How do I stop being judgemental?

Being judgemental can be challenging because it cannot allow people to love you for your person, but for the thoughts and criticism you have of others. You also have a hard time focusing on yourself because you focus more on others and how they live their lives, because of this you are automatically you are making less progress on yourself and not working on your own flaws and your own feelings and emotions as much as you could. Because this is what we are supposed to do, we are supposed to advance, evolve, learn more about ourselves as human beings. To stop being judgemental you have to start recenter your perspective more on yourself and your own life, learn to be and have a more positive outlook on people and life. It isn't judgemental if you train your brain to only have good and friendly thoughts about others. Become more altruistic instead of judgemental, realize we are never perfect to mother earth, we are born and brought up equally as human beings as much as we have our differences physically, financially, socially. You have to learn to look beyond that, to find peace with yourself and your own person and what you want to become and how you want to live and find happiness in your life, in order to do that you'll automatically want to have less judgement on others because your judgement is taking energy from you subconciously and it can make you feel very negative depending on the situations. So start living for yourself, do you just like everyone else does themselves, there isn't a particular way one should do anything. Simplify all your thoughts and try to just focus on yourself and live life fully! =)

The best way is to not say anything that is not nice. The whole do unto others as you want done to you. So don't say anything to anyone else that you might find hurtful or offensive.

If you just think of how it would affect other people, it is easy to realize how harmful it can be, and you don’t want to be the one to put someone in a situation that would make them uncomfortable

imagine how you feel being judged by other people and try to not do it to others but its would make them feel how you would feel

The best way I have found to not be judgemental is putting yourself in someone else's shoes! Imagine how it would feel to be them, how it would feel to be judged for whatever the situation may be!

I will not base your character on what you’ve done, your regrets and how you manage yourself as a human being.

By putting yourself into their shoes. Think what if you were in their place. It would help you understand their situation better.

Well, if you are wondering how to stop being judgmental, that is half the job done already: you seem aware of it and determined to change. Not that much can be said of many people on the planet… Second, it may help to know that being human, you do need to “assess”, constantly, that is what the brain does, we assess and recalibrate all the time, to adapt to our environment, to new problems, to figure out if people, things are safe, and the thing is that assessing and judging can sort of …blend accidentally. And before you know it, you passed judgment It can help thinking: ok, I have passed a “judgement” on A or B, how does it help me? does it close doors or open them? do I need them closed or open? and wonder how the assessment/judgment you passed helps you deep down or not. Third, one thing that greatly helped me to stop being judgmental was to turn an assessment I had just made on its head: say for example, I saw someone who was grumpy on the road, and I think “oh, what a miserable so and so”, then I think, ok, let’s say that I got the wrong end of the stick, that the truth is, actually, this grumpy person is the sweetest person alive, what could make him/her grumpy with me like that? then I come up with reasons that are possible: their knee has been hurting for three days and they haven’t slept. …or, a difficult relative is coming to town and the weekend will be exhausting, or… their best friend is in hospital and they are worried sick and in a hurry to see them. If I can’t dismiss any of those possible reasons as not plausible, it calms me down. And fourth… you could volunteer as a listener here! the aim of all listeners is to completely remove judgment from their approach, and you’d be surprised, first that it is a conscious effort often, you’d be surprised what a relief it brings to the listener to remove judgement, when you can empathise with someone anonymously, because your task is not not judge. We all learn to be less and less judgemental, it is a life task, and every step you take towards it feels like a liberation. Then for the groups or people you find really hard not to judge, well, it may come as a relief to know that it is a skill, not something you are born with, and it takes some hard work sometimes. I struggle especially with not judging certain… political figures in my country, and try to think they must have really lost their way big time. So i stop judging them (not easy, i grant you!), but assess their actions and how it affects people instead. In any case, you are half way there! keep going!

