How long does it take to get over someone?
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It all depends on you. You have to take baby steps. It depends on how long you were with that person, why it ended, and many more factors are involved.
It varies for everyone, but it's when you can see that person's facebook/snapchat/whatever and see that even if they're smiling without you, you only wish them the best. You have no unease in your heart, and you feel nothing but peace :) It'll come, even if it doesn't seem like it does now I promise.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 4:22am
There is No scientific answer to this question because it depends on who you are. for example if you were with someone for 5 years and it ended and you truly loved them it would take you months maybe years to get over them or you may never get over them. Then there is the players that are like damn i got dumped oh hey there is a hottie over there lets go score one. then there the people who only take awhile because they understand that the person is no longer loving them and wants to move on and they have accepted it.
It depends on who you are? It can take forever it seems like or only a few weeks. It varies from person to person
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 7:11am
The time it takes to get over someone is equivalent to the time they realize that they're okay without them, the time that they realize they're a beautiful person even if they don't have someone to tell them that everyday.
Loss is an important part of life. We will often feel grief when we lose someone to death or just in general, which will happen in life as people are ever-changing. When you ask how long does it take, I can't answer you. Some people may want to rush you, but its important to take as long as you need to grieve over someone. As everyone is different, it could be a long time or a number of weeks, depending. I hope this helps. :)
there is no specifique time to get over someone you simply try your best and hope that you'll forget about ur ex soon
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 12:27pm
There is no specific time of when you get over someone. It's really up to you. You have complete control over your emotions. You can try doing activities like reading, sports, hanging with friends, etc. To speed up the process of not thinking about it. Just stay strong and know that time helps heal.
As long as it takes to appreciate yourself, it's that simple! No one deserves to take away your joy and happiness, that's yours alone to cherish.
There is no appropriate time span. Everyone and every individual relationship is different. Although, the saying goes, "time heals all", it might not, it just becomes easier as time progresses to handle and deal with getting over a person. It could take from days, to months, and even years.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:46pm
Its different for everybody, some are quicker than others it just depends on you and how the relationship was.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 7:52pm
Based on personal experience if that person means a lot to you. Not forgetting the sweet memories 2 years
Getting over someone has no set time expectancy. It's important to remember to be patient with yourself as you may receive all types of advice from well-meaning friends and family as to how long it took them or what not and this most likely won't be the same for you because each person is an individual. It can take a long time in short but the amount of time varies greatly between each individual and each day (especially at first when you're not ready to get over the person yet) you will be taking strides on your own that don't seem like much but they are. It's also ok if you're not over someone after a short or extended period of time and you're recognizing that and taking time for self-care. Because as I've mentioned sometimes things take much longer than we expect with no end in sight.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 1:02am
How long would you need? that's pretty much depending on how attached you were to him/her
It may take a long time but you got to realize that its not you. I hope you understand that they aren't worth it.
There isn't exactly a straight-lined answer for this, as it really is different for everyone. It can take weeks, months, maybe even years, though it is possible to do so. Ways in which you could try to get over an ex include moving on with another person, blocking all contact with the ex, spending time with others, and sometimes even accepting that it's over can help with getting over them. It is a really difficult and painful process, one that I have experienced a few times and it doesn't necessarily get better with experience. But, time is a healer, and giving things time can really help in the long run. Again, it can take quite some time to fully get over someone (though it does differ for everyone) - only you know how long it'll take.
It really depends on how much you felt you loved them. It can range from days to weeks to years, and as long as you try hard to persevere through such times you'll be able to get over someone.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 7:48pm
It all depends on the person. It could take 6 months and it could also take a year just depending on the situation and personality of the people involved.
Scientifically speaking it tends to take about four months to get over someone. However it depends on each of us, because every person is different. Some people deal better with lost.
I think it really depends. A lot of times, people make a huge impact on our lives, and it can take a long time for that to heal over.
It could take up to months even years but the best way too speed up the process is to do other things with friends or family that do not remind you of them. Create new memories so those memories with him/her aren't the only things on your mind.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2020 4:28am
Coming from personal experience, its gonna take a while hun:) I know how all consuming love can feel and when it lasts for as long as mine did, it took time for me to get over him. youre going to feel like a part of you is empty for a second, and that is okay. better to grieve what you've lost and slowly, but surely move on, instead of ignoring your feelings and them coming back to haunt you later. it took me time to get over everything I felt for him, the good and the bad, but the sooner I realized how much he meant to me and accepted that he would always be a part of my life, I was able to come to terms with everything that had happened, and now im still getting there, but im okay:)
it depends on the person and the relationship. because we are all different the time is different. there is no instant fix and it must take it's course.
It depends on how you recover from it ...you should do it the right way and you will recover fast .
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 5:27pm
it honestly depends. On the length of the relationship, how intense the feelings were, etc. You WILL get over it eventually it just takes time to heal. Keep your head up and remember you're the main character, not them and you don't need them to be happy.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 11:23pm
How long is a piece of string? I read that it takes half the time of the length of the relationship to get over someone. Personally, we all move on in our own time and in our own way. Don't put pressure on yourself to move on quickly and likewise, don;t beat yourself up if you get over them straight away.
It really depends on how important they were to you. If you loved them for a longtime of course it will take a little while
It depends on when you decide to take a stand, and act apon the situation. It could take from a week, to a few months. It's all up to you
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 8:28am
it depends on a person. I happened to get over with several people in my life. approximately from 3 months upwards depending on the value they added in my life.
There's no good answer here. With me, I thought i was over them inside a few weeks and then over a year later I realised I hadn't dealt with my grief at the break up at all.
All I can suggest is take it as it comes. Some emotions will be hard but try to listen to them. Take time to see what you are feeling, where is it in your body, is it heavy, light, solid? Try to put a name to it - I am feeling sad and angry. Maybe even tell the story - I am feeling sad and angry because i have lost them and they meant everything to me.
It does get better, sometimes little by little, sometimes by leaps and bounds, but the time will come when you can look back with peace rather than pain. And it will probably be faster than you think.
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