Is it normal to not want to get better?

It is kind of normal, sadly. This is caused by the fact that getting better is hard and a very long way forward. You might feel better being where you are, but after working for a good life, you'll be happy you did!

I think it’s normal to think that way. For me, I got so used to feel awful that at one point I saw no reason to get better because I was used to not being okay. On top of which, even now, I sometimes feel like quiting and giving up on all the work I’ve done because I feel like I can live with my struggles because I’m so used to them.

Yes! For one thing, "better" and "healthy" are totally subjective terms that are determined by the wider culture. We are constantly bombarded with messages saying we have to be "happy" all the time to be considered healthy, but that isn't necessarily true.

It is absolutely normal to not want to get better. Sometimes our situation provides a sense of comfort and familiarity to us.

i've actually felt this way... a lot. i can't really say if this is normal, because it isn't normal for me personally. depression is a factor in this- it can make you feel uninterested in things you used to love and make you feel differently about life. this is temporary. if it doesn't go away and worsens, contact a doctor or therapist

In general, it is important to see, that most of psychological problems do not only have dysfuctional elements to them, but also functional elements. For example, being depressed might encourage people important to us, to care for us. Avoiding situations due to anxiety might keep us from stressful moments. Due to the fact that most forms of "not feeling well" have some rewarding or stabilizing elements to them, it is understandable to some degree, when people say that a part of them "does not want to get better". However, it is essential to note that the positive consequences of certain psychological issues are usually short term - and they come with negative long term consequences. In the example above, your boyfriend might treat you more carefully or care for you if you are depressed (Positive short-term consequence). However, the constant pressure on the relationship due to the depressed mood might lead to arguments or a break-up as well (long-term negative consequences). Before you are sure, if you really do not want to get better, it is important to carefully evaluate the short term and long term consequences of your current situation. Finally, you have to ask yourself the question: What kind of life do I want to live? Your answer might be, that you want to live on exactly as you are doing right now (i.e. not feeling well). This decision is personal. No one eles is to say if it is "normal" or not.

It is absolutely normal. Mental illness can be incredibly scary for more than just what you see on the surface. After you've had anxiety or depression for a long time, you can forget what life was like before you had it. This makes it easy to worry about that you don't know who you are without being depressed, or without being anxious. The key thing to remember is that by reaching out for help, you aren't changing who you are, you're just learning to become a better version of yourself. A you who's less afraid to engage, and has more energy to do the things that you like.

Yes. I think a lot of people, including myself, are dreading taking the steps toward recovery. Some might not understand that, but it can be difficult. We learn to live and to be complacent in how our lives are. We learn to accept all the negative feelings inside ourselves because its easier to keep it in sometimes. The pain of letting go can be too much sometimes. It is like ripping off a band aid covering an open wound. At first its frightening to see this huge gash and its painful to let the air reach it, but that's how the healing process begins. We can't truly be open and ready for growth until we have achieved healing. Again, yes it is perfectly normal to not want to get better and leave all the scars covered up, but staying still is the same as moving backwards. Moving forward is hard, but you owe it to yourself to let go and to heal.

Yes because sometimes people learn to love the pain. I’m going to paraphrase a quote I heard, “people have to walk through fire at a time I’m their life. Sometimes people come out stronger, sometimes people come out broken and flimsy, and sometimes people learn to love the fire and find comfort in it.”

Yes absolutely. Getting better means the effort of change. That takes a lot of energy and strength. It can certainly feel more safe to stay in your illness. Staying stuck doesnt require effort. Getting better does. The effort of growth, change, and healing. Those are big scary things to consider when you are thinking about the unknown that recovery can bring.

Probably not. I think that people should want to get better and learn more about what went wrong so it doesn’t happen again.

It is normal to not want to get better. Getting better is a big change and some people find change scary. If you're worried about not wanting to get better, don't be stressed over it. It is normal and it is an important hurdle to get over on your way to recovery.

I think it’s very normal. Sometimes the gentle voices in our mind are so exhausted that the bad voices take over and it can result in a state of giving up or doing the opposite of what we should.. However I believe as long as our heart beats the gentle voices whom are supporting us in our best interest will always come back to try to guide us. It could even work in this state of not wanting to get better to call out for our true selves, and say “hey! What are you doing to your self? Don’t give up, we are strong and we can do this! “

Yes it is, but I tell you, being better in you is always the best. Just tell the world if you dont want it, no one forces you. But in life, you have to make the best decisions in order to succeed and have no regrets.

