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How to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing?

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Last Updated: 03/07/2021 at 4:29pm
How to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing?
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rxgdxll
May 5th, 2019 10:21pm
You should be able to find an online thertapist. Either online or through an app for whichever would be best for you. This way you have the conversation you wish for from the therapist without having to risk you parents know. Do whichever is easiest keep from having to tell them until you are ready to confess doing this to them. Both should be free so you don’t gave to risk them learning by this. But remember, you should tell them when you feel best to do it. Don’t leave them in the dark about this kind of issue if you can trust them with it
Anonymous
October 31st, 2019 2:00am
Therapy can be a crucial and extremely helpful tool for those battling mental health issues. Therapists are held to the same standards as a medical doctor in that they are held to an oath of confidentiality and cannot discuss what you share with them, unless they feel that you are a danger to yourself or others. The downside of therapy is that it can be a costly resource. Sometimes schools, universities and even local clinics do have free or discounted rates which allow you to talk with a counselor or therapist without the financial burden. If you have a means of getting to the therapists location, and the financial cost is something you can take on either because of free resources or your own form of income, you should be able to talk with a therapist without your parents knowing. There are also online resources, such as 7 cups, which has free listeners, as well as trained therapists you can connect to which would also be private and confidential.
peacefulforest42
April 2nd, 2020 12:09am
It depends on the age and if there are local laws regarding minors. In general, therapists seem adept at keeping things confidential. I would suggest bringing this concern up to the therapist. They may have experience in this and a plan for how to proceed. It is also good to share concerns with your therapist so they can understand you better. It also lets the therapist know that you may not appreciate texted reminders or calls about upcoming appointments. Some therapists work very well with this. By discussing it, it gives both of you the opportunity to collaborate on what works best.
greatfulRainfall46
July 24th, 2020 5:28am
this depends on you location of residence. Some therapy locations won’t allow children of a certain age services without their parents consent. my location of residence has the age at 12 for some locations and 16 at others. You can always talk to the therapist and see if they are willing to make arrangements that don’t involve your parents. As well, many schools offer therapist specialists so you could always ask the office or a trusted teacher to be connected with them:)! It does get a little tricky trying to make the appointments so that your parents aren’t involved, so i go suggest if possible just let your parents know you intend on doing this so they can assist with travel. however if this is not a possibility you could see what type of transportation is available to you
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 4:35am
I will pretend a live doll is about to attack them and find ways to trick them out and become funner.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 9:39am
if you are under 18 you are not an adult and they have responsibility for you, talk to them or you have to find someone here
bigDreamer94
January 27th, 2016 7:04pm
If you are under 18, legally your parents must sign of and content. I know this due to personal experience. When you are 18 and above , legally a therapist cannot talk to your parents and only you
coolj9
January 31st, 2016 9:05am
Scheduling appointment with request of keeping therapeutic session confidential can help. Attending session online is also a convenient option.
AfternoonFirefly
February 4th, 2016 5:09am
Teens who need professional help should generally talk to their parents before doing so, but if you absolutely cannot tell them, I suggest fing a self help book or an online counselor. :)
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 11:00pm
You can talk to a therapist without your parents knowing online, through a free call helpline or by talking to a school counselor.
elliejade
February 10th, 2016 5:22pm
The best thing to do is to ask your school about it, there could be and probably will be someone there. Though it may take you a while because there will be a whole list of people that he/she may need to see, or maybe there is more than one. Other than that you can get your GP to refer you to someone as your doctor has to keep everything between you and him. I don't know whether that is based on age or not though. Could be that if you're under 18 and it's life threatening that they tell, but otherwise doctors shouldn't tell your parents that you have requested to see a therapist.
KaylaMichelle
February 14th, 2016 12:28am
There are a few ways to talk to a therapist without your parents knowing. One way to do so is talking with your school counselor. many schools have outreach counselors (focus more on mental health and student support). Most of times school counselors will not notify your parents of your meetings. There are some rules regarding confidentiality but other than that you should be good!
ghostPastry
February 14th, 2016 2:03pm
Are you currently attending school? Most schools have a counselor you could talk to. If that isn't an option, it might be best to have an honest discussion with your parents about the reasons why you'd like to see a therapist. Who knows, maybe they'll be supportive!
