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How long does it take to get over someone?

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Last Updated: 04/17/2021 at 9:03pm
How long does it take to get over someone?
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Anonymous
September 14th, 2015 2:58am
For me it took about a month to get completely over them. It was very hard but now that its done I know it was for the best.
glowingpeace18339
September 30th, 2015 5:46pm
It's different for everyone. Some, it takes only a few weeks. Some, it takes over a year. Some never get over some people. It's okay if you're taking time to get over a person, it's really hard to suddenly get over something, and it's even harder when it's a person
SleepingArrow
October 2nd, 2015 3:21pm
Everyone heals at their own pase. There are many different stages you will go thorough when dealing with a break up. You will learn and grow during that time period. Just focus on your self and you will be over it
Anonymous
October 7th, 2015 7:12am
It depends on you. If you are too sensitive then it might take some times. But my idea is it won't be taking years. That pain will remain only few months and then when time goes your pain also will fly away little by little.
L05TG005E
October 8th, 2015 8:36am
For some people it takes a while. I know it personally took me over a year to get over my breakup.
SadKindRedhead
October 19th, 2015 5:35pm
You will recover. Believe me! It may take months or even years. It may take another someone or another reason to be happy. It hurts, like hell, when you loved much. It can also pass quickly and you will realize that it was not as important as you thought. What matters is that you feel fine with yourself and that you trust that it will pass. It will!
Anonymous
October 20th, 2015 6:33pm
It takes awhile, but you will eventually move on in life. Remember, just one breakup doesn't mean that no one else likes you. You and your ex just didn't click or connect.
Anonymous
October 21st, 2015 5:07am
I think it all depends on the depth of your feelings. I was in love with someone who hasn't been in my life for a couple years now, and a small part of me is still not over them. But someday, you have to push yourself to move on, try new things, connect with new people and hopefully you won't be thinking about this person so much anymore.
AmariaRoseland
October 21st, 2015 6:46pm
It takes as long as your heart and mind needs. It could be a few days, or a few years. Just know you're loved by many others, not just the person you've broken up with.
fearlessPine5029
November 2nd, 2015 3:18am
it depends on how many times you've been together. . and how would you handle your feelings in accepting changes
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 6:16am
it depends sometimes it can take about a year or more depending on how deeply you were in love and if you find someone new it will take less time
bratgurl14
November 17th, 2015 6:45pm
well it depends because if you guys just went out and you guys broke up it could take a day or 2 but if you was dating for a year or more it would take about a year or more to get over them
tammyhopeisreal
November 21st, 2015 1:45am
Apparently half the length of the ex-relationship. It is definitely frustrating when you can't seem to get over your ex or things that happened in the relationship. Give yourself time to grieve over the death of the relationship, and remind yourself why the relationship ended. Time can only tell for this, but your thoughts are definitely a huge factor in this process.
TnT5102014
November 23rd, 2015 3:12am
Statistics say it takes the same length of time as how long you were being them. I think that's not true. It's so hard to get over someone that you really loved so much. But once you do you'll feel so great and wonderful why you spent so much time on them.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 2:05pm
There's not really a specific answer.I guess its based on how much you loved them. But you will get over them, One day you'll wake up and realize that you can go through life without them by your side. You were okay before they came, you'll be okay even if they're gone.
gentlePudding78
December 8th, 2015 2:43am
it depends on the person everyone has their own way of copping and learning to get over someone.
softMermaid10
December 12th, 2015 1:14pm
Everyone needs different length of time to get over someone. Don't fight your feelings, talk about your feelings, remember that moving on is the end goal and remind yourself that you still have a future. You'll eventually get over that person.
happyhearts5
December 12th, 2015 4:13pm
it depends upon how close we are to that person.the more close you are,the more time it takes to get over.and it even depends on how much you've trusted them.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 6:13pm
To get over someone it depends on how long your relationship was and how serious it was. If it was a serious relationship for a year then it eill probably take around 2 months to get over
julie0203
December 13th, 2015 12:56am
There is no set time that you will get over someone. For some people it may take longer, and for others it doesn't take much time at all...
veronicahaunani
December 13th, 2015 3:37am
Grieving length is individual and cannot be generalized into time amounts. The question that might be more interesting to look at is what can I do to effectively grieve my loss regardless of time investment.
lovepaige
December 13th, 2015 4:01am
I don't think there's a length of time to get over someone. It depends on the actions you take following a break up that will determine how long it will take for you.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 1:48pm
From personal experience I know it can take a very long time to get over someone. But everyone is different so it depends. Eventually even if you don't get over the person you will learn to live with it and things will get better.
LunaLove77
December 13th, 2015 11:06pm
it depends on the person. It honestly depends on how long you have been a part of someone's life. it can take weeks, months, years. There i not limit.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 11:09pm
Depends on how long you have known that person and the things you went through, having support helps
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 3:38am
Depends on how quick you notice how amazing you are on your own. Once you realize it, good things will flow towards you :)
Zeleu
December 16th, 2015 7:22am
I don't feel anyone every really gets over people they just learn to deal with the emotions they have for them and overcome their feeling of grief and find someone new.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 8:13am
Based on my experience, I feel it takes at least 6 months - 1 year to get over a serious relationship.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 9:35am
It takes 3 months at MOST for your mind to adapt to your new situation and become better for it. And this is for any situation good or bad.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 12:56pm
It takes as long as you make it. It's a hard process but not impossible with good people to back you up and provide the emotional foundation that is necessary.