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Is it normal to breakup multiple times?

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Last Updated: 03/30/2022 at 12:54pm
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March 9th, 2017 11:16am
Breakups are a part of a relationship every relationship has a breakup and it's normal that people separate and go there way but if u breakup and go back together and be like that all the time then it's not normal and it's not good bc u hurting yourself so my best advice for u is think about if u really want to be with this person if not then Yall better off Yall way
March 26th, 2017 8:12pm
It is totally normal. We usually have to try, and go through some situations that will most probably make us more experienced, then we will be able to reach our goals or in this case find the perfect match. It needs patience in some cases.
April 5th, 2017 2:51am
There is no normal when in a relationship. I know some people who have broken up many times but are now married and happy with their lives. I also know people who broke up many times to realize that they are hurting each other more than helping.
April 11th, 2017 5:57am
Relationships are never easy. There will always be bumps and sharp turns on the road towards the future of every relationship, and breakups definitely aren't any easier. Communication plays a big role in the majority of break ups and relationship problems. It's very important to have good channels of communication established with your partner when laying down the foundation of your relationship, that way it will be strong and you will be able to confide in each other when things get rough instead of arguing or breaking up, etc.
April 12th, 2017 6:51am
Based on my experience, it's not because it suggests that you don't get along very well. I remember, when I was still with my great love, we would always fight and break up. No matter how I genuinely love him and no matter how I truly care for him, I left him. You see, breakups hurt both parties - it will hurt both of you, and we wouldn't want that.
April 12th, 2017 11:21am
I think there is no such thing as normal or not normal at all. Anyhow, it seems like you guys are having some troubles you haven't worked through. You should both sit down and talk about what is it that keeps causing you breaking up and think if you can deal with it. If you both agree to work on the issues you are having, then it's fine! If you realize that one of you can't or is not willing to work for improved relationship, I think it says it all.
April 23rd, 2017 7:49pm
The answer depends on your definition of a break up. Sometimes taking a break in a relationship, two or three days can be a healthy thing. A short period of time for one of you to be yourself. If your relationship keeps ending because you can't stop bickering then what is abnormal is getting back together again and again.
May 6th, 2017 2:58pm
After the "honeymoon phase" of the relationship is over, we start to reconsider and re-evaluate our relationship altogether. It is very common to break up multiple times during that stage because of agruments over anything and everything. But, if you feel like you talk less and fight more, maybe it is not normal. Towards the end, all that matters is two people who refuse to leave each other.
June 8th, 2017 12:19am
yes it is, love is beautiful but complex too this is why it might happen many times, it doesn't mean at all that you are a bad person it is maybe that the people you have been with are not "the one" so don't worry about it, I heard once that people in average love 7 times before marriage, I was shocked that it was an average because I felt that I am the only one who loved that much of people but it is a fact :)
June 14th, 2017 7:40pm
'Normal' doesn't have a place when it comes to love. What normal for one, isn't necassary normal for the other. It is possible to break uo multiple times. If that's so maybe you should start thinking about what's going on that makes you two break up again. Can you guys work it out? Is there enough reason to keep fighting? Do you love eachother hard enough?
November 15th, 2017 4:32pm
It is not normal to break up a relationship multiple times. If the first 2 times in a relationship, when you feel it's serious, fail then you should abandon the relationship and try to be friends. If you would wish to continue a relationship that previously fail, please try to talk out your problems and come to an understanding before you jump back into dating.
November 17th, 2017 12:13am
As it may be normal, it is not healthy. You should look for a healthy relationship that is good for you and your partner, as well as both of your mental states.
November 17th, 2017 8:53pm
Breaking up is quite normal. Some people just may not click, and most of the times breaking could be the best option to carry on living.
December 8th, 2017 12:03am
It is definitely normal to break up multiple times. Especially when we are young, our hormones directly affect our emotions. Sometimes break ups come from that biological roller coaster, other times we break up frequently because we just don't find the right person who matches our interests and values.
December 8th, 2017 10:24pm
The on and off thing is really normal but if its continues &useless it should just come to a serious end
January 3rd, 2018 7:36am
If you mean breaking up with various partners - yes. It's perfectly normal and natural to break up with various bf/gfs as you find out which type of person you want to be with. However, if you're talking about breaking up with the same person multiple times it isn't normal or healthy in my experience. I've been in a relationship like that and sometimes you feel tricked into thinking a person is right for you just because you always end up getting back with them. In special circumstances couples can recover from breaking up and getting back together but if it turns into a serial on/off relationship its a bad sign
January 4th, 2018 9:11pm
Yeah it is fine if you think he isnt the right one then yes of course if he doesnt treat you right of course do not worry about it
February 1st, 2018 10:57pm
It’s normal to some point.but if it becomes a habit , it’s time to take a big break to see if this relationship is really gonna work. I think this often is because there is a big misunderstanding between one another. Try you’re best having an understanding. Being calm & listening to one another helps a lot.. If the relationship gets out of control were you guys start being abusive with one another , let you’re family & friends know , They can see better than you can. Usually the people outside can see things better than you can , sometimes you are to caught up in the situation & you’re blind to many things..If he is abusing you seek help , never be ashamed or afraid. I would b more afraid if no one didn’t know. One day he can hurt you & he can get away with it because no one knew.Dont worry about being alone or single . There is someone for everyone don’t forget that.
February 7th, 2018 10:20pm
yes it is but it is NOT healthy. Thats The thing that includes many crying and fights find someone who its not likley to break up with them several times
February 10th, 2018 9:58pm
Yes that is completely normal, sometimes people do need time apart from the people they love. it helps you realize what you really want in life.
February 21st, 2018 11:30am
It's understandable and normal as long as you learn something both from your partner and from the relationship itself. If it happens for the same reason, something must be changed and mostly it comes from within us.
February 21st, 2018 7:09pm
It is common, however, this can cause trust issues. What is the common issue that causes this breakup? This may make you want to think about if it is healthy to keep getting back together and if those breakups are worth it everytime. If you think they are stupid, maybe want to do something about that. If you think they are justified, then maybe there is a reason the breakups still happen. Maybe take some time to really think about it.
February 28th, 2018 8:59pm
It can be normal in some relationships you keep trying to stay together for your own reasons but most relationships like that don't last.
March 3rd, 2018 4:32am
It's normal persay, but it's not a healthy relationship since you might have constant fights and not agree with one another. This is what I would call a toxic relationship.
March 4th, 2018 4:11pm
It is. sometimes it means that you haven't found the right one for you. Another time it just means that you should think about yourself and reflect on yourself
March 7th, 2018 12:18pm
It is common to experience breaking up with a person on multiple occasions with someone at least once in your lifetime. Sometimes life can get confusing and insecurities, differences and things alike can get in the way of relationships. But sometimes mended in order to start again or to resume where one left off.
March 9th, 2018 1:15pm
Yes. It happens to the best of us. You never get lucky the first time unless you know what you are doing. Love takes practice and experience.
March 28th, 2018 8:03am
Yes it is.. Everyone don't do or find a perfect thing immediately.. Afterall we all struggle so much to find everything perfect.. So its absolutely normal
March 30th, 2018 5:49pm
Of course. There are always ups and downs in relationships, it's part of life to disagree. But that doesn't mean that the love present would fade.
April 1st, 2018 9:12am
Breaking up is always hurting to the person you are breaking with, so if you find yourself doing so without problems it might be your survival instinct that pushes you to do so. If you really care about a person, instinctively you woudn’t break up constantly, the stakes would be higher cause you wouldn’t wanna lose that person.