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Can I be depressed and not know it?

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Can I be depressed and not know it?
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September 12th, 2014 1:37am
You can, if you feel ok, while you're busy, or surrounded by people, but then find yourself having destroying thoughts when you're alone, feeling sad for no apparent reason, crying yourself to sleep, not getting enough sleep, sleeping too much, not eating enough, eating too much. You don't need to be always sad to be depressed.
November 16th, 2014 12:48am
Short answer: Yes. Especially if you have been depressed for a very long time, or if you slid into depression gradually. I didn't realize how long I had been depressed until I started talking about my feelings and experiences with other people. Only then did I realize what parts of my life were not "normal" and had been affected by my depression. See, I was still able to do life - I passed my classes, I played sports, I was a "successful" person. However, I was struggling. I attributed my struggles to things I did (notably, self harm) and not to any diagnosable problem. I told myself I was "fine" and that I was "over dramatic" and I continually invalidated my own feelings to the extent that I truly believed the problem was my bad personality traits and not a mental illness. Only after many years when things deteriorated to the point that I eventually reached out to a psychiatrist to try medication. The psychiatrist gave me a diagnosis and I realized I had depression and anxiety. Because counselors (which I was seeing) don't diagnose people, I managed to not realize I was depressed or anxious in any diagnosable manner for years. So, yeah, you can most certainly be depressed and not aware of it. If you think you might be struggling with depression, it's best to talk to your GP, a psychiatrist, or a counselor. They will be able to help you figure out what is going on and how you can best get support and find resources to help you feel better and manage these difficult thoughts and emotions. I hope things get better for you soon!
November 19th, 2014 3:59am
For some people, depression's primary symptoms are actually physical. These can range from changes in appetite, sleep patterns, stomach aches, head or body aches, feeling run down or tired, and general malaise or pain. If you have physical issues like these that have been ongoing, make an appointment with your doctor and mention what's been happening; it is possible, though not extremely common, to have symptoms like these be the only manifestation of depression.
October 16th, 2014 7:10pm
It took me a year to finally understand I have depression. I didn't feel sad, but I felt angry. Look up symptoms of depression online. The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.
November 15th, 2014 5:27pm
Yeah that can easily be mistake,you could probably think you overly emotional but thats not the case
November 17th, 2014 1:55pm
Yes absolutely. Depression isn't always noticable or visible. Although it can be judged over a period of time or by others in some time. We may be happy but from within it might be hurting us unknowing. Its always good to keep track of us.
October 22nd, 2014 2:55am
Of course. Personally, looking back on myself there were many signs that I was depressed but no one ever noticed. When I still tiny I would ask my mom if I should still be alive since I didn't think I deserved to be. Even though I was always around people I had spouts of sadness and tried to isolate myself. As I grew older I grew more and more tired and isolated myself more and more. I thought I was just going through a phase. Even when I started cutting and had many suicidal thoughts I thought it was normal fo everyone to think of death and self-loathing every single day. No one ever told me what was what. You can be depressed but not aware of it, it's due to the stigma and lack of awareness.
October 24th, 2014 2:43pm
Some people just explain that they are just mostly tired or sad, when in fact, they are depressed. Being depressed usually means that you have very poor self image. But finding information online, or seeking professional help, you can find out if you really are depressed or not.
October 22nd, 2014 4:50pm
Sometimes we might not realize that we are depressed. Such as losing a football match to your brother. But it might affect your feelings for a loooong time! Something sad happened to me when I was 12 but I never realized that it was depression!
November 6th, 2014 5:39am
Absolutely. Depression doesn't present the same for everyone. It is typically described as "sadness", but depression it self can either be secondary to other conditions, or, exist on its own with symptoms such as the loss in enjoyment of actives you once enjoyed, extreme tiredness, or simply lack of feelings at all. I personally have experienced all of these things and it pretty much took swallowing my pride to admit to myself that I was most definitely depressed.
November 8th, 2014 3:03pm
Yes, it is very possible to be unaware you are depressed. That emotion could become your "status quo", so to speak, and just become "normal" for you.
September 15th, 2014 1:32am
Yes, you can be depressed without a doctor even finding out about it. It is hard but sometimes come out of it
September 24th, 2014 6:30pm
When I was in the hospital there were a lot of people who just decided that they were depressed. They thought "I'm sad, I must be depressed." And of course, they took the antidepressants and they felt better...but then there were the kids that came in and the psychiatrist would talk with them and they discovered that they were depressed. Like they had no idea, they never even thought that depression was a possibility because they always 'felt so happy,' as they said. Like, it just really depends on the person. Depression can strike in anyone, and a big percentage of us will suffer from it at some point.
