I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 10:10pm
one cant just simply just forget about a person they really cared about in the blink of an eye everything takes time just be patient
Whether or not you "should" feel something is not nearly as important as acknowledging and accepting however it is you do feel. All sorts of emotions can occur after a breakup and all of them are normal and valid things to feel, however scary or "wrong" they may seem. If you are in distress, there are certainly steps you can take to manage your emotions, but learning to let go of self-judgment is the first step in this process.
Leaving someone that we used to love and being in the present without him may give a change to the live. But, there must be a reason why you left, or why the 'breaking up' must happen in the past. Love is a feeling, and if you still feel it to your ex it's probably normal. The one thing you may have to consider, is it 'you still love' or you just miss him and the moments you had in the past?
Anonymous
August 13th, 2015 12:22am
It's natural but it's best to move on with you life as you have so much to live for because you are you at the end of the day!
Sometime it take different people longer to let go of people so it wil take you time to get over that person
There's no set list of rules for how you should or shouldn't feel after a breakup. It's very common for feelings for exes to persist over time. The history you had with them doesn't disappear just because you broke up.
Whether these feelings are healthy depends a lot on the circumstances surrounding your relationship and the breakup. If at any point you feel like you want to harm yourself or that these emotions are too much for you to handle, you should reach out to a mental health professional or, if this isn't an option, to a support group.
If you can your ex just broke up you may still have feelings for them everyone gets over an ex differently. Some people take longer to "heal" after a breakup.
There is nothing wrong with loving someone that is not part of our daily life..love is a natural feeling and beats hate anytime . We hold love for loved ones that passed away and still that makes sense..... As for being in love with your ex that is fine and if you can work things out and improve the quality of your relationship based on your previous experience even better. Yet if you can't then keep that loving feeling but don't put your life on hold someone out there is probably in need of sharing their love and caring with some one else ...meet new people , try new things and enjoy life
Well this can be pretty tricky. On one hand your ex is an ex for a reason. On the other hand since this relationship is in the past, a good way would be to move on. Get all those feelings sorted or buried or wished away and move on. In the process try art therapy or theatre or music or travel to get over your ex. And give it time. If all of this still doesn't work see if you can get back with your ex. Feeling this way is natural, because feelings and emotions are not something that can be switched on and off like a light bulb. It takes time to get over a person. Be patient and kind with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with what you feel. We are all allowed to take our time as we heal. You dont need to feel bad about it.
It's normal to still love but ex but don't let ur feeling lead u into doing something stupid. Its ok
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2015 10:15pm
it is completely normal ,we dont have turn on or turn offs switches ,do we?well it is just a part of you and you will one day conquer lol
You should if there is still a lingering between you and your ex. I don't see it as something wrong if you still have feelings for the past lover. Everyone have that kind of feeling once in a while, the lingering feeling, the regret that it's over relationship. Falling out of love will take time, and that's okay. If you didn't stop loving your ex as soon as you broke up, that's okay too, but just remember not to make your ex feeling uncomfortable and you will be able to move on someday although not today and when that time comes you would be seeing you loving your ex as something silly. And that's okay, that's love. So yes, you should feel the way you want to feel if you really feel it that way
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 10:16am
it depends on him if he's a good guy it's ok if he's nit a good guy and you know that he would hurt you again you shouldn't feel that way
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 6:18pm
How long is it after the break up? 2 months? Then yes maybe you still do and that's okay because it's the process of getting over him.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 7:15pm
Well it is I think, you just need more time to get over her/him. Time heals everything, and give it a time. It will get better. Until that work on yourself and show him/her that he/she missed an amazing person. 💜
Never.
Psychologically Be calm in Post Breakup stage of ur life.
Enable acceptance and minimize psychic wreckage, so that the pain of the ending doesn’t
overwhelm the positive trace of the relationship.
It's perfectly natural to still love your ex, considering you were once a part of each other's life's.
Think on why you're no longer with them. If there was a real problem, remind yourself its not worth it.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 6:31am
Yeah its natutal to still love someone u either just broke up with or broke up with ages ago. If you syill jave feeling for them tell them soo that they know u still live them. For all you know they could still love you 😊
There's nothing wrong with feeling this way. It's hard getting over someone you're so emotionally attached to. Also, there's no point trying to get over it cause it'll only make you want it more. time heals and the best you can do is just let time do its thing yeah? hang in there :)
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 1:49pm
It is normal to still love you ex. I know from experience that when your are in a relationship you get really attached to someone and you love them with all your heart. So when you break up with them it's normal to still love them.
It totally depends on why you guys broke up on the first place. But if really needed to be this way then maybe you should try doing anything to get over him/her.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 7:37pm
Everyone goes through a grieving period. I still was head over heels in love with my ex after I broke it off... But that was only because I remembered the good parts, the parts when we actually had fun. If you look at the reason why you broke up... maybe you won't feel the same. Or maybe you will. Healing takes time. I wish you the best of luck
Feelings and emotions are two concepts which are out of our control. We can't chose when to feel a certain way and when not to. Break ups don't mean the feelings you had for your ex will disappear over night unfortunately, so it's very normal to feel the way you do right now. It can be really tough feeling like that but don't worry, it's something you can work on! The best thing to do in this situation is surround yourself with happy people and keep busy to keep your mind distracted. Eventually the feelings will get easier to deal with it just takes times (and good company!) you've got this!
Yes of course, this is normal. Love is a strange thing, but you shouldn't feel like it is wrong, because it absolutely is not.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 4:01am
It takes time to get over an ex, specially if your feelings for them were true. It is completely normal to still have feelings for them.
It's not a matter of should! You're allowed to feel however you do. Just remember to take steps towards self happiness.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 8:16am
It's not uncommon to have feelings for an ex. Time is the best help and eventually you won't ever think of them.
Its okay if you still have feelings for you ex if you broke up recently. You need to acknolwedge the breakup and start moving forward. Slowly this feelings will fade with time. Just give yourself some time
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