How do I stop being judgemental?

Taking a step back and putting yourself in the other person’s shoes might be a start for you. You can then have a better understanding of why they are acting or doing things in ways that are foreign to you. Having an understanding also helps you to move forward and accept things that you wouldn’t normally understand. Think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you were being judged constantly by a variety of people. At the end of the day, only you know all the circumstances regarding your life. Before you engage with someone remember that it is difficult to give sound advice if you do not have all the facts.

Being completely non-judgmental for me is difficult because I can find myself judging unconsciously. Only by bringing it to the forefront of my mind do I even realize its happening. Once I do realize this I really try to imagine reasons why I would make those choices or actions. This helps me understand the situation on what I feel is a more personal level. If that does not help because I just can not picture myself in the situation, I try to recall everything I know and do not know about the individual to help me understand what else could be happening in their life that could have had an effect on their actions/choices.

Since you're asking this question, you've already taken the first step - you've noticed you're judgmental. Now comes the hard work of noticing when you're acting that way, when you are experiencing that pattern and working on changing your mindset. When you get better at observing you will find it easier to act upon this too, and by that I mean that you can take a moment to notice when you're about to be judgmental or harsh towards someone and just stop. Give yourself a little time and then either say nothing if you have nothing nice to say, or, when you become more in control, try to politely inquire about whatever brings out the judgmental feeling in you and to learn more about it. Sometimes we judge because we don't have adequate knowledge on a topic.

This is an incredible question, but it is quite hard to answer. Being judgemental is a part of our human nature, so we must accept that we may never be able to fully stop being judgemental. That is not a bad thing though, sometimes the ability to make a judgement is useful, for example risk assessments before crossing a road - we need to be able to make a judgement about when it is safe to cross the road so that we can stay safe. That said, we should strive to combat negative judgements. This is difficult, we can begin by telling ourselves the reasons that a person has acted in a certain way or why our current situation has ended up the way that it has. Bear in mind that making a judgement isn't harmful in itself, the way we share it or act up on it is. Remember, if a judgement could be harmful to others, it may be best to keep it to yourself. I hope this answers your question, if not then feel free to reach out to me. Have a lovely day, emi

Just try to be open minded. There is no exact way to stop being judgemental all you can to is try to stop. Talke to the people, make yourself a own picture of them and try to be open minder for new ideas. Try to accept views and ideas that aren’t your own as long as no one gets hurt by it and don’t stuck yourself on one idea. You will be surprised how easyer life will be and who knows, maby you will even find new friends that way! I wish you much luck! You’re an amazing person! Keep going!

you could ask for help if you want that. Don’t pass judgment. Understand Accept and love.Once you’ve accepted someone for who he is, try to love him. Even if you don’t know him. Even if you’ve hated him in the past. Love him as a brother, or love her as a sister, no matter who they are, old or young, light skinned or dark, male or female, rich or poor.And yet, while it is in our nature to be judgmental, I don’t think it’s always useful to us. We look down on others, as if we are so much better … and that creates division between people.

You can begin by putting yourself in their shoes. Imagine yourself in their situation, think about your responses and how you’d react recieving them yourself. Try being more positive about situations you are in before trying to be positive about other peoples situations. If you are a negative person, you will end up casting a shadow on other people as well. If you are judgemental of people you are unfamiliar with- try talking to them and get a feel for their personality. You may be surprised by how understanding and kind people can be. Being judgemental can also stem from past experiences of people being judgemental of you. Remember how that made you feel if this is the case and recognize that you wouldn’t want to put anybody else through that.

It's difficult to stop such a negative mannerism but it is do-able. Being judgemental usually comes from fear. You judge others before they judge you so that you can have a pre-emptive strike ready for the person that you are judging. It's basically a defense mechanism. If you judge someone to be bitchy, mean, judgemental or aggressive etc, then you can think of things to retaliate with before they even have a chance to be the person you think they're going to be. In this case, most people need to be more confident in themselves. It also usually stems from previous negative experiences where perhaps you've been bullied or judged yourself or even by yourself and that's where this defense mechanism established itself. It's not an easy task and it is most definitely not quickly overcome but if you have the will power and strength, you can control your negative thinking by replacing them with positives. Instead of thinking that you need to retaliate, you could think of ways to diffuse the situation and take the insult or whatever it may be, lightly. Some situations that become bigger than what they need to be, needn't have come to that. Simply being civilized can counteract those types of incidents. But, being judgemental is not necessarily a bad thing. As stated before, it's usually a defense mechanism. Sometimes, it's better to be ready for a negative outcome but it doesn't mean that you should be negative towards someone without good probable cause. There's no harm in being ready for a negative situation but don't expect there to be one. That's the difference between being judgemental and thinking judgemental. Being judgemental = acting negatively towards the person for no good probable cause. Thinking judgemental = being prepared for a negative situation but not acting upon impulse. Hope this helps.

Self Positive talk, Learning that what you think and say can harm others and also make you feel miserable about yourself in the long run and it can cause arguments that you really do not want to happen . Always remember that what others go through we do not see , we only see what we choose to see. Open your mind and clear the negative thoughts and words and replace them with positive kind, caring words and know that no one is perfect and that we are all Unique and Loved . Judge not lest Ye Be Judge, Put yourself in the other persons shoes that you are judging. It is easier to love people then judge and hate.