October 30th, 2014 2:58am
When you think about how you feel.... yes you can. If you are so mindful that you choose not to buy into your emotions, you may not be very aware of them. Just like pain.. if you are focused on something else you forget you even have pain. Bipolar is a good example.. people need this skill as sometimes emotions can be chemically driven ie an imbalance in the brain. If they buy into their emotions all the time, then life gets really rocky. If they decide to ignore their emotions and live their life they way they want, then certainly they can lose awareness. Sometimes people can be mildly depressed and not really aware. This happens when people do not know the symptoms of depression. There are many rating scales around.. the Kessler K10 is a short scale you can use to see if you are possibly depressed. If you are worried, its a good idea to talk to a mental health specialist about it.
November 2nd, 2015 8:18pm
I'm sure that's possible. Sometimes, at least in my case, I can almost trick myself into believing I'm happy when I'm really very troubled. I smile and go about my day and sometimes forget that it's a persona that I'm putting on. So yes, I do believe one can be depressed and not realize it.
February 14th, 2017 2:13am
Certainly! Depression is a double-edged sword that way: it barks at us and beats us down so much, and for so long, and often in such subtle ways, that we may not even realize we have been resigned to it for years. Additionally, because of society's stigma that people with depression are weak, flawed, different, or defective, we may not want to admit to ourselves that we are depressed, because naturally we want to be brilliant, beautiful people, not broken pieces. But it is possible to be a brilliant, self-sufficient, strong person - and have depression! The two are not mutually exclusive. As soon as we realize we can be amazing and still have depression, it becomes easier to see the signs of depression within ourselves. The more honest we are with ourselves, the easier everything in our lives becomes. The first step to managing our depression is acknowledging that it is hiding there. Go you!
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November 14th, 2014 12:17pm
Most symptoms of depression can be brushed off with excuses which makes it harder to differentiate between depression and just having a moment - educate yourself about the symptoms and be aware of your emotions - I know that it took me 2 years before I realized I had depression, and it took longer to realize the severity of it, but make sure to never falsely diagnose yourself, talk to a professional
December 13th, 2015 6:56pm
It always amazes me how long it took me to figure out I was depressed...Statistically, between 8% and 12% of us will experience a period of depression before the year is out, according to the Office for National Statistics. But many will never be diagnosed. Despite increased awareness of mental health issues, people can live with a range of symptoms without ever realising they are depressed – Keep an Eye out for the usual suspects like low moods, constant tiredness, poor appetite and inability to concentrate in general..In addition, if you’re depressed you may simply be less motivated. “You know everything ends in failure, so there’s no point..We might just mistake all that as a phase or a bad days..However it is quite possible to not realise we're depressed and more often than not it's because we are reluctant to accept it...
January 17th, 2016 8:05pm
Yes, sometimes it take people years to realize, and sometimes people may not want to admit they are. There is nothing wrong with being depressed, as it is a real mental illness.
September 15th, 2014 5:32pm
Yes. It actually happens a lot. People are not always in touch with their moods and emotions. Sometimes you can be depressed but feel like nothing is different.
October 31st, 2014 3:18pm
That's a hard one. Your body will show some symptoms of being depressed. But it's you who decides to react on it or not.
November 1st, 2014 5:50pm
You actually can! Most people that are in a very deep and serious stage of depression will not recognize it until they survive or overcome their depression. It creeps up on you and starts slow but can eventually turn into something ugly. When you realize you might be at risk of depression, it's easier to accept and therefore change.
November 7th, 2014 2:20pm
Yes. Sometimes you don't even recognize that you're not okay, and sometimes you just don't address the problem because it can be new, and foreign and it's not something you would like to feel.
November 7th, 2014 9:21pm
Yes you can, sometimes we feel diferent, sad and we don't really think we are depressed we just think is a bad time...but sometimes it is depression, maybe the best is to talk about it with a counselor :)
November 19th, 2014 6:03pm
It is very common to be depressed and not be aware of this and it is usually those closest to you that may have to point out this fact and support you in getting help.
June 10th, 2015 10:04am
Yes. Sometimes it helps to go to a professional to make sure, but it is also important to assess your emotions every now and then.
January 24th, 2016 10:36pm
Yes. Everyone has different variations of depression and yours compared to someone else's may be different. Seek a professional.
January 25th, 2016 4:06am
You can but it's unlikely. Most people would notice something about their behaviour changed. If you are unsure, go to a doctor.
February 11th, 2016 9:25pm
Yes. I had clinical depression for at least 20 years before I realized something was actually wrong. Mostly I was in denial because of the stigma of mental illness and because I didn't understand the symptoms. It's hard to tell when your mind is tricking you into believing things that aren't true, and that you might not be seeing the world in a lucid way.
March 28th, 2017 1:29pm
Well yeah initially most of us are in denial of our situation, we think its a temporary phase and we start associating the emptiness that looms over us upon being depressed with sadness or anxiety. We cry for no reason and end up feeling bad about ourselves. We find it hard to win the battle against our own demons, every night and the next morning we wake up with nothing to look forward to. This is my personal experience, I'm sure its different for everyone, which is why talking and pouring your heart out to someone you trust helps. Half the battle is won once we accept our situation and resolve to do something about it.