How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?

It’s important to tell yourself that everyone makes mistakes. Think about what drove you to make the choice to cheat or lie. Think about alternative actions that you can take in the future. See this lesson as an opportunity for growth.

the best way to forgive your self for cheating or lying is to first understand why you were doing it.. after you understand that its easyer to forgive

Never do it again. Give yourself a second chance, for your own good and the people whom you've possibly hurt with your actions.

Since I am a religious person, I found that praying helped. I also from another standpoint tried to own up to my actions and build stronger relationships with those I hurt in the past. Last but not least, I moved forward and didn’t repeat the mistake again.

It’s never easy to come to terms with oneself for something like this. I know how you feel, I cheated on my partner when I was at a very low point in my life. I tried to hide it for the longest but ultimately the guilt was too much and I had to tell them. I was scared of how they would react, I was mad at myself and I was anxious as to what would happen next. It wasn’t easy but it took a huge weight off my chest. You have to come to terms with that you did, understand why you did it, and you ultimately have to tell your partner of what you did in order to truly forgive yourself.

I often say the truth to the person that i lied to and hope for their forgiveness. And it makes me feel better

I think admitting the fact of what I did, apologizing and correcting the mistake would be the ideal thing to forgive myself.

When you forgive yourself for any awful things that you may have done, you are allowing yourself to heal the pain you may be experiencing while also giving ample space for you to grow in strength and wisdom. Growing and learning will take place from the moment you allow yourself to make those mistakes in the first place. How you respond to the mistake after, is the determining factor of your character. While accepting it is one step, forgiving yourself is the other. Everyone can give up on you but it's you who will always be there for yourself to tell yourself to get back up every time you fall.

This is a hard one to cope with. Though firstly, try to recall the reasons as to why you lied or cheated to begin with. Perhaps things were rocky in the relationship? With the reason in mind, you need to also try and remember that you're entilted to make mistakes, just be sure to learn from them!

We are human, and we make mistakes. The first thing you need to do is accept what you have done, and learn how to cope with it positively.

You are human. Apologize and mean it, don't look for them to forgive you. Just let them know you regret your actions. Think about why you did it and how you can avoid doing it again.

FOrgiving oneself is a difficulty job but it is need to be done to have happy life without any guilt we must forgive oneself because we are all humans afterall everyone makes mistake we to can and we must get a second chance to proof our self by overcoming our flaws and never commit them again .

i would first try to get forgiveness from the person who was affected from the cheating or lying. then it will be easier to forgive yourself

I think we, as human beings, strive to live the best life we can, unless something is stopping us from doing so. In the event of cheating, whether that be in a relationship or on a test, and lying, whether that be to a friend or to a stranger - we all do it for a reason. That reason is likely to be to make our lives that little bit better. Sometimes people, like my mother used to, lie compulsively. She did that to defend her insecurities, and it was often better to give her the benefit of the doubt, because I knew she wasn't doing it in malice. How does this lead into forgiveness? Unless you feel you're truly doing something with the intention to hurt another person or cause great upset, then you should try to feel content with having tried your best in your situation to improve your life or your chances in that situation. Only you know what your intentions were, and if they were pure and out of your interests, you should at least try to take solace in that.

There's no way to forgive yourself for cheating, but cheating comes from 2 sides The person that you're in a relationship with is also a part of the problem unfortunately otherwise there would be no cheating

Confront your feelings of guilt and admit your wrongdoings to someone or even to yourself. Allow yourself to fully grasp this and accept that you made a mistake. Recognize that mistakes are a part of human life. It is important that you recognize that your desire to improve and move on is good and positive. You do not have to let this mistake keep you from allowing yourself true inner peace.

Accept the fact that you can't change the past and undo what you said or do. Everyone makes mistakes and the best thing we can do to move forward in life is accept that we haven't done the right thing, make up for our wrong doing (e.g. apologising) and work towards how to improve in the future. I think the biggest thing is being able to accept that you didn't do the right thing, try to make amends and move on in a more positive direction.

@whoever that was the anonymous who told this guy they're a terrible person, that's a very rotten thing to say. This is supposed to be a site where people help each other and you are spreading nothing but negativity. Apologize. Sometimes good people do bad things, and just because you werent the best person in the past doesn't mean you can't change and become someone better. I believe in you.

First, accept that you did it, that you were at fault and therefore some guilt is bound to be there. Also accept that you're a human and while you did make a mistake, it doesn't mean that you're inherently "bad" or evil. The best way to move on from a mistake is to accept it, try to understand why you did it (so that you don't repeat it again), make amends to people you might have hurt and then vow to do your best not to repeat it.

It's sometimes tough to forgive yourself for something you've done wrong. Understanding that this negative decision is in the past and learning from the error is what encourages me to forgive myself. I also avoid defending any lie.

Personally, I struggle to forgive myself if and when I lie as I know that my actions have hurt someone else. I usually let time heal in the short term then talk it through with the person afterwards. However, in the first instance, I try to be as honest as possible... even if that truth may hurt.

Some may mistake forgiving as forgetting. It is not that easy and those are different terms. Forgiving is the state of being in peace - stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, flaw, or mistake. Forgetting according to this, inadvertently neglect to do, bring, or mention something. So how do we forgive ourselves for cheating and lying or any other acts that may somehow be damaging, well: 1)Identify your biggest regret - It's often helpful to categorize these things because people often only hold on to a handful of big categories/patterns. Working on patterns of behavior is often more helpful than working on individual regrets. 2)Become clear with your Morals - think about it. What happened good and bad from it. 3)Realize that it is now a past - it has happened, why let it stay for a little bit longer when it has a negative effect. 4)Don't just forget it but learn from it - It happened, yet there will always be a lesson. Learn from it. 5)Accepting yourself - Think kind thoughts toward yourself and show yourself some compassion. 6)Enjoy your Life - Take some time with yourself or a trusted adult or friend and get yourself to express within.

Feeling guilty over cheating or lying can be soul crushing, but there's no undoing it, so the best thing to do is to apologize to anyone hurt and carry on the best you can trying to move forward. Instead of blocking it from your mind, accepting it and channeling that guilt into motivation can be progressive

It's really hard, I always get that sick feeling in my gut after I lie or cheat. But the best way for me to forgive myself is to apologize to the person I lied to. It's hard and it hurts, but it's better to get things in the open.

we accept our mistake and apologize for doing so. acknowledging the mistake takes courage. make a promise to yourself that you will never ever repeat the same mistake again.

Its a tough one and its not necessarily an easy thing to do. Its going to take some time but talking it through with a close friend or a loved one can help. What you did may have been wrong but you don't have to hold onto that mistake forever. You just need to understand and then learn from your mistake

Well firstly you have to understand that what you did was wrong. Then you have to ask yourself why you did it and what caused you to do it. Once you figure out that something actually made you feel like you had to do it forgiving yourself gets much easier :)

I tend to have an issue with that too so I try to not lie or cheat for any reason in the first place. If I do though I try to think of the reasons why and what caused me to make a decision that is against what I think is right. Usually it's fear or anger and I feel very bad about it which in time gives me an incentive to forgive myself and recognise that I am human and I make mistakes and that;s okay as long as I learn from then and don't repeat what I did in the future.

Try to understand why did you cheat and lie in the first place. Be aware that we all have a capacity to hurt someone else but also a power and responsibility to choose right behaviour.

Go through all the process of it and .. then - apologize to the person or whoever it is you did wrong too! or if the person is not available then try to move on and learn from the mistake of not doing it to others.