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Break up is a huge loss. And there is grief associated. Allowing yourself to grieve is important and waking up thinking about the ex is a part of the grieving process.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 12:29pm
You miss your ex, you have spent so much time with him that he is on your brain.Soon, this will slowly decrease as you get over your ex.As they say, time heals all wounds.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2018 10:48pm
If it is a recent breakup, you will remember him or her very often. It is normal. Small things will remind you of your ex.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 1:55pm
Maybe it's because you're not complete over your ex. Give yourself time to heal and move on, don't set a time limit on yourself. Or perhaps, you hold a grudge against your ex for what he/she did. If that's the case. Forgive them.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 11:06pm
A strong bond has been created and it's not easy to remove so a part of you is tied to the memories of what you shared together.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 11:40pm
You still have feelings for her and deep inside you want her back. You maybe put a lot of effort into her
Sometimes it is hard for us humans to let go.Actually,letting go is something we learn through years.
There are many reasons why it could be possible, maybe you have some unfinished business together or you miss them! Maybe you are still healing!
Anonymous
March 9th, 2018 11:01am
because the relationship with her stick to your head strings. you and her have had a lot of memoriese together. she helped you, heard your confession, share laughs, sympathized and empathized with you, she used to accept who you are. and you two may had sexual behaviors towards others, and this left you with a lot of emotions and beautiful memories. and you remember her because you still want her, more specifically, you want the feeling she gave you. it's hard to just try to forget. find some hobbies and focus on it, give all your thought for one subject. you'll slowly forget her and feel better.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2018 7:35am
Its common to still have feelings for your ex. Maybe you think about them because you still care about them
Anonymous
April 14th, 2018 1:11am
When someone who was a very central part of our lives leaves, for any reason, our minds tend to fixate on the whys and hows as to try and understand that feeling of loss.
I think you give more in this relationship and get nothing so i think it is better to think about how will your live going instead
Perhaps you're not fully over him or her. Maybe you're feeling guilt or something similar that makes you want them back. But it is important that you move on. So try to find ways of coming to terms with the break up.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2018 4:08pm
Maybe because you’re not over him or maybe you just miss him as you were so used to being around him all the time.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 7:14am
Because you have spent a long time thinking about that person, you have loved that person almost as much as you love yourself. the brain was used to thinking about your ex everytime so it needs more time to get used to it and forget that person
You may just be used to starting your day waking up next to them or, if you didn't live together, them being the first person you texted in the morning. It can be difficult getting out of that mindsight, especially if you were with your partner for a significant amount of time but its important to make changes that positively impact your life.
sometimes you wake up thinking about you ex because when you meet them they made a big impact on your life and you miss them
It's normal to think about someone who has had a large impact in your life, especially if it was in a romantic way. Eventually, with a little time, I've found that you think about them less and less, but it's always the worst in the beginning. Based on my own experience though, as the saying goes, time heals all wounds.
They were an important part of your life - it makes sense that they are on your mind. You are not alone and it's not strange at all.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2018 3:59pm
You may wake up thinking about your ex and wonder what could he/she be doing or asking does my ex still miss me ? You’re just worrying about that person and you could text them and see if they are okay
It takes time to get over breakups! Especially if you were together for a long time, try going out and meeting new people!
Anonymous
July 12th, 2018 4:54am
Waking up thinking about someone may have many reasons.May be you love that person in such a pretty way that you cant let go off that person and their memories.May be the feeling about that person gives you and ache and heavy heart in a way their thought haunts you.
This someone was once a special part of your life, everyday, you wake up, get your phone and immediately check on him and chat him. He/she was once my inspiration in achieving things and now that your strangers, it is natural to think of him especially when you loved him
We tend to think of the people we hold most dear before we sleep and after we wake. I am unsure to why this is, but it's a thing.
It could be that, when you wake up, there is nothing else to distract you from those thoughts. Do you feel regrets about the relationship? Has there been a lack of closure? Or do you feel you'd like to get in touch again?
It is normal to think of your ex sometimes. You have spent time with he/she. You have loved and cared about them. So it is almost impossible to forget them or to erase them from your memory. By that doesn’t mean that you need to go back to them. As humans, we do have feelings but we have learnt to control them and to move forward.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 1:18pm
Because you still love him and that’s not wrong, you just have to get over him and then you’ll not think about him anymore
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 2:49pm
Probably because you were used to them by your side, and now that they’re no longer there its going to take a while to move on.
It's because you probably love him/her. You should go talk to that person and it will feel better for you. I feel you I have been there where you are now. When me and my gf broke up.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 7:13pm
Because there could be something missing something you miss that they did it doesn’t have to be something big that they’d do even just small things they’d do is enough to make you think about them
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