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What should I do if I am feeling suicidal, but don't want to tell anyone?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2020 at 10:40pm
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MsSpearmint
July 29th, 2018 10:27am
Make a plan to commute to the nearest hospital and ask to stay in the softer ward if you feel like you need watching to keep yourself out of danger. Or you could start baby proofing your living area.
Positivityiskeyalways
August 3rd, 2018 1:52am
Try speaking to someone, even if it’s a listener on this app. We are all here to help people in need as most of us have experienced the same thoughts and feelings.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2018 5:27pm
Keeping in your emotions isn’t always the right thing to do. Although it may seem easier, it actually makes things harder. I recommend contacting a sucide prevention hotline if you do not feel comfortable talking to family/friends about it.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 3:42pm
Try to find ways to cope! Try to distract yourself or find things that make you happier and less suicidal
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 12:32am
Coming on 7cups is a great step, and we have a self-help guide here on 7cups that you can check out if you want to.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 6:15pm
Maybe talk to your doctor. Writing in a journal helps me a lot. I write when I'm happy, sad, angry and feeling suicidal too. It helps to write letters and when you're done, crumple them up and throw them away or burn them.
plantbudd
August 15th, 2018 5:14pm
You should talk to a professional. This can be anonymous. Although working through your thoughts and emotions in other areas can help, getting support is very effective.
GayYellowTurtle
August 19th, 2018 1:43am
Find someone online. Most online chats are confidential and offer great support. Try to think of happy things and things that make you feel better. Music is great therapy and you can find the words to express what you feel. Most importantly though, try to find someone who you can talk to in real life who will be supportive. It may be hard at first but you will feel so much better when you finally get it all out there. Admitting to yourself that you have these feelings is key to getting help. Don't try to get through it alone.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2018 7:49pm
Hey my answer to this question is if you feel this way but don't want to tell anyone, from experience the best thing I do when feeling this way is reflect on all those who truly care about you, talk it through with yourself and focus your mind on the good things in life that you have. Think about what kind of life you wish to have and how to achieve it because every life is worth being here. I talk to myself in the mirror, cry, let it out, do a video diary when you feel down on why you feel this way, what's made you become suicidal or to feel so low. When you feel good and are in a good mood it's a good way to look back on how you have felt and when you feel positive you could think of ways to help yourself when you feel low again after watching yourself back. Writing also helps when you feel down until you feel better again. If I find this doesn't help then I get out the house, go and see friends or family or a therapist, you don't have to talk about how you feel but just keep in mind how they'd feel if you wasn't here. Tell yourself life is worth living and keep as calm and as in control of your mind as you possibly can. Suicide is never the answer. Try and be as strong as you can because that inner strength to fight is in us all! Your life is just as important as anyone else's and you are always loved. Never forget it, it's just about finding what ways of coping when in this mood works for you. Write songs, poems, watch movies, listen to music that might bring your mood back up again. Anything to help feel better again but one piece of advice I have is to not ignore how you feel or why and what has made you feel this way. It's better to deal with it and face it then shut it all away in your mind as it builds up and you don't want to be tipped over the edge again. There are always people on here who won't judge you and can also help you through it, you are talking to others who are here to support you. Be strong and keep your chin up, life will get better and it won't always be this way.
AnnaTope
September 12th, 2018 8:36pm
It is extremely important that if you are having this thoughts or feeling this way you seek Help if not Professional help, call a crisis hotline. I know the stem reads that you don’t want to tell anyone but this is the type of situation where you should reach out. It doesn’t necessarily have to be someone you know but anyone that can help you. Suicide could be tricky it starts out with thoughts about it, could mature to obsessing about it, creeps up on anyone because it doesn’t discriminate at all. Just know as bad as all can be there is always a way out. Your life is meaningful and important to all of us. Remember we are all connected and there is a purpose for you here that no one else can fulfill except You.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2018 8:23am
I've been in your position before and I completely understand the feeling of not wanting to be judged or freak anyone out. I have actually called the crisis hotline a couple of times, even to this day when I'm feeling very depressed. Even just talking anonymously to someone helps SO much. Talking through things with someone who is voluntarily there to help you is the best feeling, especially the fact that it's available 24/7. If you can reach out and find a therapist as well that you can connect with, I would suggest that too. That way you can establish a continuous connection with someone who keeps your information confidential and is there to help. Wishing you all the best
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2018 11:37pm
Please do tell someone, it really helps it does I promise and people would rather you tell them then you be gone
TalkingtoSindhu
October 9th, 2018 1:27am
Welcoming you to the story called Life. Feeling this very feeling is not uncommon. Sometimes I feel the same too.. just like you. And every time I feel suicidal, I take a book and start writing about anything and everything that comes to my mind or I browse my laptop for inspirational quotes on the concept of existence. Do some yoga and meditation. Life can get hard sometimes. But, never lose hope. Let's try not to give into the fight. Stand strong. Struggle and overcome the strongest turmoil within us & one day we shall see how our life takes a turn.
