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October 16th, 2014 3:28pm
It takes a long time trust me, if you truly loved him or her from you heart. If I say about my personal experience, it took over years. Feelings don't walk away easily. You will be fine. They say you should stop doing things for someone when you find out that it’s expected rather than appreciated. People have limits you know? And limits break too easily. You cannot keep putting everyone else’s life ahead of yours and think that it counts as love. Maybe it does, a little. But you’re the one who’s gonna get hurt in the end. Stop letting people take you for granted. If someone makes you miserable more than they make you happy, then it really doesn’t matter how much you love them, you just need to let them go. I know it’s gonna be really hard for you, since letting go isn’t really your thing. I know it’s gonna take courage, it’s gonna take a hell lotta courage for you to let go and walk away, but so did sticking around. And you handled that pretty well, didn’t you?
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I believe that you will never truly get over someone. You will always have that part that holds on to them, once apart of your life, always apart of your life. You just have learn to let things go a little bit. "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If not, then it never was." If they end up not coming back to you, that's ok.
Relationships have a half-life decay process just like radioactive material. Each one has a different half life.
So if you are really into someone and the relationship ends, you'll feel bad for a while, then at some point you'll feel roughly half as bad, then after that same amount of time goes by again you'll feel half-again as bad, etc.
The emotion never completely goes away but after a while it becomes so minor you rarely think about the person and when you do the thoughts are distant and happy.
There is no certain time. It could take you one month, three months, a year, 6 years, or a lifetime to truly get over someone. You could possibly even always have feelings for the person. BUT you must remember WHY it didn't work out. Don't dwell on the past. Learn from why the relationship wrong in order to continue forward, and find the one it will work out with. Life is to short to dwell and be sad over one person .
You are a person who has feelings, who cared deeply, who experienced the closest thing mortals have to magic, and there is nothing more OK than acknowledging that and mourning it...Now I know you want a timeframe for how long it’ll be until you’re done pining, but the truth is that nobody — no psychologist, advice columnist, therapist, couples counselor or 20-something writer on the Internet ;)— can give that to you. It’s not that simple. So, eventually, the deep sadness you feel as a result of this breakup will become subdued, almost unnoticeable — until it starts popping up unexpectedly.
Be prepared for these unexpected moments, since you never know when exactly they’ll come. Maybe you watched a movie and there was a brief mention of his favorite sports team. Maybe a character in a book you’re reading shares his sister’s name. Maybe you’re wearing her favorite color today and you realize it halfway during lunch.
And boom: The sad arrives.
Have that go-to friend to vent to who won’t make you feel bad for “still” being upset. Keep your favorite snack stored in the back of your closet, ready to be eaten at a moment’s notice. Store your favorite wine in the fridge. Accumulate a playlist of funny YouTube videos to be watched when you need a gut-wrenching laugh.... Buy a really beautiful journal.... Never get to the bottom of your bank account because you never know if you have to splurge on a cute outfit in a moment’s notice.
Over time, these unanticipated sad moments will pop up less and less frequently. One day — however many days, weeks, months or years later — you’ll wake up and realize you haven’t had one in a while. But if another comes, don’t beat yourself up about it. Cry if you have to. let it out....You'll be better for it....
It all depends on you. If you continue to surround yourself in the past you will find yourself stuck in it. To get over someone you have to look toward the future and and search for something better. If you really want to get over someone you will get over someone. It's gonna hurt at first but just like any cut or scrape it will heal. I like to tell people its not the end of the world its the end of a bad day.
it just take a few seconds my friend if one understands the importance of his life and of his own self. You just need to ask yourself how long you want to suffer because of someone else. Don't make your life so cheap that anyone can alter its happiness. if you have once left someone then why you are keeping dat person in your head. Can't you abide your own decisions. Don't you have control of .ur own mind. And one must understand that in life people and things come and go. You can't keep everything n everyone in your life for all the time. Don't depend your happiness upon others. take control of your happiness. Don't suffer my friend. There is God inside you don't make him suffer. It is the eternal happiness which is inside us. Then why are you suffering?...just because of ur mind manipulation....u know dat things n people come in our life but they can't stay for whole life. And if you know it then you should understand it n when u understand it all your suffering will go. We are the eternal happiness...God in living form...this universe is our own creation....enjoy it without getting attached to it...things n people always come and go.
