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I have a good life why am I not happy?

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Last Updated: 04/20/2022 at 3:15pm
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April 5th, 2016 6:54am
Hi5! I live in a kind of life that many people are jealous of. I can afford whatever I want, go wherever I want, and still I am never happy.
June 17th, 2015 9:51pm
I am not happy because at some point I was happier. Creating an unrealistic standard by which I measure my life.
August 2nd, 2016 10:18am
You are not happy because despite the good life, theres something you are missing and its preventing you from being totally happy
September 11th, 2016 1:36am
I have asked myself the same question, and I know people who ask themselves this question. I can't tell you why, but I can point you in the right direction. Don't look outside of yourself for happiness. You won't find it there. You will only find true happiness inside. We often interact with things which conjure a sense of happiness. But! That happiness did not come from those things. No, that happiness came from inside of you. It was only coaxed out by something which you enjoyed. But those things go away, and then we are left without happiness — or so it feels. You must grow your happiness, tend to it like a garden. Do things that make you happy, yes, but do not rely on those things for happiness. Sit silently and see what comes. Stay determined in your inner search, and you will find it. Peace :-)
February 10th, 2015 6:08pm
I guess the real question to ask is, by whose definition is your life good? If you are not happy maybe you are not living YOUR definition of a good life. Having a good life does not define happiness but happiness defines having a good life
December 10th, 2016 12:49am
It varies from person to person as many have these feelings. A very common reason is having high expectations and not allowing yourself to celebrate each success. If people continue from one goal to the next, it doesn't leave time to experience the joy of the moment. Sometimes just being on the path to your goal is a tremendous experience. Don't miss out on the joy of being mindful or simply in the moment.
June 18th, 2015 12:17am
Why am I not happy? I have asked myself that question about a million times. My life is a good life. I have everything I could ever want, and I am supposed to be happy. It took me a long while to understand that depression is also chemical imbalance in the brain, among other things. I learned to accept it and embrace it, and it has taught me many lessons. Also, happiness is something elusive and relative. Don't stress out about that, it is normal and many people go through it (the struggle). I hated myself for a long time due to that fact, but now I just accept more, I guess. It is a personal progress, but many people on here can help you on your journey.
December 15th, 2015 6:50pm
Your happiness doesn't really depend on you having a good or bad life. There are miserable millionaires and there are cheerful homeless people. Do what makes you happy. If painting makes you happy, paint. If listening to music makes you happy, listen to music. Just having a good life isn't enough to make you happy.
November 11th, 2016 11:18am
Happiness doesn't come when you have a good life. Happiness comes from utter satisfaction. When you have variety in your life and you do both types of activities (mental, physical) along with a mix of some love from people and doing things you like, then you feel satisfied. Though rules aren't fixed, and in life you always go through phases of being happy then unhappy, its like a roller coaster. Usually just changing your habits might help make the down phase move on faster.
June 5th, 2015 5:47pm
I am sorry to hear you are not happy with your good life. Sometimes that can be the case though, and there is no actual answer to your question. Maybe you should speak to your doctor or local GP about this, speak to friends and family- It is important to tell people what is going on- Always here if you would like to talk 1-1 :) Hope you are ok.
October 26th, 2016 5:03pm
If you find a simple answer to this, write a book. You'll make a fortune. Just make sure to name one of your yachts after me. 😉 Seriously though... Could be anything!
September 28th, 2016 4:07am
I do have a good life. I feel I'm not happy because my expectations from childhood have failed I guess. For instance I got a divorce. My inner child can't except that.
August 4th, 2015 7:11pm
We often don't take the time to appreciate all of the good things that happen in our life. Each time you do something positive, write it down and keep a list of all of the positive things that happen in your life every day. It can be something as simple as remembering to brush your teeth. At the end of the day, read all of the positive things out to yourself and you will notice that life isn't so bad after all!
July 26th, 2016 8:06am
The same reason why the temperature might be perfect for snow to set. But the snow doesn't set. There may be grit on the road or a bad foundation for the snow to set. You must find the root cause of your happiness.
April 10th, 2015 7:39am
You are probably depressed. Just because you may have nice things and/or privileges does not mean everything is okay. If there is a specific problem bothering you, solve it. If you have depression, it is the chemicals in your brain making you feel so unsatisfied with everything.
October 21st, 2016 9:31pm
You may be lacking goals and gave become complacent with your life. But happiness is not something you can always be feeling. It's felt often in contrast to other feelings.