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 7:03pm
If you're still going to school, there's most likely a guidance counselor who works there. Most students like to go to them with their problems. Since you don't want your parents to know, school is the perfect place to talk to someone without them watching you.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 5:19am
It depends how old are you and what do your parents want to know about you and see from there. I would also try to see if i can see a doctor too.
Mariekehere
February 25th, 2016 12:07pm
It is possible to start talking to a school counselor without your parents knowing about it. They are usually very helpful as well.
LucilleLovesYou
February 25th, 2016 4:44pm
I'm not sure that's possible if you're under the age of 18. Maybe try your school councilor? 7 cups listeners are not verified professionals but we are here to listen so that might help too. Hope I helped.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 3:49pm
Just tell your parents that im a very well known friend to you that im here to help you in every way possible
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 9:25pm
In most states, if you are above the age of 14, you can recive professinal help without it being the therpist being required to share the information with your paents unless they suspect that you might be a danger to yourself. Unfortunatly, unless you can find a free clinic, you may be required to pay a fee for the visit. You can also talk with a therpist online or over the phone and do so anonymously.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 11:58pm
There are charity organisations who can give you counselling below the age of 18. It would however be best to sit down with your parents and talk to them as they may be able to help.
consciousme
February 28th, 2016 10:55am
If you're still in school, a lot of schools have councilors that you can see. I talk to one at my school :)
Clementine103
February 28th, 2016 8:30pm
You could talk to me. We could arrange a time to meet each week. I could try my best to be helpful.
SebastianAvery14
March 3rd, 2016 1:40am
If you have a bus nearby, it can be helpful to take it to the place you are going unless the place is far. If you have money saved up, you can use that if the charge for this therapist is in that budget. You could get a friend to help or another family member that you trust.
courageousHand17
March 4th, 2016 6:10am
If you are under 18, I doubt this is possible. I don't imagine professionals talk to minors without parental consent, and you don't have your own health insurance yet. If you are over 18, but don't have your own health insurance, you will either have to pay out of pocket to speak to a professional. If you are over 18 and have your own health insurance, then I assume this is not a problem for you. If seeing a professional or paying for one is out of the question due to either age or health insurance and financial status, consider searching for support groups in your area. Sometimes professionals volunteer their services to lead support groups. Also, even if it's a support group without a professional therapist, you might be able to benefit from getting to speak to people. If you are in school, try looking into any resources that your school might offer.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 8:28pm
You should let your parents know that you need a counselor if you’re below eighteen years old. If you’re over eighteen years old, it doesn’t matter if they don’t want you seeing help, because it is your right. If you’re younger than 18, ask their permission and talk it out. Are you over 18? Then you have enough rights. I understand how you feel completely; wondering how your parents react.
fancydrums00
March 8th, 2016 2:55pm
this website is basically used for online therapy for emotions of course. you can talk to any listener about your problems and provide you with the best therapy we can give.
MrRoboticWrites
March 9th, 2016 9:56am
I think it depends how old you are. I believe, if you're 16 you can go to any medical professional and they don't have to disclose that you went to them.
duckyismyname14
March 9th, 2016 10:55pm
Some cities have places you can go to. Where I live, you can go somewhere and talk with a counselor. Free the first 3 times and they don't need any information and your parents won't know unless it's severe. However, they can't give you medicine without your parents knowing.
Freewillsky
March 10th, 2016 4:15am
No doubt -- the older you are, the easier this is. Therapy can cost money, and unless you have enough to cover it, you may need parents to step in. If you are financially independent, then you can make your own choice. If you see a therapist for free (through your school or another service), they are generally bound by a confidentiality agreement -- to you. The exceptions to this rule include you revealing that you plan to harm or kill yourself, or that you are a threat to someone else. If you don't fall into that category, and are old enough to make your own decisions for your health (in some areas the age is 14, in others 16), you're probably okay.
Durake
March 17th, 2016 6:30pm
Depends, if were talking physical in person therapist, I'm not too sure, unless its one you absolutely trust, like one at school. But a virtual over the internet therapist, depending on the information you give them, no, they won't know. Like with 7 Cups, free, anonymous help. :)