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What's the best way to get over loneliness?

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Last Updated: 08/25/2020 at 9:48pm
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Top Rated Answers
Keyson
August 2nd, 2015 7:10am
Definitely, focusing your mind on other things, mostly fun things :) Watch TV, go to that jazz bar you love or whatever you know that will make you good.
mysticalcod
August 2nd, 2015 3:35pm
Push yourself a little, its all too easy to keep yourself to yourself and its only when isolation sets in you realise how lonely you are. I have to push myself when I moved to a new area. I joined a knitting group and I regularly stay for a drink with my work mates. I felt quite nervous at first but its made me happier and less lonely in the long run
BohoHippie
August 5th, 2015 12:41am
To surround yourself by people you love and who love you. Find something you like to do and do that thing whenever you find yourself becoming lonely or sad. Don't distance yourself! Talk to people! :)
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 4:45am
Talk to someone that you're comfortable with, or simply find a pet or hobby to interact with to keep you busy.
justkindness
August 5th, 2015 10:07am
If you can learn to love yourself and accept that you are special and unique in everyway you will never be alone. Every person has something to offer.
ahistoryimake
August 5th, 2015 8:36pm
Get out of the house. Don't be afraid to smile at strangers and don't overthink your situation. You wont be lonely forever =]
waterlilyfarmer
August 5th, 2015 9:14pm
As an extrovert, I find that just going out and meeting people is a treat for me. I like volunteering at organizations that have fun group activities. My city has a community rain garden that I go and work on a couple of times a week. Usually I just talk with people about plants and gardening, but sometimes I meet people for coffee later.
Brok3nHeart
August 6th, 2015 1:12am
Face the fear. Think about what really makes you lonely and work to improve that negative thinking process. Break the excuse and move forward.
jibran2k14
August 6th, 2015 8:57am
Do random things, different things. mostly i like to be alone but loneliness means that when you don't have anyone to be with so at that times go out and do random things, like once i went to another city for no reason.
DarkAlly
May 31st, 2016 12:50pm
The best way for me to get over loneliness is to help someone else. By this way, you are being social and beneficial for you and the person you're helping.
Larzy
August 16th, 2015 3:41am
There isn't a best way to overcome loneliness but, I'd suggest finding something you love and stick to it.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 4:29pm
you feel lonely when you don't get the attention you want from someone you like and to overcome this you have to start noticing the ones who are actually there for you and just be at peace with yourself.
gracefulHand73
September 1st, 2015 2:55am
you can do that by keeping yourself busy and doing things you love will overcome loneliness in life
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 7:25am
There are people here on 7 Cups that are more than glad to have you as a friend! Talk to me if you want :)
EternallyAlive
September 22nd, 2015 5:47am
There are people who may make you lonely, but you have the right to make friends and have people care for you. There aren't many healing factors that can help loneliness, but being lonely can't always be a bad thing. Loneliness is mainly caused by alienation from bad friends, or simply because people are too afraid to make friends. There is always someone who would want to be your friend, it's just that you yourself have to get out of the circle of isolation. It might not be now, but only time can show how much can change from just having one friend to having more than a hundred. Getting over loneliness is something that only you can change from the choices you make and the difficulties you may face. You can't always sit around whining about how you are so worthless and annoying. It would only affect you even more, and during that time of whining, you could already be chatting with friends and sharing laughter together. So just start off a casual conversation with someone and experience the excitement of getting over loneliness and making new friends.
smzvf
November 8th, 2015 3:07pm
Have a routine and stick to it Go out in the nature Explore a new skill or a new place Go out of the house Dont stick to the telivision
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 3:15pm
Surround yourself around good people that can keep you laughing.... Having lots of activitys helps so much... Give it a go.....👍🏾😎
hxlfbloodprincess
December 28th, 2015 7:54am
My favorite way to get over being lonely is by surrounding myself with my favorite music and tv shows! By enjoying myself and reliving some of my best experiences, I can sometimes move past the feelings of being alone
BrooklynRose
January 5th, 2016 9:41am
Realize that loneliness is only a feeling, not a fact. Love yourself, love your own company, do fun things while you are alone. Learn to be okay with being alone, but be ready to have friendships and relationships when they come along.
olive
January 22nd, 2016 11:49am
I think that getting over being lonely includes creating a better balance in your life. Meeting more new people, connecting with old friends, putting yourself out of your comfort zone, etc. but also being okay with yourself when you are not around other people. Plus, knowing that there is always someone here on 7 Cups who is here for you can help! :D
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 2:54am
Try to talk to people online or offline, find people who like the same things as you and becpme friends with them.
TogetherForeverAlways
November 20th, 2017 4:18pm
I don't know what is the best day, but I know some good ones. Discover new passions or reactive forgotten ones and loook for activities outside home and in group in which you can practice them. And do the same with friendships, even if you don't have many or almost none, don't avoid people, instead try to cultivate those relationships.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2020 10:50pm
The best way to overcome loneliness is to make the best of your current opportunities/situation and to change your perspective on your whole situation. View your time alone as a chance to improve yourself and reflect on the things in life that matter to you the most and find things in yourself that you can improve upon. Take the time to enjoy this alone time to meditate, read, rest, or do whatever calms you down before meeting other people again. Another thing to stop being alone is to make use of your technology! Whether it be through social media apps, facetime, or joining online hobby groups, find people that you can connect with over a certain hobby or interest.
Yuuki52
July 9th, 2019 7:34am
There is no easy way. Sometimes even when you are reaching out to others it does not go well. In these moments I try to focus in on my own values and strengths, and continue to look for connection with others who see my qualities. This can be a long and tiring process, which can make this really hard to do. So remember do not push yourself to hard, just keep trying when you have energy and time for it. Sometimes even when you are with people you can feel alone. If this is happening try to focus on what is stopping you from feeling connected with others.
billysear
February 4th, 2019 11:19pm
The best way to get over loneliness is to realize that it is almost completely under your control. You can choose to leave your lonely life behind and start fresh with meaningful relationships. In order to do this, you are going to have to put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Often if you are lonely, you may also be out of practice socially. This means putting yourself out there can be difficult. If you force yourself to make that first step and commit to a life free from loneliness, the rest becomes much easier. Join a society, find your people and start to enjoy life again.
endearingPoetry78
July 9th, 2018 12:08pm
Dont think about the negative qualities about being lonely. I know it can be quite hard, but there are lots of good things! There is a lot of things you can do independently.
chloelistens
March 5th, 2018 2:28am
Some people feel loneliness even when surrounded by a crowd of people, at events, or even if they know they have great friends that they can reach out to. In my opinion, loneliness arises when you aren't immersing yourself in anything that you're passionate about. Find what it is that makes you get up in the morning, and truly focus on that.
Mariyia
November 8th, 2016 6:41pm
Well, its just be with me and share your thoughts with me I'll help you overcome all those thoughts
sensitiveBalloon8762
May 31st, 2016 1:11pm
just listen music and relax your mind forget everything and do what you like
NeverToFarGone0
July 26th, 2016 2:47am
Best way to get over loneliness is getting out of the house. Don't isolate. Go to church, start a club, go on meetup.com, go to bars to meet people and volunteer at places like animal shelters and so on. This will help you feel more involved in life and help you be more social.