Why am I so nervous around my boyfriend?

I can't give you an answer because I don't know either of you or your relationship, but here are a few questions you can ask yourself.. 1. how long have you been together? 2. have you always felt this way around your boyfriend? 3. (if not to 2) is there something that changed about your relationship when you started feeling nervous... a large commitment, meeting family, relationship steps, tough conversation? 4. Have you talked to him about your feelings and been vulnerable with him before? Many times we become anxious if we haven't had to address difficult things with partners before, or if a new situation arises/happens. Maybe some of these questions will help you notice changes in your relationship. Sometimes all it takes is being vulnerable and talking to your partner, so if you are able to mention your feelings to him it might be a good step. It's hard to be vulnerable, or let someone know you're nervous, but it usually pays off. Best of luck. Cheers.

Actually can relate on personal level to this. There can be many reasons to justify your nervousness. If it is a recent relationships you may be too much worried to make everything right and please the best you can and that may get you nervous to be around your boyfriend because your strive for perfection may create permanent tension on you every time you are with him. This could also be justified if you're a overall nervous person, or if you are very shy and never know what you want to talk about, even with your own boyfriend.. from personal experience, I can tell that this usually goes away after a bit of time and you get more comfortable with the other person, it just takes more time for people that are more introvert... Everyone has different times to feel comfortable, even if we are talking about partners, so, as long as it isn't causing you too much trouble or overthinking, I would say it can be quite normal on the beginning of some relationships. But if there are stuff that bother you, or even if you think too much about this, try to talk with him, be open with the way you feel, and maybe you both can fix that better.

It's the pressure of wanting his approval! You might feel like you need to maintain his liking you, and that makes you nervous because it's scary valuing someone's approval! However well you get on and however comfortable you are, it might be that you feel like you need him to like you and think you're funny, or smart or whatever it is. Obviously he does like you thought, so there's really no need to worry at all. Think about the you that you are with your closest friend, which is usually the most relaxed you that doesn't feel the need to try as hard, so just try and be this you with your boyfriend.

He makes you feel emotions which others do not. He raises your interest levels in ways which make you feel unsure about your own identity. It's natural to be nervous. We want to be seen and heard in ways which makes us seem sometimes more then were not. But by being secure with are own identity we will not worry about what may be silly or something we don't know about. Being are true selves is the most important thing and if we do that, we can learn to always be comfortable with most people and situations. If we find we can't be at peace ever around another it may be someone you are naturally protecting yourself from. Hope you find some solace in these words

If you don't feel comfortable, there could be many reasons as to why you feel nervous around your boyfriend. Some people could be nervous because they do not have anything in common. Others could be nervous because they do not feel like they fit in with their boyfriend's friends or family. A solution to this would be to talk to him about your feelings and as to why you are feeling this way. Also, you might want to consider taking a break from the relationship if you start feel too uncomfortable. Please talk to him and i hope everything is okay!

awww This is a sweet question. You are most likely nervous around your boyfriend because you really like him. If this is the beginning of the relationship you experience a lot of happiness and gittyness around him. It's perfectly okay to feel like this and it's normal too. It is refered to as the honeymoon stage of a relationship and my best advice is enjoy it while it lasts. Have fun and relax. I'll add a note though if you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around this person then that is a completely different feeling and needs further exploration. I hope this helps you a little bit.

I personally think that you aren't comfortable with him. Or you feel something might happen between you guys. Also your brain could be telling you he is a bad person even though he isnt. There are many things that could be triggering that to happen. The thing I personally think that is happening is you may not be comfortable yet. But that's just my idea. It could be anything, you know what you are thinking and your opinion matters. I hope you have a great day, and things aren't as weird between you and your boyfriend. I hope I helped in some sort of way. From Evie.

well it depends on whats going on concerning your boyfriend. one important thing to note is that there are many entities that ride the bodies of what we call "human". There are narcissist, borderline, emotional predators, emotional parasites, proxies, genuine people with low perception (who could become proxies), genuine people who see truth clearly (like minded). this is why it is so important to have CLEAR PERCEPTION and to be able to JUDGE clearly. so that we know whom we are dealing with. many entities would try to distort your perception to prevent you from developing the skills needed to put yourself in the right environments. where you wouldnt need to feel nervous. you didnt give many details on the matter so i comments based on what i thought you might be talking about. thanks

If you are new to romance then it could just be fear of the unknown. Otherwise, you are probably afraid of rejection and/or abandonment. Romantic relationships have a way of triggering various psychological complexes that have grown over time. One of these powerful complexes is the one that talks/thinks about romantic relationships. A powerful yearning to be with your boyfriend will result in powerful fear of losing him and the relationship. We definitely don't want our complexes to create unnecessary drama in the relationship. So the best thing to do is try to be aware of the nervousness when it arises. "Surrender" your attention to those feelings of fear, and your mind will be better able to decide if any of that fear is warranted in your current relationship. You may also want to tell your bf about your feelings of nervousness. Good luck!

