I'm dating someone who has been cheated on. What should I do?
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Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 4:33pm
You should provide him/her enough securites so that she/he can trust and secured around you, it'll be alright
You should know that it might take longer for them to trust you compared to others. Just let them know that they can trust you by proving that to them throughout your relationship. Make sure you can give them a reason to trust you.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 2:32pm
You should make them feel like they can trust you. Without trust, that person might think you are going to cheat on them.
Broken hearts are the most difficult ones to handle. Make sure to empathize your partner and try your best to gain their trust. Their past experience might create issues in your relationship but in the end what matters is till what limits do you both stick together. I hope things go well. Good luck :)
understand that naturally they're going to have trust issues and it's going to be harder for them to trust, try and sympathise and do everything you can to let them know that what you have is different and they won't have to go through it again.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2017 9:32am
at times it will be difficult to talk the person as he will not be in the perfect mindset to talk. moreover the person might not trust you because of their past experience. just give that person some time and everything will be back to normal slowly
Kudos to you for taking the time to understand that this person may need extra care. The best thing you can do for this person is to simply be open and honest about your thoughts and feelings and not give them a reason to distrust you. By showing this person that not everyone is a cheater, it can allow them to feel more confident in their relationship with you.
Be gentle and patient. As someone who has had trust issues, my girlfriend had to take about a month to break me out of my little wall of protection. But once she broke the wall, I'm so glad she did. It'll take time, but the payoff is worth it.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2017 4:31pm
Have an open approach, they will be pretty fragile when it comes to trust and getting close to someone personally. Allow time and don't push things. Respect their opinions and how they think especially if being cheated on had a large impact. Overall, have love and patience.
Do not rush your partner. Talk to each other, show that you care about your partner,show him/her that you are someone who can be trusted.
Be patient, and know that a lot of their insecurities can stem from somewhere outside your relationship. Stay faithful (of course) and be kind to them, but also remember that you cannot fix everything, much less the mistakes of someone else’s past.
Show them sympathy, listen to them and be supportive. They might be afraid you're going to cheat to, and show them you're not instead of saying you're not.
Make them feel safe. Prove to them that you're different by your actions.simply just be yourself. Loyal and trustworthy
Anonymous
January 28th, 2018 6:54pm
You have to be patient with your significant other. Their trust has been broken so they’re regaining it with you. It’s not your fault the things they’ve been through but it does take a toll on you as well. Just be kind and understanding.
be upfront, honest and considerate of this person's feelings and reservations. it is hard being cheated on and understanding that trust is so fragile and can be broken very easy will help you to keep the relationship healthy
In my opinion just make them feel loved and prove to them that you will not hurt them in that way. They are going to have trust issues and the fact that they are not going to fully trust you from the start will hurt you. You are just going to have to put the person first and show them you care in order to heal them.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2018 3:18pm
People who have been cheated on typically have a hard time trusting others, especially those in a newer relationship. Most of those people who have been cheated on need reassurance. I know it may get hard to do, but if you love them or really want it to work, it'll work out.
No one can tell you what to do as far as your relationship, but there are many things YOU can do! You can review your relationship and decide if staying is best for you. Can you forgive them? Can you move forward? Can you trust them? Is this the first time? Etc. Write it down and imagine yourself giving this advice to a friend or child. What would you tell your sister/brother to do if they had the same relationship you did? Good luck and I hope you find peace not only in this situation but in all aspects of your life.
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 9:32am
You should treat them with respect and stay calm when they continuously check in to make sure that you still love them. They have been through a lot. Don’t stress if they get paranoid or anxious. Tell them that you love them and see how it goes.
There is nothing different with that person. You just have to be loyal and hopefully not cheat which you will have to do even if you are in relationship with a person who wasn't cheated before.
You could gently reassure them that you're not their ex and you are your own person. If they feel insecure when away from you, you could send little messages and things throughout the time you're apart to remind them that you're thinking about them! Little gestures can go a long way!
You should support them and make them realize that you loved them, that not everybody is going to hurt them as their ex partner hurt them and that they didnt cheat on them because they're not good enough or valid but because they didnt appreciate them enough
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 4:03am
Definitely don't cheat on them.
Aside from that, give them attention, let them be a little clingy at first. Show them you're only interested in them.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2018 3:02am
Try to be there for that person emotionally as much as you can. Make them feel appreciated and of course, it's important to build the trust and take it slow. Someone who has been cheated on is more likely to be broken and feel like they shouldn't trust anyone so you should show that you're more than meet the eye.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:37am
It can be difficult to navigate the emotions that come with having been cheated on in the past. This can lead to trust issues that are a natural response to the hurt of past betrayal. Understanding and expressing support for someone whose trust was broken can help to mend a wounded heart. Encouraging healthy boundaries is also important.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:29pm
you should try to make them feel more secure and in safe hands this time. try winning their confidence but be cautious and patient.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 9:54pm
Earn their trust don’t let them think that you would do anything to hurt them it might take some time but they will be fine afterwards
Make them feel as though they are the only one in your world and that you will not repeat the same. You are different and should love them enough, giving them that peace of mind.
Probably just try to be honest and build a trust base. It's important to show them that you'd never do something like that.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2018 7:32pm
Earn their trust and be honest with them. Let them know you are not their ex and you will not do the same things to them.
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