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Why do I feel so unappreciated?

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Last Updated: 07/18/2020 at 3:18am
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Top Rated Answers
fancifulTree58
January 3rd, 2016 7:19am
Sometimes when people look to others for recognition they are giving up the power to be in control of their own emotions. This can also be the case for appreciation. Do things for yourself first above all, and if you have the resources, such as time, do things for others. The important thing is looking after yourself and your feelings first. Which doesn't mean not to help others, but focus on your own internal recognition instead of looking to others. How does it make you feel to help other people?
Yourfairygodbro
January 3rd, 2016 9:38pm
Because the people around you are shit and you need to find better ones who will treat you way better.
kaitykait
January 6th, 2016 4:09am
Sometimes dumb people don't realize how truly amazing we are. You are such an amazing creature and I'm sorry that some people are just too clueless, but people can be selfish and forget to notice the amazing beauty in others. Try to surround yourself in people who love you and appreciate you. They might be difficult to find but I promise you can.
Lotus48
January 6th, 2016 5:50pm
Usually because you are. Being around the wrong crowd of people can cause neglect and sorrow because of how you are treated.
healingwonder23
January 6th, 2016 7:39pm
Maybe we judge ourself too much that even the appreciation that we get doesn't get registered in our mind.
Reid3020
January 6th, 2016 10:25pm
Are there people around you that are making you feel like that? An opinion of yourself doesn't usually come from within so maybe something externally is making you feel unappreciated.
specialCherry57
January 8th, 2016 4:55am
People are different and any of them has his meter of appreciation. There is no way except their deep knowledge to know why.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 6:41am
Most of the time I feel so unappreciated is because I'm looking for acceptance and the feeling of being wanted in the wrong crowd. Try switching it up and stepping out of your comfort zone!
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 3:34pm
It may be because of depression. Depression can make you believe a lot of things that are not, but just know that your are very appreciated.
lifeisbutagame7
January 9th, 2016 2:41am
Sometimes we can feel unappreciated by people telling us we are not worth it, but in fact they are just jealous....
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 11:25am
I know that feeling.But it doesn't exist,just because you don't have as many friends as other doesn't mean that you're unappreciated.We nee you in this world.
FriendlyFlower
January 9th, 2016 4:50pm
The best thing to do in my experience, is to maybe look at all factors that may be making you feel this way. So grab a pen and piece of paper, what do you feel? who makes you feel like this? Then try and write senteces that pop up in your mind. Challenge those beliefs, are they true? do you think those things about yourself? Then look again at who or what makes you feel like that. Address the people/ situations as you think is best. Usually, we feel like this because someone or something has been happening for a long time but subtly.
Happyness7
January 13th, 2016 4:35am
You're not. Trust me, you're worth more than what you think. You are appreciated very much. It takes time.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 9:32pm
You may feel so unappreciated because you may feel that people don't appreciate you or acknowledge that you are there, and if you help someone who doesn't say thank-you or help you in return, this may leave you feeling unappreciated too.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 3:17pm
it's probably because you over think about things and people's reactions ... start by appreciating yourself .. once you do that you'll see the world from a whol other different view
ptvDarcey
January 16th, 2016 8:20pm
Everyone feels unappreciated every now and then. It sucks. Often as people we forget that we can make others feel unappreciated and equally others can accidentally do the same to us. Understand someone always appreciates you and if you feel like no one else does, appreciate yourself.
Mollyamber101
January 20th, 2016 7:52am
maybe from a past experience or someone in your life makes you feel unwanted. I know it happens a lot
ameliabubbles5
January 24th, 2016 1:48pm
It may be due to isolation, or not socialising with people enough. Try to talk to people and make conversation with them. Make a comment about their outfit and I am sure they will do the same back to you.
Nemorosa
February 3rd, 2016 2:29pm
So you would like to feel appreciated, and you are wondering why you do not experience it so much in your life? Appreciation.. I think there's so many people on this planet who would be supported if they would experience more appreciation. I like your question! I'm curious.. is the lack of appreciation you experience something you expect to come from outside of you, or from inside of you..? As I see it, it is hard to receive appreciation from others when you experience little self-appreciation. Also, I am convinced, that when you are surrounded with people who have little appreciation for themselves, it will be challenging for them to express their appreciation for you. For me personally, it has been very supportive to strengthen my self-appreciation. For several months now, each night before I go to sleep, I write down three things that I appreciate about myself. Also, I add the 'basic human need' that was met by what I did or how I am. As an example: I appreciate that.. - "I asked for my friend to listen to me for 30 minutes while I express what is alive in me. In this time, I shared everything that was bothering me while he just listened in silence." Needs that are met: self-expression, being heard, relaxation (to speak with someone listening in silence), support. .. I noticed after doing this for a few days only, that during the day I started to notice more aspects of myself (character, activities..) that I appreciation. AND, I started to recognise my appreciation for others more. Since I do this, I feel more kindness towards myself and I really enjoy it. Maybe this is something you'd like to try? :)
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 3:48pm
Take time to appreciate you're self, if you feel you done so this right give yourself credit. Maybe you are appreciated more than you know.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 11:35pm
I feel unappreciated when I am trying to help others but they end up not listening to what I have to say
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 8:25pm
I feel unappreciated when people are unkind,threating me,bullying me for no reason and its mean and really rude.
fancifulPiano97
February 10th, 2016 2:06am
Because people don't realize the true potential you have because sometimes people can be true idiots
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 11:45pm
I feel unappreciated because I do not recieve the help from my family that I need. It breaks my heart knowing that they don't really care.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2016 7:24am
Sometimes we feel certain ways out of a feeling we feel about ourselves, this can be really hard but we need to learn to appreciate ourselves.
Arakhthanda
February 12th, 2016 4:38am
That is because first you are dissatisfied with an aspect of yourself, either through your own beliefs about yourself or through what others tell you about you.
Dontjudge
February 12th, 2016 7:33pm
it's easy to feel unappreciated in a world full of so many people. Focus on showing your appreciation and you'll always be able to give what you hope to get
unfin
February 13th, 2016 3:11am
You're feeling unappreciated. Can you give me more insight to your situations that make you feel unappreciated?
youcangetbetter
February 13th, 2016 5:51am
I don't feel unappreciated...Maybe, sometimes if i down i do....but not usually. I guess in bad days when I see everything negative I kinda have these thoughts where I believe people doesn't care but i try to brush them away.
darlingyouregorgeous
February 13th, 2016 7:14pm
You might be experiencing a symptom of depression, or maybe you just need a little bit more love. Talk to a listener here at 7 Cups for help figuring out what's going on.