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Anonymous
December 30th, 2017 1:20am
You can always try reflecting on the pros of being single such as, you'll have more free time to have hobbies. Even watching a movie about it can maybe help.
Being single is basically a gateway to have as much fun and a chance to work on yourself rather than a relationship. If it was a bad breakup then it will give you even more of a push to do your best at working on yourself.
Enjoy the single life, and be happy ! :)
It is important to understand that our most important relationship in life is with ourselves. While we are single, we learn so much about who we truly are. There are aspects of being single which can be truly liberating and empowering. It is better to have a healthy relationship with self than a dysfunctional relationship with another. Sometimes we need our time alone to become the best possible version of ourselves.
People tend to feel like being single is something bad, but in reality? It's something great. You don't have to remember anniversary dates, you don't have to go through a miserable breakup. On top of that you can talk to your friends AND socialise with them more now that you're single. I honestly love the thought about being single (even though I'm taken at the moment) personally, and maybe other people don't see it that way. But the ease, comfort and more is just simple and so easygoing for me.
Do kind things for yourself. Remember what makes you unique, without someone else to help you identify yourself. Do things that make you happy, and don't forbid yourself to do something that you think you shouldn't do alone, like see a movie or go out to eat. Enjoy yourself and your relationships with your friends and family. Express yourself in your own way.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2018 2:55am
You can use this time to grow as a person the way you want to grow. It can be anything from dying your hair crazy colors to finding stress relievers. I personally know people who go to the gym because they feel less stressed afterwards. Starting new hobbies could be it!
Take up a new hobby. Go out and spoil yourself for the day. Remember to love yourself before anyone else. Remember that you are worth more. You are worth more than any material in existence. Take care of yourself, let everyone else worry about theirs.
Focus on yourself. You are so important and you don't need a partner to complete you, or make you happy. Be you, because you're amazing!
As much as it may be hard remember that it's ok to love yourself and discover who you are. it seems difficult at the moment but it will come with time.
think of all the things you can do as a single person how there are no boundaries in what you do and actually take this opportunity to develop your self
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 7:05pm
Remember this: you don't have to tell anyone what you're doing constantly. You can be your own person and make your own decisions without relying on the input of someone else. If you want to go out with friends, you don't need anyone's approval. I know it's difficult to not have someone else there, but the right person will find you when it's the right time. Enjoy this time on your own while it lasts!
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 11:31pm
Look for the positives in being single and avoid thinking or lingering on thoughts of the bad negative things associated with being single. Try to enjoy your time doing things you love, learn more about something you're interested in, take on a new hobby or even make new friends. Find things to bring you happiness each day.
Being single can be a great time, this is because you can do what you want without have anyone to say you can’t, if you are happy being single your likely to show this on the outside and people are more likely to be happy around you
Being single means taking time for yourself. You don’t have to worry about pleasing another person. You can worry mainly on yourself and be with friends without any drama. Being single is amazing.
First, you need to love yourself. Take some time to be alone and find out what you like to do. When you find out what makes you happy, you will start loving yourself and it will not be a problem for you to be single anymore.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2018 3:55pm
being single does suck at times. having people around who are in a happy relationship or friends getting married. Believe me I've been through this. It's just the feeling of being single that hurts. But try being surrounded by your love ones, be it family or friends. or do something you love to do. If you are meant to be with someone, that you are. you will get that person at the right time. till than be happy and do what you love. Don't let the feeling of being single hurt you.
Take it as a way of exploring who you are and knowing that if you're you then the right person will come in automatically.
Don't think of it as being alone, think of it as you time. While you are single, focus on improving your mental and physical health, and improving your hobbies. If you take the time to better yourself while you are not in a relationship, then (in my experience) you will most likely attract a better partner in the future.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 4:58pm
Learn more about yourself and take time to understand what makes you happy, this is especially important when you've just come out of a long relationship where you relied on the other person for all of your happiness
The best way in my opinion is to know and realize that you are where you are meant to be right now, and realize that your special someone, if your are ready to meet them, that they might not always be ready to meet you. Everything happens with a timeline, so trust that you’ll eventually meet that someone who will be perfect for you.
That isn't an easy thing to answer. In my experience being single, I try to think of the positives. I have been in a toxic relationship before and can honestly say the freedom of choice i have from being single is pretty empowering. I can see who I want without the added stress of someone toxic diminishing my mental state. Especially if you're single fresh out of a toxic relationship I would say focus on the positives since your departure from that person. If it's a relationship that ended bad on all ends, you can possibly take being single as an opportunity to really zero in on yourself and what makes you happy in the end.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2018 12:57pm
Being single helps you to love yourself more and know yourself more it gives you freedom and it makes you independent
You, yourself, are an interesting human being on your own! So don't think of being single as being alone or unwanted, think of it as a period to focus on you!
It's not bad to feel happy about being single. There is freedom in being single, no ties to anyone, no burdens or luggage of other people. No relying on anyone or feeling tied down as if you can't do anything without running it past them. No sharing money, or space or anything together. No risks of getting hurt if you don't love them.
well I'm actually single I can say its lonely at times but I prefer it this way because I wanna focuse on my career and future and also my heath I know its awesome to have someone there for you that you can share your life with but its better being single its less strees
You can love yourself as much as you can, and spend more time with the people who you love. We love you
Anonymous
March 15th, 2018 1:19am
When I was single, I had all the time to myself and I could save a whole ton of money for myself. In order to be happy about being single, you would need to focus less on being single and more on the present and to be more happier, you would need to LOVE YOURSELF.
Being single is a wonderful opportunity to put yourself first and do things that make you happy. You can see your friends, family and other people without worrying about someone else; you can also pamper yourself by reading, exercising, and enjoying your free time however you want to spend it. Get to know what you love most about yourself before you try and love someone else, or let someone else love you.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 6:28pm
Pursue long lost interests. Take up a hobby. Join a gym. Doing exercise is amazing place to start and you will start to realise that you don't have to be in a relationship all the time to be happy.
Love the person you see everyday in the mirror. There is no sadness in being single. Do things you would love to do
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