Learn to accept others how they are. Everybody is unique and no one is perfect. Sometimes it takes a bit to realize That, but once you do, you'll find that everybody should be treated equal while still containing their own qualities!

by accepting and understanding that everyone you meet is different, and loving the person for who they are.

Well I think you should understand the person first before judging them , put yourself in their shoes for a second.

The best course of action would be to breathe, count to 10, then put yourself in the person’s shoes. Usually, when people say that, what they mean is to let yourself imagine you being that person. To imagine what they feel about themselves everyday. To imagine how they feel when they are judged likely based on something they can’t changed. Or are judged because of how they are. Just how would you feel in their shoes?

Think about what would you do if you lived their lives,put yourself in their shoes and just know that there are so many things you don’t know about the person you’re judging

That is something that will take practice. Do you feel that being judgemental has affected you negatively?

I try to see things from the person's perspectives and understand their feelings and needs behind their acts/words.

By simply just putting yourself in their shoes and seeing how it would feel being like them. Sometimes you will realize how people see things in this world

Remember that you would not like to be judged. I struggled with being judgemental for a while. before I realized that it is unfair to judge someone you know nothing about. Next time you judge someone, remind yourself that it isn't fair to the person on the receiving end.

Consider that everyone is different in their own way. Think hard about how you feel when somebody judges you, or even when you think someone is. Put yourself in the persons shoes.

Surround yourself with people from different backgrounds to avoid being judgemental. talk to someone with an open mind.

It's a human nature for us to be judgemental yes sometimes it isn't the the best for anyone involved but there's not a lot you can do

Understand that everyone is different, and just because something is different from 'your way', that doesn't make it wrong.

To have opinions, thoughts and preconceptions about people is human nature - your schemas that your previous direction or media based experience will make an assumption whether you consciously intend to or not. But what you need to do it imagine people complexly, and not take your existing template as the truth. Be optimistic, get to know people and show them the same kindness that you hope people would show you.

There is something called the fundamental attribution error (FAE) which says that people in general interpret behavior as due to personality or other internal factors more so than external factors like situation. So a person does something, like yells at a waiter. You can either attribute that to internal factors (the person is rude, the person is not nice, etc) or external factors (maybe the person had a bad day, maybe they got no sleep and is stressed, etc). We have a tendency to assume the first rather than the second. But often time, there are external factors too. So, think about that before you judge someone.

Empathy, If you are feeling emotional and judging because of that slowdown, and take a breather. Then try and see things from their side. They are a person just like you except their experiences are different. If you think about what they have seen compared to what you have seen you will be able to understand them. This is the first step into not being judgemental but probably the most important.

I've always heard you are not accountable for the first thought that pops into your head, but the second is what you choose to think. Try stopping and thinking about other's situations before judging them.

Every day, compliment somebody on something. Even if it is outrageous or silly. It will help open yourself up to people.

It is HARD to not be judgemental in general. I mean, we are all humans and inherently judgemental by nature. But it does help to keep an objective mindset before jumping the gun and assuming anything about a situation or a person, etc. It helps to keep an open mind because in reality you have no idea if these judgements will affect the person. I will go as far as to reference telltale games and confirm to you all that "silence is a valid option" indeed.

Be able to express empathy to people beyond your immediate family/close friends. There's a word to keep in mind that may help. "sonder n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk." Everyone has their own problems that they hide from the world, but it's difficult to use that idea in real life situations to try to understand people. It takes practice like anything else.

This question is a little bit hard because as human being its out tendency to judge. But to stop being judgemental you have to try to step into the shoes or let's say imagine yourself in their situation to have a better understanding of what they are going through. Those shoes may not for you though.

I don't think there's a way to stop judging people... However, there is a righteous way to judge people rather than to just judge someone. A righteous way to judge someone would be to look at their good works and positive side rather than to look at the deficiencies that a person has. As a wise man once said "all those who look for the beauty of a rose, shall surely find it. But those who look at the imperfections thereof will surely point out the thorns."