There are four main reason to be nervous. 1. He is having certain expectation from the relationship. so you feel he is judging your every move and every behavior of yours. So the nervousness. 2. until and unless you become familiar with your boy friend. you feel meeting is always new exploration. Exploration is always has unknown factor. so this unknown factor brings in the nervousness. 3. where anyone and everyone face the change. The change will bring in the nervous feelings. 4 some time you may not be "what you are' when you boy friend around. You may tend mask your true feelings and may act like being happy or sad. While acting you also feel that other person may recognize your true feelings. so you feel nervous due to this.

I think we can become nervous or anxious around our significant others due too insecurities. the things that bother us or make up look at ourselves differently we think that our partner may look like us that way. I personally am very nervous around my partner, I think its because I hold them way higher up than I see my self. Another answer would be because we don't trust our partner and or are uncomfortable around them. Which could use some communication, and honesty. Learning to be more self loving and confident can help improve a relationship or nervousness around a partner.

Perhaps this is a new relationship whenever you are both getting to know one another. This time can be exciting but also nervous, especially if you like him and do not want to mess it up. Another theory could be that his behaviour warrants you to be nervous. Has he gave you reason to be nervous? For instance is his behaviour unpredicable and explosive and you are on edge not knowing what is coming next. Or maybe you have had a bad relationship previously which you are holding onto scars from which is making you nervous around your current boyfriend.

Maybe it is a new relationship? Maybe life has taught you to be submissive or hide your true self? Maybe you have an unresolved conflict with each other? I hope you feel better soon and work out the reason why. Perhaps therapy or journaling could help you find the reasons why. Or some experiential exercises. I wish you well and hope the relationship goes well but if not future relationships do. I hope one day you do not feel nervous and can be yourself at all times, as life is too short to censor yourself or to overthink

What is it you find yourself nervous about? Maybe you feeling anxious is correlated with a lack of self confidence? If you’ve had previous relationship trauma maybe that’s part of the reason you find yourself anxious in your relationship now? It depends on your situation for why you might feel this way to be honest. I feel like to summarize there is definitely a lack of comfort and confidence in either you, your boyfriend, or your relationship with your boyfriend (or all of the above.) if there’s something that particularly makes you anxious about your boyfriend, ask yourself why you might feel that way and see if you can work things out from there

You may not know him well enough, or are just afraid you may disgust him, offend or accidentally chase him away by doing something wrong. You are afraid he might not love you, the real you and that after finding out who you really are he would leave you. This type of anxiety is common, don't worry. It will be fine. You can talk to him about it to straighten things out, and improve your relationship. Talking is what helps us realize what the problems are and how to help overcome them, improve ourselves. Your nervousness may come from low self-esteem as well.

It is entirely possible you're only nervous around your boyfriend because it is a newly found relationship. You don't want to do the wrong move or say the wrong thing. If this is the case you will eventually grow and over time become more comfortable with him. This comfortably will continue to grow. I would not think too much of the nervousness you are experiencing. It is simply, most likely, just a sign you care for him, the relationship you are growing with him over time and do not want to accidentally mess things up. Good luck with your relationship!

It's difficult to answer this question without hearing what it's like for you in your relationship. You could have realistic worries about the future of your relationship or be struggling with attachment issues (you can look this up and see if this rings true for you); you might have experienced something in your past that he reminds you of subconsciously, or with him that his very presence is a reminder for. You could care how he sees you because you don't like the risk of people knowing you too well... These sorts of things are quite common and worth thinking about and especially talking through either here on 7 cups or with your therapist.

it is normal to be nervous around someone you love. This is because you don’t want to do anything that will make them dislike you even a bit so you play it safe. you will be aware of everything that you do and make sure that it’s adapted to making him love you the same or even more. This is not just a person, he is someone who is extremely close to you and whom you share a romantic bond with. Maybe it’s not just nervousness, maybe it’s the butterfly feeling you get in youe stomach because he’s just so so cute and you cant handle his cuteness. HOWEVER, if it’s the type of nervousness which make us feel uncomfortable that is when it’s a concern because the whole point of a boyfriend is to be comfortable and yourself around them.

Is this a new relationship? That is one hundred percent normal if it is. I mean, when you go from having a crush on someone to being in a relationship, you won't just suddenly stop having the butterfly feeling around them. This is referred to by most as the honeymoon phase. Talk to him! Chances are that he is feeling every single bit just as nervous and apprehensive as you. Nerves are often just part of attraction. Just know that there is nothing wrong with either you or him, and this is pretty typical in relationships. Best luck to you all!

I can be nervous around my boyfriend, but I’m getting much better. What I did was I talked to him. You are probably worried that he won’t like you if you do something. When I talked to him, he was so nice about it no joke. He said that I was too cute to be embarrassed for instance. Try talking to yours! If he truly likes and cares about you, he would help you and not think you are crazy or something. Sometimes I have to remember that he likes me, or he wouldn’t be asking me out, want to talk or hang out with me. Just try it! Hope this helps!