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September 22nd, 2014 7:56pm
14 days. It only takes 14 days to break a habit but it takes a little longer for a relationship. Its easy to say you don't care but how do you really feel inside
Its how fast you understand yourself after the breakup..how much efforts you take to socialize and spice up your live new adventures, skills, hobbies. Breaking up is always an opportunity to empower yourself, The faster you do that the faster you get over with your ex.
It is a very difficult question which is linked to a lot of the things from the relationship. Was it a long relationship? How close were you? Were you living together? In which way did you part? Nice or painful? I had a couple of one-night flings and they don't hurt much do they now? However when my girlfriend with who i was with 5 years under the same roof and planned to marry said to me she is moving to another country, i was devastated! For she was the blood and i was the veins... To answer your question, it depends of the depth of the bond you had with that one person. And sometimes it can take years. In my particular case, i will never get over my gf for i wanted to spend my life with her.
I wish I could say that there is a definite time, but there isn't. You will only get over someone if you accept that it is over. It happens with time but the time depends on how strong you are and how adaptable you are. It is just like another change that you have to go through in your day to day life. But it will be tough until you accept the facts and move on!
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November 9th, 2014 1:35am
It takes as long as you want it to take. You should always move in your own pace, even if it is hard. Though, keep in mind that you should never drown in your sorrows.
Well for me it took 1.5 years. But then I made a lot of mistakes. I understood one thing, that the moment you get up, the moment you say that I will get over someone, your change mechanism starts ,you start to EVOLVE, yes Adapt against what was keeping you down, and trust me from that point there is no return , you will only go higher and higher towards Life & Beauty & Eternity.
That all depends on the type of relationship, everyone is different and getting over someone will take different time.
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March 11th, 2015 3:10pm
Breakups are so personal and so variable cause there is no certain time. It could take a month,a year or a lifetime to truly get over someone. You could possibly even always have feelings for the person. BUT you must remember WHY it didn't work out. Don't dwell on the past. Learn from why the relationship wrong in order to continue forward, and find the one it will work out with. Life is to short to dwell and be sad over one person .
Sometimes we must undergo hardships, breakups, and narcissistic wounds, which shatter the flattering image that we had of ourselves, in order to discover two truths: that we are not who we thought we were; and that the loss of a cherished pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true happiness and well-being.
depends how long you were with them but it could take 3 weeks, a whole year or even your whole life just depends how close yous were and how long you were together for and how well you knew each other......
How long it takes to get over someone totally depends on the situation and also on you as a person. If you weren't that serious about the other person, you might find it pretty easy to get over someone quickly, but if the relationship was more important to you (or if you didn't want the relationship to end) it can take a really long time to get over. Hang in there and it gets easier with time!
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November 14th, 2014 3:42pm
In my own experience, getting over someone takes some months, maybe six months. This time is necessary to heal some injures caused by unhealthy relations. It's difficult because you give too much of you to someone you love.
The amount of time it takes to get over someone varies, but the most honest answer I can give is that it takes a person the same amount of time it takes them to realize that they don't need someone to make them feel as beautiful as they truly are. :3
that depends on a lot of different factors. things like how long you were with the person, how intimate you were. whether you feel you had closure or not, your self esteem and sense of self worth. sometimes it takes a long time but the truth is. no matter how long it takes it will constantly become easier to deal with. each day will be a tiny bit easier to take.
There is no solid answer. Depending on the relationship, how it went, and what kind of person you are, it could range from a month to never. As someone who doesn't get close to people too much, having someone that I care about or maybe even love means it will be a lasting feeling for me. If you are an open person who connects more easily with people and has good friends to help you along the way, getting over someone can be made easier. Generally the longer the relationship went on the longer it will take to get over that person.