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How long does it take to get over someone?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2022 at 10:16pm
How long does it take to get over someone?
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MoaSnicket
December 16th, 2015 8:25pm
I can't answer in a specific amount of time. But it takes a few breakdowns, a little or a lot of crying and a few pints of ice-cream. Then, you will find yourself getting better.
StormyAngles18
December 17th, 2015 12:43am
It all depends on the person and how the person is on moving on and letting go of someone it can range from a few weeks to a few months to even years all depends on the person.
CuddlyOasis98
December 17th, 2015 2:28am
Its depends on you dear. Try and give time to yourself like enjoy some hobby or spend time with loved ones it may help you get over your ex.
ChitChatBug
December 18th, 2015 12:54am
Unfortunately it takes as long or as short as you allow it to. Sometimes to help get over someone quicker, getting closure can really point you in the right direction.
Jake0952838
December 18th, 2015 1:22am
It can take anywhere between days to years, and sometimes you may never get over someone. You just need to stay positive.
gentlemelon121
December 18th, 2015 5:40am
It depends, because it can take days, weeks, months, maybe even years. It depends on how much you loved that person and the impact that they took on you. Personal, i like a guy for over 4 years and I'm still not over him.
AbysmalMelon121
December 18th, 2015 5:44am
It depends, because it can take days, weeks, months, maybe even years. It depends on how much you loved that person and the impact that they took on you. Personal, i like a guy for over 4 years and I'm still not over him.
LovelyLinda72
December 18th, 2015 7:49pm
My personal experience is that you never really get over someone you have loved but with time you heal and learn to live without them. Usually it takes half the time you've known them to start moving on.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:17am
That depends on each individual, how long you were involved, how involved. Why don't you tell me what you are dealing with this evening?
Lyssaamariee
December 19th, 2015 4:57am
I think you will never officially get over someone. I think you just think of them less often and that you start focusing your mind on other things.
LovingAlaias
December 19th, 2015 6:54am
Everyone has their own time frame and it all depends on how much the person meant to you. Take it easy and everything will be fine
smeegles2015
December 19th, 2015 12:58pm
it takes as long as you and your mind and body and heart needs don't rush it take the time you need to heal
Heretohelp999
December 19th, 2015 7:41pm
Getting over someone is hard and its different for everyone, One time i was over somebody in a month and another time it felt like forever ! It really depends
BatWings89
December 20th, 2015 1:11am
That depends from many factors, everybody is different. What helps is to go out, met new people, find out what you like, rediscover yourself and treating yourself well.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 7:05am
Honestly i'm a very cold hearted person so I never got into someone in the first place.. but I guess time just goes by
Ryebunniearmy
December 20th, 2015 7:21am
it doesn't take a specific amount of time, every one feels differently and deals with their pain differently. some might feel better sooner rather than later or vise versa. don't rush it.
FoxInTheBox
December 21st, 2015 8:10am
From a couple weeks to forever - it's totally down to you and how much effort you put in. It's about a constant battle with your mind - the stronger you are, the easier it gets.
HelpInManyHands
December 23rd, 2015 10:17am
In my Opinion It takes as long as it takes, Love can hurt, There is no Set time of how long it takes
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:46pm
Breakups are rough and depending on how invested you were with the relationship then the time it takes to heal will vary.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 5:00pm
The question is really how soon do you want to. While it does hurt to have someone leave us, it's up to us to decide how soon we want to recover from it. The hardest part for people is accepting the situation whether that being the person left a relationship or has passed away. Acceptance is the first step and that means accepting how you feel and accepting that the situation has happened. So in essence, it's up to you.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 6:20pm
It takes a while, but it really depends on who the person is or how much that person meant to you.:)!!
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 3:51am
There isn't a timeframe for getting over someone. It takes how ever long the person needs. Whether it be days, weeks, months, years, and it should never worry you if it takes you longer than you expected. You're human.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 8:33am
In my personal experience it took me a year and a half to get over that first person that I truly had feelings for. It depends on how serious the relationship is. If it was for two years then ya it could take a good amount of time. If it was only a month then it may be a shorter amount.
originalLion57
December 25th, 2015 5:48pm
I can't really answer that, because that's very different from person to person. It depends on how much you really cared for that "someone" and who you are as a person too.
IBlueRubberBoots
December 25th, 2015 6:03pm
There is no definite time frame to 'get over someone', and I truly believe there never will. Some people can love the same person the rest of their life, while some cannot, what you can do is remind yourself that nothing is lost, that everything can teach us, and in time you can learn that nothing is infinite or finite.
enigmaticSunshine79
December 25th, 2015 7:33pm
If that person was very important then it's going to take a long time, you can do it tho. Life consists in meeting and loosing people.
SacredSimplicity1011
December 25th, 2015 8:45pm
My ex-boyfriend and I had liked each other for 8 months before we were officially together for a year and 6 months. He then decided to end the relationship because he fell for another girl. It took me 7 months to wholeheartedly get over him. I still love him but would never try to work on another relationship with him because of the magnitude of the pain he caused me. The amount of time it takes would depend on how much you love the person and how much of an impact they've made on your life.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 9:22pm
There's no definite answer to this because every one is different. Take your time. Don't rush it. You'll slowly realize you think about this someone.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 3:48pm
This varies from person to person. I believe it's possible to never get fully over someone. For me it's usually taken a few months to come to terms with something like that, but years to fully say "I'm okay now."
Greatlistener87
December 26th, 2015 3:55pm
It really depends on how long you have been with that someone and how attached you are with them. It can vary also depending on a persons individuality and how they cope.