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Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 7:12pm
Totally normal for many people. I amone of them. It actually makes you less worried about useless relationships.
In some relationships, yes but breaking up multiple times can be for many reasons. If you're arguing constantly and you're breaking up multiple times due to arguments and such then it's maybe a sign that the relationship isn't healthy for you but you might have trouble letting go because this person might be the only one you're comfortable with despite the arguments and problems you face with them. Just think about it longerm, can you see it being better? can you fix the issues that are making you break up multiple times? and can you see this being a long term thing?
Anonymous
December 26th, 2018 8:31am
Of course it is! It could be that you needed a break. Maybe your mental health wasn't the best at the time and so you just needed to take some time for yourself. Or maybe you weren't ready for a relationship. Its possible that maybe the person wasn't the right one and you realize that after the multiple break ups. But getting back with them is totally okay nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people just cant handle being in a relationship with anyone if they have other struggles in life.
It is totally normal to break up several times with different people. It's just like you're in a shoe store and you try on all of the shoes - not all of them work so you put them down : you break up. But if it's with the same person, ask yourself if coming back to them is really worth it? The relationship is unstable, and it's illogical to break up so often with them. Again, shoe example - is it logical to try on the same shoes several times?
It is not normal to break up with the same person several times. It means you have issues with communication or core values and that person may not be right for you.
I don't think so. I think if you are really perfect matching with someone, you won't keep changing your mind. You break up because you aren't happy, and you couldn't work through the issue that you had. If you're not going to be committed from day one, when are you going to be committed? It has to be strong from day 1, because when you meet the right person you will never want to lose them. So if you are in a position where you are constantly deciding whether or not to stay- rethink the whole relationship. What is the point if you aren't sure? Life is too short to waste!
As someone who suffers with Borderline Personality disorder I tend to push and push which can then lead to me saying its over, only then a day or two later wanting him back because I love him. It really is the I hate you, don't leave me disorder.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 4:17pm
No, I don't think it is, since people don't change very often, so they get back together to repeat the same old mistakes.
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 10:55am
If you are breaking up multiple times with the same person, start to think about why you are getting back together every time. If it's because you can't let go or you find it hard to move on (general statements) you need to realize it's natural. We have feelings that pass eventually, time will feel like eternity if we are feeling negatively and will be over in an instant when we are feeling positively. Look at how you and the other person in the relationship are feeling during the relationship and after each break up. Talk with each other to determine the next step, if you want to stay together or both try to move on. Love isn't love when you need to keep it under control and can't let it go.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 4:27pm
Yes, this is common of people and everyone has relationship problems, don't worry but dont keep breaking up thinking it will solve the problem.
It may be "normal" (meaning "commonplace" or "expected") but it isn't necessarily helpful or healthy. If you and your partner have broken up and gotten back together numerous times, it may indicate that you are locked in a cycle of behaviors that are not being properly addressed and resolved.
No, I thinks a healty relationship are maybe some fight but not always. If you breakup you clearly see the lack of communication and atraction
It is extremely normal to breakup multiple times... but it really depends on the context in which you mean. There are a lot of people who are involved in very unhealthy relationships, constantly breaking up and getting back together, exchanging hurtful words, and performing heartbreaking actions while split... but there are also a lot of relationships that go through big new steps in their relationships which can be very stressful and cause partners to split for a certain amount of time, such as moving in together, or having a disagreement. The question you need to ask yourself is, are things improving when you get back together with your partner, or are you both hanging on to something that is already over?
There is no "normal" in relationships. One of the biggest mistakes one can do in a relationship is make decisions about whether a relationship is good or not, by comparing to other people's. Everyone is different, and no one else knows the relationship you have with your significant other. Maybe it helps give you the space you need to think clearly and learn to appreciate each other, but it's no one's business to judge. If it works out for you guys, then so be it. As long as you're constantly communicating your needs to each other and everything is fine with that, and you guys know that you love each other, and nothing shady is going on, then you should be good.
What is normal for one couple is different for another. Depending on the reason of the break up it can be healthy to have some time to yourselves before investing in the relationship again. Heartbreak is one of the hardest things anybody can go through and getting back together may seem like the easiest path to take. But if old issues are not resolved they will more than likely keep coming back to haunt you and then cause another break up. Lives change and people change and it is really difficult to know when to move on for good. It can be normal. But it isn't healthy if the relationship breaking up over and over is causing more stress and hate than it is resolving any problems.
When it comes to relationships, there is no "normal". We're all different, and as such, every relationship is different and that's what makes them special. One thing you can do when finding yourself asking yourself this question is look at it from an outside perspective. What would you think and/or feel about the reasons why you keep breaking up if you heard about it from a friend. But always try to put yourself and your emotional well-being first. Do what makes you happy.
Normalcy in relationships is hard to define. The best person to answer this question is yourself and friends who you trust. Reflect on your past relationships and try to see what led to each of these breakups. Try to understand your feelings and discuss them with people you feel safe with and trust. The more you talk and reflect the more thing will make sense to you. Good luck.
Yes it is normal but it also depends on of the relationship is healthy. Many people go through phases where they miss their s/o and will want to go back, this is completely normal!
Anonymous
April 15th, 2017 1:45pm
Yes it is. I have done that before and now I'm in a happy, loving relationship. It might not have been the most mature thing to do but we were working our problems out and learning from our mistakes that way. It helped us grow.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2018 6:24pm
Yes, of course! Sometimes, a person messes up and you feel like you can't be with them anymore, but that time away makes you realize that you do love them even if they did mess up.
It's only normal if you accept it as normal. Conflict is inevitable; however, the outcomes shouldn't solely be ignoring issues or breaking up. Once you've established better boundaries, better honesty, and open communication, you'll be changing your standards. Establishing boundaries means clearly communicating your yeses and your nos. If your nos are frequently challenged or violated by someone, it's more beneficial to make that break up a permanent thing. Yes, people can change. It's up to you to discern if giving things another shot is going to be worthwhile for you and your partner. But there's the rub: your self-love and self-preservation are more important than holding on to a situation that does more harm than good.
Yes. It is very common it may be upsetting to keep dealing with things like that , but its very common. But tell me about it.
yes ! it is completely normal. It shows that you guys have difference of opinion or others but not giving up on each other.
It varies from relationship to relationship. I will say that on and off relationships can be evidence for some deeper rooted problems that you'll have to work to fix
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 7:01am
It's normal to break up 1000 times if you are not getting what you want. But trust me no one can be perfect. On this planet, sometimes you have to cooperate.
It is completely normal. Many people go through this everyday. It doesn't mean it's healthy for you though.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 8:09pm
It just really depends on the reasoning behind the breakups. Some just need space away from the other to really appreciate them again once the flame is dying out.
Sure is, especially if you've never addressed the underlying reason why you broke up in the first place. Communication is critical.
Yeah... Its totally ok. Somtime it happens you love the person and dont them to go but at the same time you cant stay with them.. Sometime compatibiliy matters... More than love
Yes it is.no good relationship is perfect .there us good and then their is bad times..its all about learing and understanding each other.
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