What should I do if I end up crying, and I find myself struggling to breathe?

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professionalDeer72
March 15th, 2015 2:57pm
try to sit back, and be aware of where you are, be aware of what surrounds you, what colors you see, what shapes are there, describe them to yourself using as much details as possible ... you'll soon notice a difference in the paste of your breathe. try it out ... it may help you :)
ListenerDakota
February 1st, 2016 8:12am
If you're in a noisy or busy place, try to excuse yourself. A bathroom will do. If you're at home, just lie/sit down somewhere comfortable. You want to try to lessen feeling overwhelmed. Some people find closing their eyes helps, but I like to focus on something that's simple and plain. Focus on that thing and just breathe. It sounds ridiculous and stereotypical, but breathe. Not too deep, but not too quick either. Just breathe and focus on one of your senses. Don't aggressively push thoughts away or think of them as inherently "bad", just gently push them away, as if you're telling them "not now". Just focus on one small simple thing while breathing, and eventually it might start to feel manageable. Try to reach out if you can, text a friend or chat to someone on here. Things will be ok, you're ok.
GoldenDragonEyes60
April 30th, 2015 3:22pm
In situations like that it's good to stand up, put your hands behind your head (this expands your diaphragm, allowing more air to enter your lungs), and just take deep slow breaths.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2016 10:40am
calm down and don't panic thats the worst thing to do in the situation, make sure someone is aware and can help you. also take a shower and relive the pain.
Bluewolf1229
November 12th, 2016 11:02pm
Take Deep slow breaths trying to concentrate on anything other then your problem. play some music cuddle up with a blanket and pillow or even get a hug
Anonymous
April 24th, 2015 5:20pm
If you find yourself struggling to breathe, for any reason, emotional or otherwise, call your local emergency service (911). After doing this, when you are in a good place, consult with a therapist. It sounds like you are experiencing panic attacks - I can't know for sure, so consulting a professional is suggested.
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2016 7:44am
Close your eyes and think of blackness, take a deep breath with your stomach moving outward, hold it for 1--2--3--4--and then release it very very slowly over 1---2---3---4---5---6. Do this at least three times. Try to acknowledge what you were feeling and why you were feeling it, Listen to the hypnotic, meditative rainfall at rainymood.com. Breathe deeply and slowly. Love yourself. Tell yourself something good about yourself or your day right away. Think of three funny things. Hug a pillow tightly. There may be preventative measures you can take if this is interfering with your day-to-day life like as-needed anxiety medication or long-term medication options for anxiety or depression.
braveCaramel10
July 29th, 2018 10:20am
in this case you need someone to be with you and it will be good to hug your relatives or friends, you shouldn't think of anything
violetPotion
February 15th, 2017 10:19pm
You should imagine yourself drowning under water and when you are trying to get some air, dash to the surface and breathe again. Now it's blissful to breathe. Right?
RamonaWinchester
September 3rd, 2017 2:06pm
Try to calm yourself down - breath normally. Maybe listening to calm music helps you or looking at the sky/stars.
KarrotCake
December 29th, 2018 9:15pm
Take Deep slow breaths trying to concentrate on anything other then your problem something like maybe what you are looking forward to. Maybe play some music cuddle up with a blanket and pillow and a stuff animal if your that type of person. I also try to breathe in and out maybe have a warm shower have a class of water and cuddle with my puppies. If all that fails I try to talk with someone about what is going on or even just random things because sometimes when you are crying and struggling to breathe even just getting someone to make you laugh helps
McHappy
April 10th, 2015 8:12pm
You need to take a deep breathe and calm urself down no matter what it is and y u are crying u just need to breathe
Chelsdeanne93
June 30th, 2015 12:53pm
Relax. Try to focus more on your breathing than your emotions. Try breathing deeply with your stomach.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 6:45pm
I know that can feel really scary when it happens. Try to take 10 deep breaths, truly focus on your breathing. Doing this should calm you down enough to where you could try a grounding exercise. You could count backwards from 50. My personal favorite is to look around the place I'm in and pick out 5 things I can see, 4 things I can touch, 3 things I can hear, 2 things I can taste, and 1 thing I can smell. By the end of this exercise, you should feel much more calm.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2015 6:58am
You should go and ask for help to any person who is close to you. Don't feel panic , that's the reason you're struggling.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 10:33pm
Try to take deep breaths and calm down. It may not be easy to do, but if you are able to calm down than you should be able to breathe normally after a few minutes.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 2:46am
Stay calm its normal to feel this way. Just sit down close your eyes and relax it will pass:):):):):)
BrooklynRose
January 4th, 2016 12:47pm
Whenever I get upset I try breathing in and out slowly, have a big glass of water, then have a warm shower.