August 23rd, 2016 2:41pm
A good life doesn't mean you are supposed to be happy too, you can have negative things in your life that makes you unhappy, like not being able to share your happiness with other people, being alone, or having problems with dealing with things that happened in the past or recently, maybe if you can figure out why you're unhappy, you can try to change the things that are possible to change to make yourself a bit more happy!
April 6th, 2018 5:24am
There are times when even though you could have everything you imagined, everything you ever thought you needed to have a good life, you're not happy. You feel lonely, or restless all the time, or bored and tired of life. Suffering from depression may be the reason. It's hard to exactly pinpoint a time at which you started feeling unhappy with life in spite of having so much, but as long as you can describe your symptoms to a listener on 7 Cups or a therapist or a trusted friend/adult who can refer you to the proper help, I promise you will learn to love life again.
October 19th, 2016 7:22am
maybe because i havent tried exploring new things travel around the world meet new people do good deeds enough! ❤
November 26th, 2016 10:15am
Sometimes we are not satisfied with the life we have because of our unrealistic expectations. Maybe you should understand that life is not a movie. You should enjoy every small moment and be happy, instead of waiting for something extremely fancy to happen.
May 24th, 2015 1:35pm
Happiness isn't always as simple as having a good life. It can come down to the finer details, such as, you may have a good life and recognize it, but are you still unhappy with things you lack? Are you having issues that make it hard to appreciate what you have because having a good life doesn't solve your problems? Or it could come down to you having a psychological disorder, a chemical imbalance in the brain. Chemical imbalances don't discriminate and people with the best lives, those who have it ALL can still wind up with depression or another mental illness. In these situations, it may take them seeking professional help from a counselor or psychiatrist in order to find a way to balance out their brain chemicals so they are ABLE to feel happy again.
October 16th, 2015 7:02pm
Just because you have a good life doesn't mean you have to be happy. I don't have a very good answer but don't ever think that because people have it worse than you, you can't be sad. You can be sad. You don't have to have a reason. It is best to stay positive though :)
September 18th, 2016 9:34pm
Having a good life doesn't exactly mean that you're happy, plus you can't force yourself to be happy because you have a good life. It is completely normal to feel sad sometimes, it is not related to property. Try to analyze more carefully where is your pain coming from and also try to be more thankful for all you've got, it may help you to feel better. Don't forget that you are special for all those who love you, including me :-)
October 29th, 2016 3:44pm
Life has its ups and downs! For myself I had an amazing life but found within myself their were improvements I needed to make to feel the happiness.
April 8th, 2015 6:32pm
it depeneds how good ur life is , money or having too much people to know these are not enough.....
December 28th, 2017 12:24am
Often our definition of 'a good life' is based almost solely on factors and aspects outside of us - for example our house, our family, our car and our job. 80% of happiness can only be found within us - away from any physical possession. We all have demons inside us to conquer; it is as we confront these hurdles and rise above them that our hearts are infused with peace, purpose and happiness.
January 24th, 2018 2:20am
Having a good life is not all you need to happy, unfortunately. Though many of us have what we'd call a good life, a home, friends, education, food, etc, a lot of us aren't happy, and that could be down a few things, right? It could be mental health, having the above things does not prevent all mental health issues and conditions. Or, it could possibly be that your current "good life" is not good enough, but you wouldn't know that since you don't know any different.
March 28th, 2018 2:00am
One's interpretation of good life could most probably be based on extrinsic factors like a good job , income , partner , family and social life plus surroundings. What else happiness could be intrinsic. Happiness comes from your emotional needs both fulfilled or unfulfilled . It could be something which was not met during your childhood or in your present life. Once you identify it and overcome or even become aware of it then you will find peace and feel the bliss from within you.
March 28th, 2018 11:36am
Sometimes we feel like we're lacking something in our lives even if on a surface level we have everything we could ever want. And that's completely normal, because when things are okay, we slowly start noticing small things that we are still lacking, which contribute to us feeling big lack of something. Lack of happiness is what happens when some of your needs are not met. Maybe it's the need of affection? Artistic expression? Lasting fulfillment? Whatever it may be, it's definitely worth looking at. I wish that you find your happiness soon 💕
March 30th, 2018 12:22pm
Try to move from the usual routine. Having a good life is important, but more important is your mental health. First you have to look around, what seems wrong you are not happy. Then try to do new things, to browse and find what you really want to do. Any assumption you can make with yourself can lead to something you really want to do.