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How long does it take to get over someone?

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How long does it take to get over someone?
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Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 9:47am
This answer carries for every person and every relationship. Some people can get over someone in a few days but for others it can take years. This can depend on the level of commitment was involved in the relationship and how the relationship was ended. No matter what the circumstances are breakups are always a really emotional and difficult thing to go through. Talking to someone about your experiences and the emotion you are feeling might help.
Alice2000
January 3rd, 2016 12:33pm
it depends if your ready or not to let go of what happened and just accept it was for the best. Of course time is part of it, but it's also how you take it.
chamomilewizard
January 6th, 2016 2:28am
It really varies. It depends on how much you cared for them, really--for some, it's weeks, maybe days. For others, it can even be years.
Lifeislearning
January 6th, 2016 6:17am
Well, its depends on person to person but the simply theory behind moving on is " faster you accept new things and changes.. Faster you will be move on from past.... So, involving in new things, developing new hobbies, trying new things and making new friends.. To start from the fresh end. More easily you will be able to move on... In starting people find it tough to accept new changes and hence take long time to move on.. But few are able to move on from past very quickly because they start changing themselves and try new things... New life... Thanks
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 4:13pm
It might take a long time or a short time. You're going to terribly miss the person but trust me you'll get over it one day. One day you will wake up as a fresh being ready for a new life. You will be able to put away the past behind and look forward to the future. Until then stay strong, learn to love yourself, realize your worth and try to surround yourself with positive vibes. You're not alone. Much love. x
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 5:41pm
The question is highly subjective and depends on you and your relation. How deep are you in the relation, how emotional are you, how sensitive to things are you. How hard are you really trying to get over someone.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 6:00pm
It depends on the person, situation, and environment. It can take years, it can take days. Having a healthy support system and working on a positive attitude can really help heal this recovery time- and don't be afraid to feel hurt from time to time.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 2:13am
It depends on what person it is for some it could take 2-3 weeks others it could take months or years.
BadgerTheHelpful
January 7th, 2016 7:24am
It depends on how close you were to the person or how !much you liked them, I'd it wasn't to much it won't be too soon, etc.
Daretoberare91
January 7th, 2016 8:12am
It can take a long time to get over someone, weeks, months, years even. But even when we think we have "gotten over" them the truth is that we have just accepted that our path with them has ended.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 8:32am
The internet says it takes one half the time you dated to get over someone. Though it does not account the varying degrees of love. If you truly loved someone you'll never completely get over them no matter how hard you try. The only way to win is to not let it swallow you whole and live your life to the fullest.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 2:22pm
There is no simple answer to this question. There are many things that are a factor,for example how long you have been together,what the reason for the break up was, what kind of a relationship it was, how much you loved each other. To get over someone takes the time it takes,all you can do is try to do things that you enjoy and that make you happy and once day you will notice that it doesn't hurt as much as it used to
musicalDew34
January 7th, 2016 7:30pm
Depend upon you...everything is in your hand if you want you can erase someone from your memory within a single day but i u dont want then u can never b able to forgt thm
courageleadstonewlife
January 8th, 2016 3:19am
There is no set time. There are too many factors, how long you were together, the depth of your feelings, etc. Getting over someone just takes time and if you are wanting to move forward and doing what you can to support yourself in moving forward, then the process will happen naturally.
pirateofmyship
January 8th, 2016 10:48pm
As long as it takes for our heart to heal and be able to love again. Sometimes it`s with a new love, sometimes we just find joy in other things in life that may be able to help us get over someone.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 5:25am
It just depends on the situation . if u actually have feelings after the break up .. You'll take a bit of time. But usually you feel sad and you're back with a big bang ❤ Stay strong
SmilingMeow
January 9th, 2016 10:53am
Depends on how strong you are and how the you feel about them if ts hate it will be easy if its lost will take some time to build up your mind and achieve strength
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 1:57pm
The average time is 3 months, but it depends on the person and the relation. Maybe it will need 2 years, maybe 1 month. The thing is, we always get over someone one day. It will happen when you'll be ready
AnthonyK
January 9th, 2016 3:10pm
Their is no measurement as to how long it takes. It all depends on the person you are and the person you were with, everyone reacts to break ups differently so take all the time in the world.
Catt3456
January 9th, 2016 10:01pm
I dont think there's an exact frame of time to get over someone, but i do think when situation are very recent its normal it hurts, and its normal you just want to get over it as soon as possible, but somehow you need to "mourn and grief" after break ups or divorce, cry if you need to, scream if you need to, but move on, there are a lot of places and new faces waiting to meet you!
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 10:11am
It depends how much have you been through with this person.Also it depends on how willing are you to get over this person.
hopefulJoy93
January 10th, 2016 9:02pm
Depends on how much you loved that person. It took me almost 2 years to get over my first love. I think that is the longest time of my life :) But I am confidently happy with the outcome. I am much more braver and stronger than I used to be.
Anonymous
January 11th, 2016 2:51pm
it takes some people quicker than others...but it depends on how intimate or how much u loved them. im still healing from someone i broke up with. and it has been 5 years. i have moved on but not emotionally.
chanelellierhea5
January 12th, 2016 2:46am
This is a tough question to answer, because everyone is different. It also depends on the situation and why the relationship ended. Who did the breaking up? Was it mutual? Did the relationship end on good or bad terms? How long was the relationship? All of these questions effect you and how long it will take you to get over someone. Everyone heals differently, it all depends on you.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 4:31am
For everyone it's different depending on the situation, in my experience you can never get over someone completely, you just move on and learn to deal with the pain better.
blissfulGrace86
January 13th, 2016 5:33pm
It depends on how you recover from it ...you should do it the right way and you will recover fast .
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 5:27pm
it honestly depends. On the length of the relationship, how intense the feelings were, etc. You WILL get over it eventually it just takes time to heal. Keep your head up and remember you're the main character, not them and you don't need them to be happy.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 11:23pm
How long is a piece of string? I read that it takes half the time of the length of the relationship to get over someone. Personally, we all move on in our own time and in our own way. Don't put pressure on yourself to move on quickly and likewise, don;t beat yourself up if you get over them straight away.
Soarfree
January 16th, 2016 7:40pm
It really depends on how important they were to you. If you loved them for a longtime of course it will take a little while
tranquilSunshine35
January 20th, 2016 7:08am
it depends on the person and the relationship. because we are all different the time is different. there is no instant fix and it must take it's course.