Why does no one care about me?

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Why does no one care about me?
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positiveWhisper24
March 15th, 2015 9:52pm
People don't always understand how to be supportive, especially if they have never experienced depression before. Often it may seem like no one cares, when actually they do very much and simply do not know how to support you and show you they care. It can help to tell people near you what exactly you need to feel cared for and supportive. There's no shame in going up to someone and saying, "I've had a terrible day and I really need a hug right now."
Anonymous
April 1st, 2016 3:04pm
I care about you
beautifulLight15
March 18th, 2015 9:32pm
There are so many people who do care about you, they are there but you have to look deeper. I don't know anyone one here personally, but, I do care because everyone needs a person in there life. I want to be that person.
Hash394
March 16th, 2016 8:10pm
I used to ask myself this a lot, and that led to a lot of things I'm not proud of - one of them being self-harm. I usually hid my scars under long sleeves. No one knew, no one noticed. I concluded from that that no one cared. On graduation day, all female students are expected to wear sarees, and so I did. It was the first time since I had started self-harming that I wore short sleeves, and my scars were very visible. For most of the day, I had hidden my arm under my dress and no one noticed. Towards the beginning of the second ceremony, my best friend noticed the scars and put two and two together quickly. She pulled me aside and, near tears, gave me the longest, tightest hug I've ever received. After a while, she pulled away, took my hands and asked me why I did it. I told her it helped, and she started crying and said "this hurts me more than it hurts you." That hit me hard. She made me promise to never do it again, and I've been clean since. It's still so easy to tell myself no one cares, but I think about that moment a lot, and it makes me realise that my feelings are biased, and that life goes on.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2016 2:56am
Every person has someone in the world who cares about them. So people just can't show it. But once your 'gone' people are sad .
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 12:06pm
Oh, my Dear... I am quite certain that you are mistaken. For when I read this question "why does no one care about me?" my heart fills with sadness for you. Without even knowing you personally, I imagine the sadness in your heart and wish to hold your hand or place my hand upon your cheek and look into your eyes. You and I are each children of this brilliant universe and we all are worthy of compassion. So not with judgment, but with empathy, I am quite certain that you are mistaken. You are truly cared for, my frind.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 4:01pm
How can I help ? Because I know it may seem hard but if your feeling alone you can alway talk to the listeners ever if it's just for a chat ! Because I care ! And I really would love to help you !! Because I have been there too
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 12:31pm
No one cares about me because people are freakin selfish. Out to take everything they can get from me
practicalPerson5559
March 11th, 2015 2:50pm
I just went through an experience that showed me that my radar for care is INACCURATE. And so is yours. And so is everyone's. I went through a three months' anxiety episode, because I was shocked by my family's reaction to a social incident. I was absolutely certain that they'd turned their back on me. I was CERTAIN, as certain as I was that the sun will rise tomorrow. (Yes, I am a know-it-all who thinks that my social detection skills are SHARP). This is when I started searching for solutions online. I googled "my family does not love me", "I am lonely", "how to regain my self-confidence", and others. I sailed into the sea of this issue. I watched Barbara Streisand's interview where she talked about her childhood and her mom not connecting with her. I understood her, and I cried. I consider this a lesson on the significance of stability at home -- mental and emotional stability. I'd lost it, and it was a slap!!! And then, suddenly, my parents do something that COMPLETELY negates my proposition that I am worthless to them. Please keep in mind that throughout all these months, my parents were CLUELESS that they'd hurt me. How can they be clueless? I still don't know. To me, it is obvious that anyone would be scarred in this incident. To them, however, they would shrug. And they would shrug not because they don't care. They would shrug because they wouldn't see this incident as hurtful at all. How do I know that they are clueless? Because when I phoned my father telling him that I wanted to talk to him about something, he thought it was about work. And he came to dinner, and he listened to me, and he still asks me about it: this "work". And when a new engagement party was approaching us in the family, my mother went through the trouble of designing and creating a dress for me. Yes, my mother, who I felt had turned her back on me. -- You know, I am lucky I had minor incidents in those three months that helped me through. My friends knocked some sense into my head and reminded how they think my parents love me. I had not realised it before, but I was thought to be my father's "favorite"! Can you believe this? I was lucky to have come across 7cupsoftea. It enabled me to breathe, and manage my anxiety. I was lucky. -- I hope, this message proves to be of benefit to anyone going through this whirlpool of the "nobody cares about me" thoughts -- maybe my future-self included. Bottomline? It is AMAZING how inaccurate our care-radar can be. Three months is not a short time to insist on a mis-interpretation of social cues. I am talking about people I live with; day in & day out. Please, ponder this. Thank you
glowingPomegranate36
January 15th, 2016 8:34pm
Someone does. I swear to you, even if it may not seem like it, someone cares about you. There is always someone who cares
Anonymous
December 5th, 2014 12:03am
Maybe they do care, but they just don't express it in a way that is most supportive of you. That happens a lot with family, and when people take each other for granted. Learn to love yourself. Care for others the way you want to be cared for, and the same kind of energy you put out into the world will come back to you.
silverMagic92
March 27th, 2016 3:54am
No matter how hard it may be to see, people do care about you. Sometimes it can be very hard to tell because some people feel like showing that they care shows weakness. Sometimes you'll hit low points in your life that may feel endless, but someone will come around that's not afraid to show you that they care, and you'll feel better. You need to remember that there is always someone who cares and you're never alone.
