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Why keep living, what's the use?

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Last Updated: 11/15/2022 at 2:22pm
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Lisa Meighan, MSc Psychology


Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

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May 28th, 2015 8:14am
Cupcakes, Puppies, Kittens, Beaches, Ice Cream, super heroes, comic books, shopping, pictures of ducks with hats on, deep dish pizza, technology, movie night, how funny it is when your best friend does that thing, how sexy it is when your partner does that thing, cereal, balloons, flowers, video games, getting to walk down the aisle, getting to feed a goose, hugs, cuddling, summer storms, horseback riding, skinny dipping, dancing, bonfires, trips to the lake, the book you haven't written yet, counting the stars in the night sky with someone who thinks you hung them there, traveling the world, traveling to space, traveling back in time, french toast in madrid, breakfast burritos in paris, dressing up like someone you aren't, dressing up like someone you are, music you have never heard, books you have never read, ever single job you could ever do, every online course you could ever take. There are trillions and trillions of reasons to live, and absolutely zero logical ones to die. if you need more reasons to live, message me. -MadiAsaHatter
Anonymous - Expert in Depression
November 6th, 2015 3:46am
Mental illness truly is a burden on one's physical, emotional and mental health. It obscures your perception of yourself, others, the world and life in general. A common complaint is "What is the point?"   What is the point of continuing in the dark tunnel when you can't see the light? What's the point of fighting if all you're going to do is wake up and continue fighting? What's the point of living if things are just going to get worse? What is the point. Mental illness blurs your vision and you're no longer able to depict what life used to be like or could be like without the suffering. The illness becomes your entire world, and you lose hope, become unmotivated and most of all unhappy. If there was no bad in the world, what value does the good hold?  Life will always hit a low point, not because of you, not because of your choices or because of your character. No matter who you are or what you've done, there will always be a low point in life - and there most certainly will be very many indeed. But we forget that this is what life is. Life has good and bad. So why do we blame ourselves or other influences when things go wrong? Life will throw everything at you, life will have dips, life will be unfair. But you have the power to change that. See the good in the bad, and you'll soon see a lot less of the bad. It's all about perception and you have the ability to change and shift your universe to what ever you see fit. Live life for the good, bad and the absolutely amazing. The pain only makes you treasure the happiness so much more. And it's the people who have truly suffered who know what happiness truly is. It is the people who had nothing who know what the value of wealth is. It's the people who make mistakes who understand the meaning of success. It's the people who've hit rock bottom, that know how to get to the top. It's the people who were beaten down and wounded that were the strongest ones as they got back up and continued to battle. You are warriors. You are survivors and you are fighting an internal battle.
October 5th, 2016 3:27am
You should keep living because you haven't found the reason to. Once you do, trust me, you'll never want to leave.
December 30th, 2014 9:30pm
Keep living because you matter. You are worth so much more and suicide is just a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
October 15th, 2016 8:33pm
The depression wants you to die. Stay alive just to spite it. Show it you're in charge and it can't destroy you. Let it drag you kicking and screaming to the end if you must, but don't let it win.
October 14th, 2016 9:47am
You don't chose life. Life choses you. Just keep going. Everything changes, sometimes imperceptibly, but it does. And you change too. Sometimes imperceptibly. Just keep going. Notice small details. Forget about the big stuff for a while. Give yourself one hour a day when you say, for one hour I will just act and not think. Make an appointment for this time. Set a timer. Take a shower, smell the shampoo feel how nice it is to have clean hair. Eat something simple like an apple very carefully, look at the seeds. Listen to a book. Watch comedy routines on Youtube. Allow yourself to smile or chuckle. After one hour go back to being depressed, or see if maybe just maybe a little more than an hour has passed without a maudlin thought. And think, well look at me! I was all by myself able to stop it for an hour. Be proud of this. It is extremely difficult. Then tomorrow try it again. And the next day. For that "set-aside-my depression-time" try a new thing. doodle a drawing. Iron your clothes, scrub your apartment. Watch motivational videos. Then return to your state of self-loathing ... one day you won't want to. :)
February 15th, 2016 6:43pm
If you end your life, it's full of what if's. you'll never find out if it actually got better, or what else is in store.
October 5th, 2016 4:37pm
Suicide doesn't end the chances of life getting worse, it ends the possibility of it ever getting better
December 14th, 2014 2:04am
I think a key part of living is hope; realizing it can get better. But, another key part is curiosity. Can you think of one thing you are curious about? The end of a book, the size of this year's pumpkin, what it's like to travel to ___? Having tiny little curiosities can keep you alive for a bit longer. Thinking of people who you care about helps some people. But, if you're struggling to stay alive, I think it's time to see a doctor, counselor, psychiatrist, or call a hotline. There are millions of reasons to keep living. You just have to find one that matters to you, and hold onto it.
July 24th, 2017 11:46pm
Just sit for a moment, with your eyes closed, and listen to your beautiful breath...that is you! No one just like you ever lived, or will ever live again. We are all unique souls, no two of us are the same. So please listen to your breath, it is always there to calm you, to remind you of right now. Because right now is what is important. Every moment we have the ability to turn things around breath by breath. Cherish your breath, cherish your unique self.
September 15th, 2015 7:02am
well remember that after rain comes sun. In spring every plant and trees came back to life again why? because they survived harsh time. Just remember give it some time.
December 13th, 2014 4:59am
You could achieve so much in your time spent here. Make people happy, Help the people in need, Find someone special that you could make that luckiest person in the world! They could make you the happiest person in the world as well :)