HappyGoHelping
January 5th, 2016 4:03am
focus on your breathing, in out big breaths and if you still are struggling call your guardian to help comfort(it worked for me)
Okaytobeshu
May 31st, 2016 4:08am
take deep breaths and try to calm the cries if this doesn't work immediatly contact someone (a loved one, 911, or a trusted friend) for help
TheTripleS719
September 15th, 2016 7:46am
Sit in a corner in a safe place, where you can be alone. Put your head between your knees. Focus on something on the ground, whether it's the carpet or something that hasn't been picked up. Memorize the details of it, keep your mind away from what is making you cry so hard. That should help your breathing steady out, and the crying to either stop or not be happening as much.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 12:03am
You may be experiencing a panic attack which is a period of time of high anxiety and distress. If this keeps on happening and you feel like you cannot cope i would suggest speaking to someone whom you can trust and open up to. You can even speak to a doctor or psychologist if you think that will help you.
ProfessionalPotato
March 1st, 2018 10:29am
When this happens I do something called grounding: I would look around the room and find 5 things I can see, 4 things I can feel, 3 things I can hear, 2 things I can smell and 1 thing I can taste. Grounding really helps when you feel like you don't have any control. This helps me control my breathing and steers my brain in the other direction. If I am somewhat still feeling the same way, I would do it again. Once I'm better, I treat myself to a glass of water :)
HeyitsSanz
March 30th, 2018 1:31pm
You should sit up straight , take a few breaths in and then go drink some water ! Drinking water really helps :) Drink some water , it will help you calm down , and then take a few breaths in and out again !
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 12:48am
Breathe in and out slowly. Doing this can calm your nerves. When you cry, you have no control, doing this will help you gain control.
LetsCherishLife
May 26th, 2018 3:12am
It's perfectly fine to cry and that is way better than bottling up emotions and also it's quite normal that crying makes it a bit more difficult to breathe. If you get a bit panicky and really start to struggle you might want to try some breathing techniques. Mine is breathing in through nose and out through mouth (if crying it might be easier through mouth only), breathe deep down into the abdomen rather than the chest and breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 1, out for 6 and hold for 2. You can work up to that slowly in steps and you should start to feel better soon once you get there.
StevenFord
May 30th, 2018 6:38pm
The bestvway I find to calm myself is to take very slow deep breaths. Concentrate on the feel of the air flowing in through your nose, holding it in your lungs and then slowly letting it out feeling it flow over your tounge. Try at least ten deep breaths
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 3:45am
I have been through this a lot. First find some calm thought or person to considerate on, and then either sit down or find a comfortable position. Then focus on your breathing and try to slow it down. Find a good rhythm, at your own pace, and only focus on your breathing. If that doesn't work try laying on the ground or doing something that calms you down.
KevinSnow
July 6th, 2015 5:57pm
If you are crying and find yourself to have trouble breathing you should try to inhale slowly and deeply and then exhale slowly. It is very possible that you are having a panic or anxiety attack. When you start to have trouble breathing try to breath in for three seconds and breath out for three seconds to help slow down your breathing. This is obviously only if you are breathing too fast and it seems like breathing is taking a lot of effort. If this doesn't work you will probably want to get to a hospital since there may be a bigger problem such as asthma.
PoliteOcean
September 21st, 2015 5:37pm
Everyone is different. There is no one fits all answer. But you have to try to find what works for you and calms you down. Whatever that may be. If you don't know , then make yourself a list. The next time it happens you may know what to do.