FrufflesDaRat
October 19th, 2018 8:13pm
When your mind is clear of intense emotions, ask yourself if you have someone who cares for you incredibly. Maybe just tell them a small vent first to test. Like tell about a bad waiter or something. If they seem supportive tell them. Please, you owe it to yourself to try and turn your life around. There's just probably a chemical imbalance in your brain. Which can be treated. You deserve change, you deserve to feel better and live happily. If you don't feel you have someone supportive, then try to reach out to a suicide hotline. Tell them about your lack of support, maybe they have a solution. The dark thoughts won't last forever. Think of all the things you can still accomplish. It's never to late to turn things around!
Blue35
October 21st, 2018 7:53am
First try to identify why you want to kill yourself, i understand not wanting to tell anyone as it will raise unnecessary questions or being afraid thatno one will understand, you can call a national suicide hotline as i am not a licensed therapist but if your country doesnt have one, know that you killing yoirself will not help anyone. It might seem like it will but it wont, try talking about it with someone you trust and know wont judge you. Know what your worth and understand that things, although are tough and difficult now will get better and you cannot give up.
AlexxaroseTea
October 22nd, 2018 8:26am
I have felt this way in the past. There is a sense of isolation when I experienced this and I was too scared of what they'd say, how they'd react - and I feared worrying others. When you feel suicidal, it is the best to talk to at least one person you trust and will actively listen to you. You are your own person, and it is up to you to make that choice. It may make you anxious and apprehensive at first, but it may help you. There is a chance it will not help, and you may end up too afraid to open up to others. I'd strongly recommend that you call a suicide hotline, or privately consult a therapist to help you through tough times. I've provided some contacts down below to help you. Suicide Prevention Lifeline United States 1-800-273-TALK or 1-800-SUICIDE 1-800-799-4TTY (TTY/TDD) Safe Haven (Self-injury support forum) gabrielle.self-injury.com Teen Line teenlineonline.org US Veterans Crisis Hotline United States 1-800-273-TALK US Veterans Online Chat & Info veteranscrisisline.net The Lowdown New Zealand thelowdown.co.nz Al-Anon / Alateen United States http://www.al-anon.alateen.org
Anonymous
October 26th, 2018 11:47pm
Try reaching out to the national suicidal hotline, I promise they can help you and no one else would have to get involved. You can also go to the therapy community here on 7 cups to seek professional help for what you’re going through. There are so many people that would love to help you in any and every way they possibly can. You are not alone, there are kind people all around you. If the suicidal thoughts, feelings, or actions become increasingly worse, I would recommend calling the hotline as well as telling your parents, which I know is extremely difficult, and they may not understand. However, they do need to be in the know so that they can help as well. You are their child, and they love you. They do. They care.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2018 12:07pm
I was the exact case like you. Actually it is still like that. In my case I can't tell anyone. What I did was I wrote a diary. Not long. Maybe 2,3 sentences to express my feelings and not even everyday. Just the days I felt so depressed that I cried and stuff. But I want to tell you that if the suicidal thoughts become too strong to handle yourself you should definetley seek professional help. In my case I didn't have a too strong suicidal thought and it comes and goes. I strongly suggest that you seek professional help before everything becomes too overwhelming. If you are already in that state then go and seek help. I hope this helped.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2018 3:05am
Try to do things that make you happy, its tough to go through life. when you don't want to live, but doing things that make you happy and proud of what you do will allow yourself to see that there is things in this world to live for. And it is really your choice not to tell someone, but sometime stalking to someone will allow you to see things in a different light. at least that was happened to me when i finally decided to talk to someone. there's always a different way to see the situation, its hard sometimes but never give up on life. if the situation is what you want it to be change it so you don't feel like dying
Anonymous
December 1st, 2018 8:33pm
You should carefully examine why you don't want to tell anyone. Is it because you don't want help? Is it because you feel shame about your painful emotions/experiences and you don't want others to know the difficulties you are having? Is it because you want to be able to carry out a plan of suicide without anyone knowing? Is it because you are afraid of what help will entail? The fact that you have reached out on 7 cups to even ask this question in the first place suggests that you do actually want help (and are not looking for a way to secretly carry out a plan of suicide). Otherwise you wouldn't have wasted the time here. If this is true, then it is very important to look at the other issues I mentioned. What are your fears about reaching out to others? Are you afraid of been seen by others? Are you afraid they will criticize or judge you? By sharing your issues with those you trust, you make yourself vulnerable. But this can also be the first step to getting help, getting your needs met, and figuring out how to resolve your issues. If you can't figure out how to pull yourself out of the difficult feeling of wanting to end your life, then you should consider reaching out to others. This will help you find creative solutions and resources to heal yourself. If you don't want anyone close to you to know what is going on, then consider going to a professional counseling therapist. They will not judge you and your friends won't know about it. That will solve any fears you might have about what others close to you might think. On the other hand, if you are afraid of what the treatment might entail then take some time to research what is actually involved. Once you have educated yourself on the possible treatment scenarios, you will have less anxiety or fear about what lies ahead. You will feel more safe to reach out and get the help you need. By allowing ourselves and our innermost pain to be seen by others (people who we trust) we open the door to healing and transformation. We open the door to the life of joy we dream of.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2018 10:21pm
There were times I felt suicidal but I got over it. I used to write about my feelings and what do I want in this life. I tried to find something that can connect me to life, one of them was my mother and writing also helped me to discover things and clear my mind. With therapy I got over this situation. I don't think it will happen again because I have more hope for the future but we can never know what life brings so If I would have something like a crisis I would write again because it really helps me to clear my mind.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2018 3:42pm
it is pretty unhealthy to keep things held inside you, so i think if you feel suicidal but you do not want to tell anyone, but if you have a really close trusted person in your life, inform that close person that you have a relationship with; whether it be your boyfriend, aunt, father, best friend, teacher, guidance counselor, or sibling. if not, then come on 7 cups anonymously so you will not feel like people can trace you down or as if they will know it was you. it is bad to keep feelings hidden because this can lead to worse occurrences, like self harm or even harming others.