August 3rd, 2015 2:06pm
You should keep living because people care about you. Even if you don't know them. You could have made a massive impact on someone's life and you don't know about it. Stay strong& head up.💜
July 19th, 2016 9:42am
If you really cannot find anything positive about your own life, move your focus to general things. notice that the sun is shining, birds are singing, the grass is growing. All life is changing, growing and expanding. Just keep your thoughts on these things until you can appreciate something about your own life. just keep appreciating and the feeling of wellbeing will grow.
September 23rd, 2016 8:09pm
Life is full of a lot of interesting things, from animals, to experiences you haven't yet experienced. Don't give up, because there are so many things are there waiting for you to have them in your life. The things now can change dynamically in a few years, as long as you are willing to see a better life. You'll be okay, the current situation will not last forever.
January 12th, 2018 9:30pm
In my belief (you dont have to take this advice if you don't want to), we keep living to fulfill God's purpose for us. You aren't here by accident. You are created with a purpose. There's hope lying on the cross waiting for you to accept it. Keep on going dear, it's worth it.
March 8th, 2018 12:44pm
because you are precious... you are beautiful and you deserve to be happy... and you have been put here for a purpose
May 10th, 2016 10:13pm
Because whilst you may argue that your cloud has no silver lining and only rains, rain makes things grow. And with growth comes hope, and with hope comes happiness
April 1st, 2015 1:02pm
because my uncle had his life taken away from him when he was 13, millions of kids each day die with no reason and they don't have a choice. you do, you can turn it around. you have the opportunity to live your life to the full , everyone has bad days, weeks,months . as somebody who has tried to commit suicide more than once my reason to keep going, is that i want ti change the world. also if your under 30, you probably haven't heard the funniest joke you will ever hear, if you are over 30 you have yet to tell the funniest joke you have ever told, so just hold on that little longer because death is final.
September 17th, 2016 5:04am
If you give up now, you'll be shown what could've been, and you'll regret making the choice to end your life. It might seem unbearable right now, but it gets better. It'll all be worth it, the good and the bad.
October 27th, 2016 12:14am
Because suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Most suicidal people don't actually want to die, they just can't see a way out of their problems. I have had suicidal urges myself, many times. The thing that stops me is the impact that it would have on my family and friends. Just think of what your death would do to others. There is hope. Things will get better. You've survived all your worst days so far and you are still here. You are strong.
May 18th, 2018 1:21am
Please seek medical attention if you think of suicide. We are not trained for that. If you are having high thoughts please reach out to a trained medical professional
June 4th, 2015 2:19pm
Live for love. The possibility of experiencing true love or meeting great new friends who can make you laugh so hard your stomach hurts. Doing volunteer work and learning more about the world. Listening to new wonderful music that can touch you deeply. Having children and feeling them wrap their small fingers around your big one. Love, love love! :) it's the most important thing in the world. And you will experience it again.
December 9th, 2014 8:56pm
"Life there is only one, and we must seize it." We have many bad moments that we spend, and we have to think it can be solved. We can get to think and ask yourself "Why I'm living? What good is if all I get is pain?" To this I say, that as you feel bad, you can receive happiness and well . There are good and bad seasons, and unfortunately the bad moments can last quite, but with help can be overcome. Never think it is useless to live, because it isn't. I'm sure you're great, and that whatever happens to you, you get over it. Trust yourself.
April 6th, 2018 3:53pm
There is only one of you in the world; you are incredibly unique, and without you, every person you have walked by in the past, had any type of interaction with (positive or negative), or a relationship with could have had an extremely different perspective and experience with someone else. You matter. You make the world a little more unique with your quirks and strengths. It might seem hard to keep living, but you ARE NOT invisible. Everyone goes through hard times, and even when you suffer, there are people here to help. You need to find your passion - you were put here for a reason and you experience everything for a reason. Going through the motions of life without a reason can be the hardest thing to do. Stick with us though - you are incredible and can do amazing things. Just put your mind to it. Always here if you need to talk.
February 11th, 2017 12:35pm
You need to live because you haven't seen the beauty in the world yet. You need to live because you are important. You need to live because there's so much yet to do. Don't give up if something bad happened to you. There's so much left to do and experience. Live. Don't just exist.
June 1st, 2018 6:34am
I understand sometimes life can maybe seem pointless or dull, but I'll tell you there are plenty of reasons to keep living, my friend. There are going to be things that you've never even thought of coming your way, and you wouldn't want to miss them. You can spend time with friends and family, watch sunsets, and make someone else's day. There are also people who care for you greatly; your friends, family, and all of us here. It may not be today, or tomorrow, but one day everything is going to be so worth it, and it's all going to be okay. Just keep being strong :)
December 9th, 2014 11:32pm
there are always hard times. every single one of us has that moment. i know you might not believe it, but it will get better.
October 1st, 2016 11:05pm
You live because after life, death and death is worse. You live because as long as there is life, there can still be change. Progress. You live because living is a way of showing those that made you want to die how strong and resilent you are. A boomerang always returns back. You will suffer and be down but you would not stay down. Keep living.
December 10th, 2014 7:51pm
Have you ever smiled in your lifetime? Laughed? Cried tears of joy? Look back at your life. There is usually some moments that stand out from the rest as moments of joy, happiness, and personal growth. If for no other reason, those are reasons to continue living. The fact that your situation can always improve, though it may take time, is a reason to carry on. The best thing you can do if you're feeling this way is reach out for help, and let others help you through this time until you can see the reasons for wanting to live on your own.