Erishkigal
June 19th, 2016 2:36pm
Sometimes we feel like people don't care about us, but recently I've realised that I simply struggle to care about myself. If I don't care about me, who will? You think nobody cares because you can't identify reasons why they should. The best way I found to overcome this was to talk about and identity, firstly what made me feel this way about myself and secondly how I could overcome these negative thoughts. Challenge your negative thinking and you may just realise that not only are you worth caring about, lots of people already do care about you. I know I do 😊
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 6:42pm
Because you say melodramatic things like that! Seriously though, someone probably cares about you. A better question to ask yourself might be, "How can I get my emotional needs met?" or "How can I ask for help successfully?"
FindYourStrength01
February 7th, 2016 3:11am
I wish you knew how much I do. More so because I've never know you or been able to show you the compassion you deserve.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2018 4:28pm
It's normal to feel alone at times, and to feel as if nobody understands you. But one thing is true; you are not alone. Some people who may care about you include family, friends, people at school etc. But if you think those doesn't apply to you, our community on 7 cups will always care about you and will listen to you.
Lorelei333
December 22nd, 2014 4:50am
There is always someone who cares about you. Depression clouds our minds and we don't have the ability to see clearly. It stops us from reaching out and telling someone because we allude ourselves into thinking that no one cares or understands. That's false. The majority of people that you know will care, and some may not have even had a clue that you were feeling sad . . . sadness can look like apathy sometimes. But in my experience, always once I worked up the courage to confide in someone I was pleasantly surprised at the level of concern and affection that I received. So, the idea that "no one cares" is a façade. That's the depression speaking; it isn't reality.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 3:31am
Caring about yourself should always be a priority, we easily spend a lot of our lives worrying about what people think of us, but all that truly matters is what we think of ourselves xxx
devilsOrchestra
January 22nd, 2016 2:46pm
it sounds like you feel alone and unwanted but people do care about you maybe you just need to connect with a listener on 7 cups such as myself and go over what makes you think that.
goldxheart
July 19th, 2016 5:42am
They care about you, a lot. They're probably busy at the time or also going through a rough patch themselves.so give them some time. :)
versatileJoy60
October 18th, 2016 10:25am
You don't need anyone to care for you. Yourself should be more than enough. No one can take care of you the way you'd do for yourself.
listeningforyou
December 15th, 2015 9:27pm
In my experience when we feel this way, people do care about us but we are not able to see it and not because we don't want to but because we don't allow ourselves to.
Hannahcruz
January 29th, 2016 8:02am
people do care about you, trust me. you might not see it, but they do. I've asked that question hundreds of times. but in the end, no matter how worthless you think you are, someone cares.
here4you201
April 9th, 2016 1:32am
I had a tendency to assume the worst from a normal goodbye. I assumed that whenever one person ends a conversation or says goodbye to me, I took it as a "oh ok you don't care about me." I think that feeling is mostly triggered by how much I needed my mom as I was growing up and it sort of turned into a bad habit. I still remember I used cry and hugged onto my mom's legs to stop her from walking, because I thought she was never coming back again...lol Well, it's definitely a pretty funny experience I'd like to share with y'all. :) Please someone care about me here......please...ok never mind...no one care about me! HM! hahha Have a great day everyone!
Miracle
April 10th, 2016 12:04pm
Sometimes depression or other emotional states of distress cause us to interpret the actions of others in a way that fits the pre-existing beliefs we have about ourselves, and this may be why you believe that no one cares about you when in reality this is far from the objective truth. Sometimes though we become isolated from others and have not built up meaningful relationships or have experienced stigma (for a range of reasons) leading to the conclusion that no one cares.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 10:30am
Nobody cares about you as you don't care about yourself. You have to start caring for yourself first. We as listeners care about you and we are here 24/7 to assist. However, when we go out to the outside world thinking no one cares about you. You're going to make it self prophetic by thinking nobody likes you and your behavour will make you think that people don't care about you and they will not like you because you think this. If you start caring about yourself ,people will see that you care about yourself .They will see your confidence in yourself and want to learn where you got this confidence /self-assurance from. To reinstate my first point. CARE ABOUT YOURSELF BEFORE YOU LOOK FOR SOMEBODY TO CARE ABOUT YOU.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2014 9:07pm
People do care about you! You may not notice it but your family, friends, and people you don't even know care about you!
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 9:44am
from the sky to the ground,even the giant elephant and little mosquito have person who helped them, NO your not alone, there are a lot of people who have the same feeling like you,i believe when you meet the person with same interest to you will appreciate you, why nobody likes you i ask? im not blaming you but think again,have you ever did something bad to other, if so,ask yourself to fix the bad attitude,everyone can like you if you give some warm smile :) no matter who they are,just smile to everyone just dont over do it, your question explain that you might be lonely,good thing you found 7 Cups of Tea, but hey why every listener sounds so nice even though they never know you,thats right,because this site is for people who seems to have their problem,believe or not,some listener have feeling the same way like you do, and join the community about caring,because everyone wants to be noticed so you might want to make more friends with same interest,i once met someone who likes anime like i do,and know we became a very very close friend and drawing are my hobby so whats yours? do you have something you love to do? if you like drawing like i do,or maybe sports,you might want to join community about it or do some debut to make new friends, be nice, start a good conversation,smile to other people,and dont give a damn to people who dont care about you,if they dont care so why do you? -Good day
MartiMileyCyrus
February 15th, 2016 11:19pm
Somewhere in the world someone cares about you even if you don't believe it. I care about you and I don't know. Imagine how much the people who know you care about you
Anonymous
April 7th, 2016 6:29pm
There is always someone that does care about you! Even if you feel like no one does. Most of the time there are even a lot of people that care about you. Family, friends even strangers like listeners on this site.