Changing a behavior or belief is easier when one understands the purpose it serves. By understanding this, we can make sure that the framework of our world view is kept strong and healthy. Judgement is one kind of Discernment (which means 'seeing how things really are'). This is necessary for us to live in safety, which is a very high priority for our nervous system. The difference between Judgement and Discernment is very simple, and very powerful: the first has solidified values, and the second is flexible and investigative. What tricks people into becoming judgmental is that it is quicker and easier to assign a set value to a situation or challenge, than if one remains aware and open minded. It take effort to be Mindful, and much less so, to be reflexive. So, if you really want to become less judgmental, you must be willing to put out the energy to challenge your beliefs about the meaning of things, and their relative importance to you. Though this is not Easy , it is Possible. There are several well known methods of starting this process, CBT, DBT and Meditation. Each of these works in different ways to help the person challenge their beliefs, thought processes and reflexive responses. Eventually, people can re-invent themselves and become the kind of person they might have imagined themselves to be.

First you need to think that you are a human and everyone else is, we are not created equally and each and everyone of us has different flaws and uniqueness. Being judgemental isn't a sin, we are entitled of our own opinion about something or someone else but other people deserves to be observed first before can they are judged. Think of respect, the highest form of respect is respecting everything and not judging them, if you have to judge someone you need to ensure that you know this person well and you are no lesser than that person if you don't want to be judged as well.

Take a look in the mirror. You need to stop for a moment and think about what you're doing. I know it's easier said than done, but try it. If you are self aware of your judgemental attitude then you are already a step forward to overcoming it. When people judge others, it's based on the life experience and stereotypes we've built up in our own minds - those people you are judging aren't one dimensional characters, don't be fooled by appearances. Instead, try to understand and accept that person. I think it's also important to note that we're all judgemental, it's human nature. The fact you want to stop being judgmental speaks lengths about your character, you do want to be a warm-hearted, kind person and that's all we can hope for as a society. Hope this helped.

Being judgmental is focusing on only one area regarding a person or a situation. To stop being judgmental; you need to stop falling a victim for the obvious. Always see things from another perspective. If you're about to judge someone or a situation you focus on the area that you saw. If you focused on another area that you weren't thinking about it, you'll see the person or the situation from another perspective, and then you'll know that the judgement you've created may not be true because you have assumed other alternatives to your judgement, and that's my friend you being not judgmental.

Remember that nobody is perfect. We all have our flaws including you and that is fine. Also, some people might have excuses to what they achieve or what they do. Everyone has a different story to tell with different challenges. Are you judging people for superficial reasons? We can all judge people who are different than us but it doesn’t help anyone because we sometimes might assume things when we are judging and assuming doesn’t help, it just creates anger and confusion. We shouldn’t judge other people because we are all flawed human beings and that is normal, nobody is perfect.

The best way to stop being judgemental is to catch your judgemental thoughts when they come, and challenge them. For example, if you saw someone who's shoes you thought were horrendous, catch yourself thinking that and then look at the situation from their point of view and challenge the thought. They could have spent ages choosing those shoes out and they might really like them. And If that sounds too hard, try to just acknowledging the thoughts to start with, and then letting those thoughts just pass by. Gradually work your way up into challenging the thoughts to become less judgemental.

Think about it for a second: we see someone, and based on their looks or actions, we pass judgment on them. Not good judgment, either. Usually without even knowing the person. And that’s it — that’s usually the extent of our interaction with that person. We don’t make an effort to get to know the person, or understand them, or see whether our judgment was right or not. And let’s consider what happens when we pass judgment on people we do know. We see something they do, and get angry at it, or disappointed in the person, or think worse of them. We judge, without understanding. And that’s the end of it — we don’t try to find out more, and through communication begin to understand, and through understanding begin to build a bridge between two human beings.

The best way is to seek the good in people instead of the bad as well as practicing the ability to focus on yourself. Not everyone will meld with you well, and that's okay. That's why it is so important to mainly focus on yourself rather than the negative qualities of others. Once you can do that, you won't feel the need to judge; rather, you'll be more confident and embrace positive qualities. Judging usually comes from our own insecurities so ask yourself the deep questions on why you are judgemental, and then take the necessary steps to focus on you. Everything else will follow through.

Firstly you have to want to stop doing anything before you can stop doing it. Judgement comes from us not feeling good about ourselves, from something we are insecure with. For example judging how someone looks is often because we are unhappy with how we look or we think how they look is unacceptable in some way because we have conditions on what is acceptable. These conditions of worth come from childhood and our caregivers but are not always positive or helpful. You could ask yourself "why am I judgmental?" try to answer this honestly to see where it comes from. Understanding why you do something if often the way to stop that behavior, if you want to.

only when we are in the same situations as other, do we truly understand without judgment. when you know the facts, and its not what others think or assume. whenever you are aware of being judgmental just think about how it could be you being judged. I am very critical of most things worth looking at. this as a learned defence mechanism which I developed through mistrust of others and being cynical. many times being judgmental has worked in my favour, as it probably has for you. the downfall is that it can end up becoming a behaviour and over years is hard to unlearn.

