas of what's important to us and what we spend alot of time think about. Whether it is a good thing or a bad thing it's depending on how it affects us but it is absolutley normal for us to think about something we lost as we are adjusting to no longer being in it's presence or adjusting to the emotional changes our bodies go through. The best way to deal with similar thoughts are to think of what's best for us overall and to remember that love comes in different shapes and disguised in many forms, but the first true love we must experience is the love for ourselves.

Was it recent? Ask yourself, “Do I deserve to wake up and think about somebody who is not with me?” What do you do when you wake up and have thought about your ex? What are some things that distract you from them? Have you found a hobby to put your mindset on something else? You may think about them because they had a larger impact in your life, and now that that is gone you automatically think of them, perhaps. You think of them, have you tried to discover the root of why you think of them? It may help

Well, to be honest if you are waking up thinking about your ex you probably have not fully gotten over your ex. It will take sometime for you to get your ex out of system and there is no certain time to be over someone, who you cared deeply about. Just give yourself sometime to heal or to get over your ex and one day you will wake up and realized that you no longer think of your ex. I hope things continue to get better for you and you be given the strength to stay strong as you begin to piece your life back together without your ex being the focus point of your universe.

I think it is because, even though the two of you have ended things, he still played a significant part in your life. You may have lingering feelings, which is one hundred percent normal and should go away in time. Even if you don't have feelings, the fact that at one point they were a very important part of your life could be why they are still on your mind. You will end up thinking of them. You cannot get rid of it completely. However, there are ways you can reduce how often you think of them. Try engaging in hobbies, going out with friends (making sure your ex isn't there- also be sure to tell your friends not to bring up your ex when you're around). Read a book or listen to some relaxing music before you go to bed. Get rid of anything in your room that reminds you of your ex. Delete any texts, emails, etc from them. This should help reduce how often you think of them (possibly including when you first wake up in the morning).

Because he or she was a huge part of your life and when you break up with some there side of the memories leaves with them. They say it takes half the time of the relationship to get over the person. Not sure how true that it but without a doubt it takes time to let go of something that was once familiar. Stay stong the feeling will change with time. Time really is the only way to move on and free your mind of the memories of your past. It is normal to think of someone you loved after you are done loving them.

He/she is a part of your past and your life. It is totally normal to keep thinking about them when they are already gone. Especially if the break up just recently happened! Now I don’t know if it was recent or not, but you can not forget someone in the blink of an eye. Nor can you stop thinking about them that easily. But why do you wake up thinking about them instead of thinking about your mom for example? That’s because there’s activity around your ex. You guys broke up, something happened and now you don’t even see or speak to each other again. That is not something that happens on a daily basis and with every person in your life, because of this fact your ex will be triggered into your thoughts, faster than the other people in your life. In conclusion: Thinking about your when you wake up and in general doesn’t have to mean anything!!

We pour so much of ourselves into others, especially those we care deeply for. And when relationships end we end up closing the door to not only the person we were with, but all the memories, milestones, and experiences that were within that timeframe. We stop frequenting places we liked in an attempt to avoid the person. So maybe you just miss them, or maybe you miss the experiences, and the life you yourself lived during that timeframe. We should be introspective when we look at/think about things. There were good things about your ex that may truly have been good and life enriching and worth reflecting on. That doesn’t mean you should go back. Just enjoy the revelries.

From past experiences i needed closure in order to move on and focus on myself. You miss him and not complete over him as yet and that is perfectly normal us women go through it everyday of our lives but you are strongly and possibly in denial, correct me if i'm wrong . It's okay to express your emotions if i we're in your shoes i'd step out of my comfort zone and explore new things to get my mind focused on something or someone else

You still care and that may be a good thing. I do that sometimes and it helps me understand what I had and how I've grown from that relationship. Thinking about them may not be a bad thing.

Waking up and thinking about your ex could be because of any happy memories you had together. They were a part of your life at some point and will have provided you with some of the best memories. It could also be due to trauma of something that happened in the relationship and you may be thinking about your ex hoping they are well and ok. It’s ok to think about your ex partner. It isn’t wrong in any way shape or form. It may be because you still love him/her. You may not be IN love with them however you did once share love and happiness. Those feeling won’t just disappear overnight.

We often think about the people that we miss. It is difficult going from seeing someone you love every day to them suddenly disappearing from your life. It's something that is hard to deal with and takes time to adapt to. There could also be events that occurred in the relationship that would trigger someone to think about their ex. If there was abuse or trauma in the relationship, it would impact the way someone would feel after they depart from the relationship. Breaking up with significant other's is very hard and takes a long time of healing to recover from. Even if it's years ago, it is something that will go away through time.

