I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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It takes a while to get over an ex sometimes. It's normal to still have feelings for a while. Do your best not to dwell on them or wallow in sadness, though. I know that's easier said than done. Some people don't like platitudes but this one is appropriate: Pain eases over time.
Sure! All feelings, regardless of how out-of-place they may seem, are valid and real to the individual feeling them. After the closing of a relationship, the residual feelings still exist. It takes time, and a lot of self-evaluation, to begin to truly gain closure on those emotions.
love and commitment are two different things. one can love someone but may not be in a relationship with them. love is a natural thing, relationships a re man made.
now if you should feel this way or not! Unrequited love is painful. if you dont getting together in the future, this can take a toll on you. so try to convert it into platonic love if possible and then day by day try to get over him. it can be real tough but i know you can do it, if that's what you want.
It's normal to feel this way. I have been in the same boat as you but I went back and now we don't talk or anything so I moved on.
It is completely normal to feel this way. Feelings are natural and take time to get through. Allow yourself the time to think things over. It will be beneficial to you.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 2:24pm
It is ok to still love your ex. I mean you were a couple at one time, who cared for each other. Feelings don't just vanish from one day to the other. Give yourself time and meet other people. You will get over him/her someday.
Yes. It's normal to feel like that.
It is normal to still have feelings for your ex, this only goes to show that your feelings for them were genuine. Sometimes the both of them have genuine feelings but it doesnot work out between the two for a lot reasons. It is totally upto the you if want to give your ex and yourself another chance but give yourself some time and space to understand the reason why you wanted to breakup in the first place. Time and space will let you analyze the reasons and situation that led your breakup and how to work it out if you want to get back together or not.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 8:50am
Love is just an eternal feeling there is nothing wrong to fell but it's wrong to implore our love on others
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 12:48pm
it is natural to feel that way , that you miss your ex . But know in the first place why you broke up with him/her
It's normal. You loved them, you were commited to them. And if things ended on good terms, then you are just a little stuck on them.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2015 1:44am
It can take a while for people to get over and forget their ex. So I'd say that it is normal to feel that way, as passes those feelings are going to disappear.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2015 4:38am
We don't always know the right way to feel. There probably is no "correct" way to feel in a situation this sensitive. We should embrace our feelings instead of questioning them.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2015 10:30am
Its totally normal to feel this way, many people actually do! Just keep in mind that they're your ex for a reason
As a person you are an individual. Who is to say what you should and shouldn't feel. You are an individual and like everything else about you your feelings will change in their own time and at their own speed.
Having feelings for an ex is common. From my personal experience, with time and distance, those feelings begin to fade away.
It is totally normal that you can feel this way, to love your ex. But sometimes it's for the best to try let him/her go sadly, no matter how hard it might be. My advice would be to try find an distraction eventho it will be hard sadly.
Having feelings for an ex is a really normal thing. Losing a love one or something that we loved can be really hard at times but sooner or later you'll get over it.
It's normal to feel this way sometimes, and you shouldn't feel ashamed about it. You can still have love for someone you were close with. If the relationship was meant to end, keep it that way.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 7:54pm
Love is never a bad thing to feel and my ex is a part of my life once. For me, I will let that love stay until my heart is ready to let go and I'm not going to rush it because the time will eventually comes.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 9:45pm
Of course. you're going to feel that way for awhile. but what u nneed to do is do something to get your mind off your crush or move on to someone else
It's okai not to be over your ex right away. Only you knows best whether or not there is still a chance to get them back. If there is a chance, go for it. If not, take your time to move on and focus on your self development
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 1:51pm
it is okay to feel that you still love your ex . it is not an easy thing to get over a person you really loved over a long period if time . try to keep yourself busy , it might eventually fade away
They're your feelings and you're allowed to feel them! The more important part is to monitor how you act on those feelings. Take some time to analyze why the relationship ended and where it stands now.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 1:07am
It's okay to still have feelings for someone you previously dated, but it's important to remember that you can't live in the past.
Breaking up is a hard process. To me, it took a while before I was over my exes. What you can do best is that you take the time for yourself, don't let others rush your process of getting over your ex, take all the time you need ;)
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 4:01pm
It is normal as you love him truly and there is nothing wrong in being trurthful. In case its crippling you then you should find a way to get rid of it.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 2:25am
It's normal to still have feelings for someone after a relationship. No one magically rids of feelings when the relationship ends, it takes time and with time comes acceptance.
It's normal to still have feelings. Just remember why you broke up in the first place. It's never easy to get over a person you cared for. But learning from those problems to put into a new relationship can make you a better person.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 11:25am
It's completely normal to still have feelings for somebody after the end of a relationship. They don't disappear just like that. It takes some time and it can be a painful process, but in the end, you will have learned a lot about yourself and you will have grown as a person.
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