SunkissedXx
January 2nd, 2019 7:01pm
Suicide is not something that goes away or something unimportant you should seek professional help at the first level when you feel suicidal, talk to someone professional don't seek help from your friends unless you have a professional friend that can help you with that . If you don't want to tell your family or friends don't but try to seek professional help suicide won't heal on it self and it's so important to get professional help or call the suicide hotline and ask them to help you with that . Hope one day we'll have a world without suicide
Anonymous
January 10th, 2019 6:09am
One thing you can do especially in the moment of wanting to end your life is just take a breath and sit for 90 seconds. Overpowering emotions don't often last as long as they may seem to, and by sitting and focusing on something that can help distract you from what you're feeling in the moment, weather that be overwhelming anxiety or sadness. Being on this service is already a great start, you can find a listener or a group chat to which you can relate. By talking to others who understand what you've gone through you are able to feel less alone and feel understood.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2019 8:29am
It's very hard to get through a period where you are feeling suicidal, without extra support. Often times, those feelings are exacerbated by feelings of isolation and loneliness. The best thing to do, though it can be very hard, is to try and find hope. Find little things that make you want to stay alive and begin to see a future for yourself. It can be something you love doing or something like your favourite tv series. Just little things that help you get through the day and make you feel hopeful for the future. I read this quote once, "You don't have to feel hopeful about the future, it's enough to just be curious about what is coming." You've already come so far, and I can see you're trying very hard. You should be very proud of yourself! Better days will come.
Ashes2Ashes1984
January 30th, 2019 7:27am
I used to have the same problem. And I would like to firstly say, I am happy that you are reading this and looking for some distraction from suicide. And I will also like to add that you have nothing to be shame of because these thoughts do happen regardless of our lives and events. And I used to surround myself with friends or just one person that I care deeply for as long as I was not alone. The saying that their are safety in numbers hold truth in this case. And I would force myself to go out and do something as long as I was around others that care about me. It took me years of struggling until I had the sense of security to openly confident in someone that I had these feelings. I hope this help. Take Care
Earsopen14
February 10th, 2019 9:55pm
Try contacting a anonymous hotline. I understand how telling someone may be hard but I encourage it strongly. I hope everything turns out okay for you in the end. You got this. There are resources on the website you your use if you need them. I would also be more than happy to help or show you where they are. I am here as well and many other listeners. We all support you and want the best for you in the end. I hope this helped and that you find your way to the hotline and eventually get the nerves to tell someone.
sugarcrumbRosalina0
February 16th, 2019 4:17pm
The suicide hotline is anonymous, as far as I know. Yet, if you don't feel like using it, especially if you have anxiety/social anxiety, there's a "textline" - a hotline but in a chat version. It's much easier to talk about those things via chat to some people, so if you know someone in this situation DON'T PRESSURE THEM. It will only make it harder to go through. Instead, let them know their feelings towards calling are valid and that there's options. Same applies for yourself: don't shame yourself for being scared or intimidated. Remember you will get out of this.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2019 2:17pm
Thoughts and feelings of suicide are very serious and should be addressed. I know and understand how scary it is to approach someone and tell them you wish to end your life. If you are not comfortable talking to a trusted friend or family member, or you do not have that option, you could go to your doctor or call a helpline, there are many free confidential helplines that will make sure you get the help and treatment you deserve. If you feel as though you cannot talk to someone face to face you could write it down and hand it to them for them to read. This gives you time to collect your thoughts and for them to process what has been said
IamblessedSue
May 3rd, 2019 3:04am
If I am feeling suicidal and did not want to tell anyone close to me. I would reach out to the texting crisis line as an anonymous texter. I would ask for help and try to create a plan with a listener or crisis line counselor to keep me from engaging in the behavior. Most of the time people who feel suicidal want to reach our for help but don't know how. It is important when working as a listener or crisis counselor that one follow established procedures and check for intention, plan, means and timeline. Reaching out and talking to a person could save your life or someone else's its important that we all learn the signs of suicide.