Give the other person the benefit of the doubt and try to imagine what life might look like through their eyes. You never know what may be going on underneath the surface, and everyone has their own insecurities, doubts, and mannerisms that originated from some aspect of their lives. We are all people who were born under some set of circumstances and have since then, navigated the world based on our best judgments. Maybe the person sitting across from you had a rough week or did not grow up with people like you. These things do not necessarily give someone a pass for inconsiderate behavior, but we have all been there. Additionally, be aware of your biases and make an effort to counteract them. Many of us have inherent biases that we developed overtime, but it is important that we recognize them as to be sure we are not allowing them to cloud our view of someone.

Understand. Instead of judging someone for what he's/she's done or how he/she looks, try instead to understand the person. Put yourself in their shoes. If you can achieve this, you have just showed yourself that you are capable of showing not only empathy and love, but understanding of where another human being is coming from - which in return will help you improve yourself and understand where you are coming from. We are all humans and we all make mistakes whether we want it or not - that is part of being human. Knowing this will make it easier not to pass judgement where judgment is unjustified!

Open your heart and accept everyone as fellow earthling, who is sharing the same planet as yours. Regardless of whomever we are, at the end of the day we do everythung that is most human and natural as each other. We breath, we talk, eat and sleep like everyone else. If the nature never stop us from enjoying all these resources without judging, we, the fellow humans shouldn't too. We all feel pain, love, hunger and everything at the same level. If there is something that we should do apart from judging is caring, loving and accepting each other. :)

A way to stop being judgmental is to educate yourself on issues and differences that other people may have. Then you can try to accept that everyone is different, and while you don’t need to agree with their views, don’t judge them; everyone is different and you may have never walked a day in their shoes so you don’t know how they feel. Also, just talk to people. Learn about what they are going through and maybe talking to them will help you be more accepting and less judgmental. Don’t make comments or decide your opinion is right before actually understanding or talking to someone.

To stop or be less judgemental, a good exercise is to always try to put yourself in the shoes of the person before judging them. It's also important to keep in mind that everyone is going through their own things, that we may not know about. Another exercise is to think about what you would like if that was you, would you like to be judged or supported? It's important to treat others like you would like to be treated, so as to set an example and hopefully inspire people to do the same, and be less judgemental of others.

The best way to do this is by reminding yourself that no one is perfect on this earth. We all have flaws of our own because we all are humans. And to err is human. We all make blunders in our lives. Whenever we feel like judging someone we should think that how would we feel if someone judged us? No one likes to be criticized. Even though we make mistakes, we want people to forget about that, we want people to only remember good things about us. Some people don't even care but most of us want to be in good books of others. We should try our best not to be judgmental because if we did that today, tomorrow somebody else would do the same to us.

Whenever I find myself judging someone, I immediately think, "no that's not how you should think! There's nothing wrong in [judged behaviour]. It's okay. She's just being herself, there's nothing wrong about that " And if possible, I think of one (or more) compliments for that person, so that I don't feel negative about him or her. For example I'll think "at least she's honest and true about herself, and that's great! Not many people can do that." And I may even tell her the compliment too. So to stop being judgemental in any situation, think the opposite, and more positive thought. Give others the benefit of the doubt, instead of accepting the first (negative) thought that comes to mind. Challenge that judgemental thought.

A good first step to stop being judgemental is to put your self in that persons shoes. Step out side of yourself and imagine that you are them for a moment, would you want to be judge the way you are judging them? What would you say to a friend who was going through this? Some times it is easy to judge people simply by the way the look or how they dress, but we all have our own demons and our own things we are working through. Work on understanding other people and get to know them for who they are on the inside.

An easy way that I have found to help you not judge others is to ask yourself, what might be causing that person to act, react, feel this way? And try to put yourself in there shoes. A lot of time we have No Idea whats going on in other peoples lives or what their situation may be. Also I don't think that it is our place to judge anyone. Even though it is in our nature as humans to do so. I try to think about how it would make me feel if someone just immediately judged me about something they really had no clue about whatsoever. That doesn't even remotely sound fair.

Being judgemental is something that everyone is; there's no shame in it. There isn't a single person out there who hasn't once judged another person, no matter what they say! You aren't alone. Stopping so abruptly isn't easy, either: it takes time. What could be important to recognise is, everyone is different, everyone is unique, and nobody is perfect. I believe that this is the first stepping-stone in becoming a non-judgemental person; seeing that no one is the same, but different. This is just a simple fact; there is no single perfect person - equality, diversity and acceptance are all key in today's society.

To stop being judgmental when someone is talking to you about there problems just listen. Do not think about them in a certain way just because you have learnt that people with certain looks, ideas or behaviors are wrong or not appropriate. That is just an opinion and everyone has one. Just try and understand what they need from you when they are taking to you about their problems or issues. Through this method you will be lest liking to judge them and more likely to be able to have an open mind and be able to help and support them.