You were in a relationship with this person who you may have spent a lot of time talking to. It's completely normal and valid to still be in that mindset. Some things to keep in mind are how long ago the breakup happened, how you've been coping since the breakup happened, who your support team is, and what negative thought patterns you may have gotten stuck in mentally after the breakup. Coping with breakups is so difficult and different people have different ways of dealing with them. Take your time working through it. 7cups has a great breakup self-help guide if you'd like to view that as well!

Because you have subconscious pain and sleeping unlocks the subconscious. When we experience intense emotions some of that emotion gets trapped in the subconscious, the part of the mind that aren't aware of at the moment. Our minds can only handle so much suffering until we decide that we are willing to do pretty much anything to make it stop. To lessen the suffering, perhaps so we can continue functioning, our mind is able to delay experiencing some of the pain (suppression and repression are the psychological terms). But eventually we have to pay up. Our mind's can't get rid of the pain until we experience the pain consciously. This often happens through dreams but can happen any time as thoughts and emotions that seem to arise out of nowhere or are triggered by something that reminds us of the pain. I'm guessing that the breakup was extremely painful for you. Perhaps you felt betrayed or abandoned. And its possible that the breakup triggered subconscious pain from other painful experiences. There are a few things that you can do to help expedite the process of releasing the pain, but over time your mind will do this automatically. 1. Talk to people about the relationship with your ex and your feelings about it. Subconscious pain has a way of hiding unless you deliberately seek it out, which is perhaps the main objective of therapy. If a therapist is too expensive then you could chat with someone here on 7cups or someone you know. 2. When the painful emotions arise, try to "surrender" your attention to them. Pay attention to them. You don't need to figure anything out, just experience the painful thoughts and emotions as they are - just watch. The mind's normal habit is to avoid pain through distraction or avoidance, but emotions cant be avoided forever, only delayed. So paying attention to them as they arise can expedite the releasing of the pain. It speeds up the process that emotions must go through to be released from the subconscious. These two things can expedite the process, but either way it WILL get better over time! Every time you experience those painful emotions you will release a little more from the unconscious. Hang in there!

From personal experience I know that I wake up thinking about my ex a lot and I just remind myself everyday that its okay to have thoughts about a person that I once or still do deeply care about and had a connection with at one point. Most of the time those emotions don't go away right away and I just remind myself to give myself grace and time when coping with thoughts of an ex. I think all we can do is give ourselves grace and time to heal even if it takes a few months to do so.

having a partner in life involves strong connections that don't fade easily. Even though they are your ex you may still have slight feelings for them and they wont go away instantly. Try socialising with others and doing things you love to take your mind off of them. My best advice is to try your best to move on. I know it may be hard, especially if you were involved in a physical relationship, but they are your ex for a reason. Try to remember why things didn't work out to remind yourself of why this is the right path to go down. If you start to regret events in the past they tend to stay with you for a long time, which may be the reason why you think about them as your wake up.

It is because you haven't completely let go of them. But, don't get me wrong, it is a completely normal process in any breakups, no matter how long it has been. Give yourself time, but also remind yourself that you made the best choice. Breakups are difficult. I'm still struggling as well. But I know that I have to come to the term that everything is over. That I made the best choice. That I know it would be better this way. Letting go at first might seem like an impossible job to do, but believe me you'll get there.

The things I think about when you first wake up are often a reflection of some of your deeper feelings- like I'll sometimes wake up thinking about something that's stressing me out. Maybe you don't have the closure you need with them? So you're still trying to work through how you feel about them and what your relationship is now. Maybe try thinking of ways you could get closure? Sometimes that just comes from time spent thinking and talking it through. You might need to have a conversation with them about why things ended or how you were hurt by their actions (this doesn't mean you should get back together!!) if it's something that's really bothering and affecting you I would think about seeing a trained professional.

It sounds like there is some unfinished business there. We need to process information before moving on. Just reading the question online, it’s hard to say, but there are some possibilities: Did you trust this person too much, and they deceived you? If so, your brain is trying to figure out a way to protect you from being hurt again. You might be asking, “Why me?” Since relationships are built on trust, it’s incredibly confusing how so many people will lie to get into a relationship. It’s also possible that you did something you’re not proud of in the relationship. Your brain is trying to figure out if you’ll make the same mistake again. You don’t need to tell a group of strangers on the internet. Think about it on your own. You know if this is the one because it keeps coming back over and over again. It’s possible you still love your ex. Only you can answer that.

It takes time to get over people that hurt you while you cared deeply about them. It is natural to think about them for a while after they are gone from your life. What I find helpful is writing out what made me feel the need to break up with them. If they broke up with me, it hurts but I realize that if they are not able to see the good in me there is no point in putting myself through that just to say I'm in a realtionship. It will happen, and that's okay, you've just got to start taking control of your life and not letting things get to you and control you. Hope this helps!