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I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?

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I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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August 14th, 2015 12:47pm
Well this can be pretty tricky. On one hand your ex is an ex for a reason. On the other hand since this relationship is in the past, a good way would be to move on. Get all those feelings sorted or buried or wished away and move on. In the process try art therapy or theatre or music or travel to get over your ex. And give it time. If all of this still doesn't work see if you can get back with your ex. Feeling this way is natural, because feelings and emotions are not something that can be switched on and off like a light bulb. It takes time to get over a person. Be patient and kind with yourself.
August 15th, 2015 4:14am
There is nothing wrong with what you feel. We are all allowed to take our time as we heal. You dont need to feel bad about it.
August 16th, 2015 11:15am
It's normal to still love but ex but don't let ur feeling lead u into doing something stupid. Its ok
September 22nd, 2015 10:15pm
it is completely normal ,we dont have turn on or turn offs switches ,do we?well it is just a part of you and you will one day conquer lol
December 12th, 2015 9:55am
You should if there is still a lingering between you and your ex. I don't see it as something wrong if you still have feelings for the past lover. Everyone have that kind of feeling once in a while, the lingering feeling, the regret that it's over relationship. Falling out of love will take time, and that's okay. If you didn't stop loving your ex as soon as you broke up, that's okay too, but just remember not to make your ex feeling uncomfortable and you will be able to move on someday although not today and when that time comes you would be seeing you loving your ex as something silly. And that's okay, that's love. So yes, you should feel the way you want to feel if you really feel it that way
December 12th, 2015 10:16am
it depends on him if he's a good guy it's ok if he's nit a good guy and you know that he would hurt you again you shouldn't feel that way
December 12th, 2015 6:18pm
How long is it after the break up? 2 months? Then yes maybe you still do and that's okay because it's the process of getting over him.
December 12th, 2015 7:15pm
Well it is I think, you just need more time to get over her/him. Time heals everything, and give it a time. It will get better. Until that work on yourself and show him/her that he/she missed an amazing person. ๐Ÿ’œ
December 12th, 2015 7:23pm
Never. Psychologically Be calm in Post Breakup stage of ur life. Enable acceptance and minimize psychic wreckage, so that the pain of the ending doesnโ€™t overwhelm the positive trace of the relationship.
December 13th, 2015 4:07am
It's perfectly natural to still love your ex, considering you were once a part of each other's life's.
December 13th, 2015 4:14am
Think on why you're no longer with them. If there was a real problem, remind yourself its not worth it.
December 13th, 2015 6:31am
Yeah its natutal to still love someone u either just broke up with or broke up with ages ago. If you syill jave feeling for them tell them soo that they know u still live them. For all you know they could still love you ๐Ÿ˜Š
December 13th, 2015 8:39am
There's nothing wrong with feeling this way. It's hard getting over someone you're so emotionally attached to. Also, there's no point trying to get over it cause it'll only make you want it more. time heals and the best you can do is just let time do its thing yeah? hang in there :)
December 13th, 2015 1:49pm
It is normal to still love you ex. I know from experience that when your are in a relationship you get really attached to someone and you love them with all your heart. So when you break up with them it's normal to still love them.
December 13th, 2015 6:06pm
It totally depends on why you guys broke up on the first place. But if really needed to be this way then maybe you should try doing anything to get over him/her.
December 13th, 2015 7:37pm
Everyone goes through a grieving period. I still was head over heels in love with my ex after I broke it off... But that was only because I remembered the good parts, the parts when we actually had fun. If you look at the reason why you broke up... maybe you won't feel the same. Or maybe you will. Healing takes time. I wish you the best of luck
December 13th, 2015 7:52pm
Feelings and emotions are two concepts which are out of our control. We can't chose when to feel a certain way and when not to. Break ups don't mean the feelings you had for your ex will disappear over night unfortunately, so it's very normal to feel the way you do right now. It can be really tough feeling like that but don't worry, it's something you can work on! The best thing to do in this situation is surround yourself with happy people and keep busy to keep your mind distracted. Eventually the feelings will get easier to deal with it just takes times (and good company!) you've got this!
December 14th, 2015 1:40am
Yes of course, this is normal. Love is a strange thing, but you shouldn't feel like it is wrong, because it absolutely is not.
December 16th, 2015 4:01am
It takes time to get over an ex, specially if your feelings for them were true. It is completely normal to still have feelings for them.
December 16th, 2015 5:15am
It's not a matter of should! You're allowed to feel however you do. Just remember to take steps towards self happiness.
December 16th, 2015 8:16am
It's not uncommon to have feelings for an ex. Time is the best help and eventually you won't ever think of them.
December 16th, 2015 1:15pm
Its okay if you still have feelings for you ex if you broke up recently. You need to acknolwedge the breakup and start moving forward. Slowly this feelings will fade with time. Just give yourself some time
December 16th, 2015 3:17pm
It's natural to feel like that. Feelings will pass and fade away over time. My advice? Try to focus on something/someone else, it will be hard at first but gradually it will get easier and easier
December 16th, 2015 5:08pm
Love is a long journey to both experience and get over. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Every emotion you feel, you have every right to feel and nobody can tell you otherwise. Time will heal all pain.
December 16th, 2015 7:57pm
Yes, of there's love it can never be faded at the corner of your heart you're somewhere bound by his/her thoughts in mind
December 16th, 2015 9:32pm
I'm not sure if you "should" feel this way, but I do think it's important to recognize that it's understandable why you feel this way. You and your ex probably had some really great times together, and they are familiar and comfortable. You can't let yourself reminisce too much and forget why you broke up though. You guys didn't break up for no reason.
December 16th, 2015 10:01pm
Long lasting feelings for an ex loved ones are completely normal: specially,in terms of long term relationships. Nevertheless, one should be aware that a great deal of those feelings are frequently associated with the good memories and shouldn't be confused.
December 16th, 2015 10:35pm
You'll always love your ex! you had a history together.. but your ex is your ex for a reason.. But maybe if he/she feels the same.. You can work things out together
December 16th, 2015 11:46pm
you have every right to feel this way. It may be difficult but you cant control your feelings.
December 17th, 2015 4:44am
Yeah its natural to feel this way because you were emotionally attached to that person. Its okay you'll get over him/her eventually