I would like to start by saying that feeling nervous is neither a good or bad thing. It is simply an emotion. Next, different things make different people nervous. When a relationship is new, a lot remains unknown. Depending on one's personality, this might be exciting for some, but nerve-racking for others. One wants to make a good first impression. One wonders how their boyfriend reacts in different situations. There are endless what-if's and possibilities for the relationship that remain to be seen. Ideally, as the relationship progresses, you would feel a level of security in knowing some of these things. So, if you're just starting out, it's natural to wonder what the future holds, but don't let it stop you from enjoying the ride of discovery. If your relationship has progressed and you're still nervous, it is important to reflect on what might be preventing you from being comfortable around someone you would want to feel free with.

Most of us feel at least a little nervous when starting a new relationship. This is due to the persistent fear of one or more situations in which the person is exposed to possible scrutiny by others and fears that he or she may do something or act in a way that will be humiliating or embarrassing. The best way to cope with dating anxiety is to focus on one’s sense of self-acceptance and self-worth. When a person feels good about who they are, their values and what they have to offer, it bolsters them against judgment. By calming their harshest inner critic, it opens the door to experiencing  closer connections with others. Good luck!

It may be because you want to make him like you, or it may be because you dont want to mess it up. There are alot of reasons, but whatever it is, remember there are plenty of fish in the sea. You dont need to chase after the love of someone that's just going to hurt you in the end. you have plenty of people that love you, and there will be someone eventually. You dont need a boy to love you. God loves you for who you are, and nothing can change that, no matter what you say.

There could me multiple reasons for this. Assuming your boyfriend is respectful of you and has never harmed you, you could be nervous due to having strong feelings for him and the desire to impress him. Sometimes when we want to act our best, we get nervous. If you haven't known him for a long time, you could be nervous because you are afraid to reveal too much of yourself in case he doesn't like what he sees. On the other hand, if your boyfriend has a temper or has abused you in the past, you could be nervous about upsetting him. Either way, you need not feel nervous. If you can't be yourself in the relationship, it isn't going to be a healthy/fair relationship. You need to feel calm to be your best version of yourself. And, if your partner is abusing you or has a temper, you need to confront him about it. If he refuses to change, consider leaving him. It's not worth giving up our happiness for someone who doesn't respect you.

There has to be a reason, if so, write your feelings down, wether they are good or nervous feelings, it helps to keep a diary! As my mother always says, trust your gut. Relationships are supposed to be a happy time, not a nervous one, but its normal to feel that way once in a while. Life is not a disney movie. As somebody who also is in a relationship for almost two years now, I get nervous too! The main reason is because I am afraid of embarrasing myself :)! Always be yourself! You are awesome! Good luck girlie!!

You might be nervous for many reasons. It could be that you don't know very much about the guy you are dating yet so you don't have a lot in common and that makes things awkward. Or it could be the complete opposite and you really like this guy and you don't want to mess things up with him. It could also be something alone the lines of he makes you nervous with his weird behavior. He could be rude or talk about inappropriate things. Maybe he makes crude jokes or doesn't treat you like a lady. Whatever the reason is you should really look into it and make sure you are investing in a relationship that is healthy for both you and your boyfriend.

You should try to evaluate what you feel about your boyfriend, and this will help you answer your question. Nervousness can arise from good feelings and bad ones. Maybe you are really into him and you haven't expressed it yet, in which case you shouldn't be worried about it. However, it can also be a result of you being insecure in the relationship, or not trusting him. If this is the case, you should really take some time out to reexamine the relationship. Does he judge you or make belittling remarks, or make you uncomfortable in any way? If that is the case, then the nervousness is a sign of an unsafe and toxic relationship.

You might be nervous because you are afraid of the possibility that showing any quirks of yours to this person that you so desire might cause him to flee. But I deeply believe that if he truly is the one for you.. he will accept you for what you are and if he doesn't accept initially, he would at least try to understand why you act a certain way. I encourage you to not be afraid of showing your true self to him. I wouldn't be wanting you to be walking in egg shells around him that would get so tiring in your end.. and him dating someone not real.

It might be that you are putting a high expectation on yourself to perform to an extent. Depending on whether it is your first relationship or not, you may be thinking about a lot of things and it shows in your physiology - being nervous. It helps to break that barrier by being open around him and understanding that he, like you, is a human being and it's likely that he is nervous too. Drink water and be as calm as possibly can be. But also - there might be a valid reason to your nervousness and never forget what your body tells you about someone, if there is a reason for that nervousness. The situation may be potentially dangerous or anxiety-inducing to you.

This could be for a number of reasons but only you can answer that question fully however; I would like to assume positively here and in my most recent experience, the cause of my nervousness with my (now husband) other half was because he gives me all the feels. Despite being friends for nearly 20 years before we started dating. He is really smart and knows a lot about of a lot things which could be intimidating at times and he is so darn cute it was hard not to be! It was never anything like he was arrogant or anything like that but I wanted him to be proud of me and not seem uneducated.