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Is it normal to breakup multiple times?

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Last Updated: 12/19/2021 at 2:00am
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September 30th, 2016 5:55am
It is not normal to break up with the same person several times. It means you have issues with communication or core values and that person may not be right for you.
November 19th, 2017 4:17pm
No, I don't think it is, since people don't change very often, so they get back together to repeat the same old mistakes.
June 15th, 2018 10:55am
If you are breaking up multiple times with the same person, start to think about why you are getting back together every time. If it's because you can't let go or you find it hard to move on (general statements) you need to realize it's natural. We have feelings that pass eventually, time will feel like eternity if we are feeling negatively and will be over in an instant when we are feeling positively. Look at how you and the other person in the relationship are feeling during the relationship and after each break up. Talk with each other to determine the next step, if you want to stay together or both try to move on. Love isn't love when you need to keep it under control and can't let it go.
July 18th, 2018 9:55pm
In some relationships, yes but breaking up multiple times can be for many reasons. If you're arguing constantly and you're breaking up multiple times due to arguments and such then it's maybe a sign that the relationship isn't healthy for you but you might have trouble letting go because this person might be the only one you're comfortable with despite the arguments and problems you face with them. Just think about it longerm, can you see it being better? can you fix the issues that are making you break up multiple times? and can you see this being a long term thing?
July 19th, 2018 8:52am
It is totally normal to break up several times with different people. It's just like you're in a shoe store and you try on all of the shoes - not all of them work so you put them down : you break up. But if it's with the same person, ask yourself if coming back to them is really worth it? The relationship is unstable, and it's illogical to break up so often with them. Again, shoe example - is it logical to try on the same shoes several times?
December 26th, 2018 8:31am
Of course it is! It could be that you needed a break. Maybe your mental health wasn't the best at the time and so you just needed to take some time for yourself. Or maybe you weren't ready for a relationship. Its possible that maybe the person wasn't the right one and you realize that after the multiple break ups. But getting back with them is totally okay nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people just cant handle being in a relationship with anyone if they have other struggles in life.
September 22nd, 2015 7:00pm
Yes. Its definetly normal and it proves that you dont settle for anything less. And break ups help us grow in a most unique way so take it as positively and move on
March 16th, 2016 9:18am always is. Maybe your relationship didn't work out.Sorry for that. There might be another better, deserving girl/guy for you
March 27th, 2016 10:42pm
Yes it is, till you find the person/persons that compelete you in ways that no others can even if they love you with all their heart
March 30th, 2016 3:44pm
Hard to say, hormones are capable of influencing many things. If you're a teen - yes. If you're an adult - you should be concerned.
March 31st, 2016 4:40pm
it certainly is normal! but that does not mean its healthy. i for one have been through a relationship in which i broke up with her three times in one week before we finally cut it completely off, and that relationship, although it felt alright at the time, was by far one of the worst experiences I've gone through yet. so its up to the relationship holders, really!
April 7th, 2016 2:54pm
There is no demarcation between normal and abnormal. Your life is your own. No outsider has ever been in your shoes. Maybe you may meet a person who you think is 'THE one' but then there may be a co-ordination problem and you can always break up. It may be zero breakups or it may be a hundred breakups before you meet someone who is THE one for you , even then you cannot be sure. Life it One day at a Time...
April 15th, 2016 2:30pm
don't worry its completely normal,happens with best of us if we're not satisfied with our partner..!
May 1st, 2016 3:43pm
It is not normal if you are going through difficulties in your relationship it might be time to rethink it and decide what's the correct path for you to follow
May 5th, 2016 2:53pm
What is "normal" anyway? Relationships are really complicated. Timing is a big part of it and that's something we don't have control over. Sometimes people do change, as well as circumstances, over time. Everyone's different too. So, is it normal? I don't know. But does it happen? It certainly does.
May 6th, 2016 2:52pm
yes it is normal but if it is continue then its hurts,it makes us nervous.........
May 12th, 2016 2:11am
Couples often break their relationship several times during a relationship, but this is usually normal depending on the reason.
May 15th, 2016 4:36am
You might want to ask yourself the reason for so many breakups. A solid, healthy relationship does have rough patches now and then, but a real breakup is usually a sign that something deeper is amiss.
May 18th, 2016 8:20am
To some people yes. But always comes back to the same reason....when you brake up's for a reason
May 20th, 2016 2:41pm
No, I thinks a healty relationship are maybe some fight but not always. If you breakup you clearly see the lack of communication and atraction
May 20th, 2016 6:00pm
While every relationship is different and needs to be considered on its own, a relationship may not be very healthy if it has gone through several breakups.
May 21st, 2016 7:31pm
Depends on the relationship and how stable it is. Sometimes couples break up and make up every week.
May 22nd, 2016 7:44pm
It is normal, even if its with the same person, sometimes you get hope and see positive change, but it can change to negative as well. Draw a line for yourself, tell yourself when its enough, think about the future, if its really worth it to keep getting back together, ask yourself if that makes you happy.
May 22nd, 2016 9:20pm
Yes, sometimes it might. You might find it hard to accept that you are growing further apart from your partner, Therefore you might not want to let go, and you keep going back to eachother.
September 16th, 2016 10:15pm
Yes, it is. If you´re not feeling comfrotable with the person that you´re dating, then it´s just fine! Good luck.
September 17th, 2016 11:37pm
I don't think the question is if it is normal to breakup multiple times, but rather is it healthy to breakup multiple times? The answer to that, is no. As hard as it is to move on from a relationship, you have to put yourself first, and focus on what you want. And I'm guessing, you'd rather be in a committed relationship, rather than always wondering when the next time the next breakup will be. Don't settle for something you don't deserve.
October 6th, 2016 1:54am
There is no normal or abnormal when it comes to relationships. The fact is, breaking up multiple times does happen, but when it does, you should evaluate why it happens. Is it a lack of communication? Lack of emotional control during a fight? Figure it out and try to change it if this relationship is worth a lot to you :) Good luck!
October 20th, 2016 8:32pm
I would say this is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. It would be best to figure out the root of the problem that is causing the breakups
November 3rd, 2016 4:31pm
Within one relationship? I would say it's not uncommon. However, to breakup and get back together with the same person multiple times should be a red flag in your relationship, and this is something you might want to stop and assess. There is a reason you two get back together, yes, but there is also a reason you decide to end things with the other in the first place. At the end of the day, each other's company might not be the best thing for you both anymore
February 24th, 2017 2:31am
It's not healthy. You're either with someone or you're not. You two need to work on your communication skills and work through it or decide it's time to move on and give you both a shot at finding a better match.