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Is it normal to feel more anxious when you're alone?

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Last Updated: 01/03/2021 at 2:22am
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Top Rated Answers
elissforyou
March 1st, 2018 1:17pm
Sure, cause our brain overthink when we're alone and we don't have many things to do, try to do something when anxiety becomes hard
Salty
March 1st, 2018 7:21pm
yes, when we are alone we are at our most vulnerable. So yes it is completely normal. When we are surrounded by familiar things we aren' scared, but when those things are taken away, we are vulnerable.
boasoatsame
March 24th, 2018 8:41am
Yes, some people feel more anxious when they are alone, whether it's because they feel less safe without company, or because they don't have someone to distract them from their own worries.
kindheartedJoy60
March 27th, 2018 2:26am
Of course! I know I certainly do! Because when your alone you have time to think and let your mind wonder! When your alone listen to music, dance, wat h your favorite movie, phone a friend!!
Shinydays16
March 30th, 2018 6:02am
Yes, it is normal. You’re alone with your thoughts and you don’t have someone there to distract you from them.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2018 1:49am
No. I believe if you examine your own experiences of when you are alone how often you are not anxious at all. Try this and you will find that what I say is true,
YellowSunshine14
April 4th, 2018 4:30am
Yes, I get this too. For me, I think it's because when I'm around people, I tend to forget about what I was worrying about, but when I'm alone with no one to take my mind off it, it all comes back.
glisteningLion
April 8th, 2018 6:19am
It's different for everyone. Its entirely possible you feel more anxious when alone because we take comfort in other for distraction. try and stay busy when your alone.
sillyseraph002
April 19th, 2018 5:40pm
Many people do. and it is completely understandable to feel that way. meditation exercises or phoning a friend could be useful answers to handling the anxiety of the moment.
izaya
April 20th, 2018 10:47pm
Yes, it is extremely normal to feel anxious when you are alone. If you're feeling alone and finding there's anxious feelings because of it, why not try and occupy yourself with something fun and interesting to do?
ShannonLstories1
April 21st, 2018 9:56pm
It depend on the person however when your alone you are more likely to think of things as you have time to think of things that make you nervous/anxious
persistentHuman569
April 24th, 2018 9:57pm
i feel like i can make myself think of things that might be making it come on a little more when its quiet
naffytaffyluv
April 25th, 2018 7:57pm
It is more common to see people get anxious when alone, but that's not to say that it's normal. When you are alone, all your focus is on your own thoughts so naturally worrisome thoughts may come in. however, anxiety is when the worry gets to a point that you can't relax, especially if often. Worrying about something is not good, but when you worry constantly it's even more negative, in addition to the lack of focus you can put into other things. Finding a solution quickly is best since anxiety builds up over time; Usually, there is a preventable cause for anxiety, and that is to think things over and try techniques such as breathing or finding a safe place, space, item or person you can rely on or at least talk to through it. Journaling and getting it out is a great source whether it be through art, writing, music or another form of expression that takes thought because you are killing 2 birds with one stone: You are letting out any sadness or anger, frustration or worry as you become calm, as well as thinking about or clearly visually or verbally voicing your anxiety for yourself, so that you can calmly analyze it. Candles work too. Candles are nice. ^.^
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 8:04pm
Yeah I definitely think so. When you are alone you get more aware of your thoughts. So it can’t get you to start think about everything and then something triggers the anxiety. And you start to feel lonely.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 5:48am
Yes because you have nothing to distract you from your thoughts and triggers, try some breathing exercises or relaxation apps
Anonymous
May 10th, 2018 6:45am
I don't know. But when you are alone you tend to live in your brain. The thoughts you don't want to think about keep coming back and there is no one to interrupt. It may be one of the reasons why you get anxious when there is no one with you
Anonymous
May 11th, 2018 10:15pm
Yes it is, because when you’re alone, you’re alone with your thoughts, and that’s pretty dangerous especially when you suffer from anxiety x listen to music, it helps
Campnoodles1
May 11th, 2018 11:22pm
Being anxious when you are alone is very normal. Just knowing that there is no one else there to support you mentally or physically can be nerve-wracking!
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 5:19pm
Yes, in my own experience, it is normal, as you won't have anyone to talk to, or help you feel more relieved. Your thoughts are just inside your head and just battling with yourself.
medlgbtoutandproud
May 26th, 2018 5:29am
Yes. It is very normal to feel more anxious when you are alone which is why usually therapist would encourage these people to be around someone and spend more time outdoors doing something they enjoy than staying alone and be in the room. One reason for that is because there is a support network when you feel anxious and by telling them, they are able to help you to reduce the feeling by distraction. The other reason is that, being alone leads you into thinking negatively and we would like to avoid that. Therefore, whenever you feel anxious, go out for a walk, talk to a friend or come to this platform which is why listeners are hanging around being prepared to listen to your problem. Talking to someone will reduce the anxiousness and you will feel better as you get the support needed.
Dremer
May 27th, 2018 1:10am
yes it's .. being alone gives space to negative thoughts aching you .. so i think the best thing to do when you're anxious is calling someone or go out with someone to get distracted
anansispider95
May 30th, 2018 4:18am
Absolutely. Having people we trust around who we can vent to or just generally have around creates a feeling of safety. We are also more likely to pay attention to the people around us than to fixate on all our anxious thoughts.
versatileHeart301
May 31st, 2018 6:09am
Anxiety and its effect differs from person to person, but it can be more overwhelming when one isn't with others as it can set in uninterrupted.
LivingInAbsoluteSilence
June 6th, 2018 2:44am
I think it is because you don't really have much to distract yourself with. Well, nothing that's as good of a distraction as other people are. It allows you to focus in on all the things that make you anxious. Like, "Oh my god! Did I really say that specific thing in that one conversation I had last week? Ridiculous!" Or "What if I fail that one test and then I just go down the rabbit-hole and continue failing and end up failing in life as a whole and end up dying sad and pathetic?!" That's how it is for me anyway, so I think it's totally normal.
YellowButterScotch
June 13th, 2018 1:38am
Any experience is valid. I know lots of people who are more anxious alone then in crowds. Anxiety is different for everybody and no one has the same experience as another.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2018 2:47pm
Yes, it is. When you're alone your mind tends to focus on that fact alone. Then you begin to feel a little anxious because of the blank presence that your body feels like it needs. So yes, it is normal.
eliza1616
June 20th, 2018 1:19am
Yes, because you don’t have anyone to comfort you. Having someone else around makes you feel more safe and supported.
Beautifuldreamer98
June 21st, 2018 3:44pm
Yes especially if you're the type to want to have someone to always be there for you. It's perfectly fine
calmBlanket36
June 22nd, 2018 3:48am
It’s definitely normal to feel more anxious when you’re alone because I guess it makes you focus on your thoughts more. This happens to me a lot.
intelligentMist75
June 22nd, 2018 2:25pm
I think it depends on the situation as well as the individual as, for example it may be more anxiety inducing being alone doing something new compared with being alone at home or traveling to school or work which you are used to doing