No. Because you actually want to get better deep inside, dont lie. But you just make it hard for yourself. Its all in yourself.

From personal experience, sometimes I didn't want to become "better" for two...maybe three reasons. For one, I felt like my issues set me apart from other people. I felt "unique" and believed no one will ever understand what I'm going through. So in that way, I was never another part of the monochrome crowd. For another reason, I have an issue with feelings. I can't feel anything unless it's negative because that's what I felt like I deserved to feel. So feeling like a piece of crap, in a twisted way I think I like it because at least I'm feeling SOMETHING other than just emptiness. And lastly. I felt like "wanting to get better" meant that something was really wrong with me. Like I'm a diseased freak that needs to get better. But the first step to recovery means admitting something's wrong.

Yes it is. When you battle with mental health or an illness we know no better then the symptoms of being sick. Being happy, full of energy and so on is very understandably scary. Maybe you can write out what it be like for you on a good day. Be honest with yourself and how it be. Hope this helps some.

Yes, completely but in this case it would be the best to seek help and talk with somebody to help you understand the reasons behind this type of emotions.

Yes, it is especially common when you have become very comfortable in your illness. You don't want to leave something familiar and venture into the unknown, it is terrifying and against all human instinct to go into something you don't know.

It is, many people feel hopeless and lost and simply think they can’t and therefore won’t ever get better. But remember recovery is ALWAYS an option!

A lot of people are afraid of what their life might be like when they get better, or solve their issues. It’s normal to be afraid of the unknown, but the potential a person has after identifying their problems and getting past them is so amazing!

It's just my opinion but sometimes we get used to the problems that we have. They become part of us. So if all your problems go away and you get better, you might feel like you're missing a part of yourself. In short, you might not want to get better because you get used to them?

Yes, it is. It can feel very scary and tiring to set out on a path of recovery, and much easier to stagnate in one's own familiary misery. A sense of self-validation ("This is really how I feel, and it's okay to feel like this all the time because that's how I am") might also be present. Quitting maladaptive coping mechanisms is very hard, and when someone feels hopeless, exhausted, and alone all the time, it can look like an impossible challenge. It's important to remember that recovery looks different for every person. It all starts with small acts of self-care, and reminding yourself of how worthy, important, and gifted you are, until you're fully able to visualize those goals that your pain prevent you from reaching. Then, not only will they be within reach, but you'll want to put in the effort to reach them.

It's really easy to get stuck in the same routine of being down about everything or whatever it is but if you want to change it, you're the only one that can do that. It's all mental so you have to WANT to get better.....if you don't want it it won't happen❤

this is completely normal! many people experience this throughout there life, but the best thing to remember is without wanting to get better, you will not feel better

If by "normal" you mean the statistical 60% of the people 60% of the time, then i would say YES. Inertia is strong, and fear of the unknown is stronger. These things help to hold us in place, and over time we start to feel comfortable there. Especially if we have been stressed and traumatized by failure to 'get better' (what ever that might mean to a person), it can be daunting to take that step again. Also, many people have not had positive experiences and results with trying to improve themselves or their circumstances, so there is a 'previous failure bias' involved. It's not that people don't WISH to be better off, we just fear the loss that might accompany that effort.

Some people don't want to get better because they believe that their problems/ conditions etc. make them who they are, they feel that they wouldn't be who they are if they didn't have what they have or they even don't want to get better because they have seen other people with it who are famous and they live with it, so they believe that they can live with it

Some philosophers say there is always a payoff in life for whatever experience we choose to indulge in. I guess this is a pretty hard line statement to make, but there is some wisdom in it. By refusing to accept a helping hand, we can be gratifying our need to hurt or punish the other person, for example, or, getting the flu and not taking adequate steps to rebuild one's immunity can be a way of avoiding certain tasks or responsibilities... who doesn't want to be waited on hand and foot? But a longer, more compassionate view would have it that we are not all equally gifted by nature or nurture and that it is just harder for some of us to get along in life than others.

I wouldn't necessarily call it "normal" but more of a common thing certain people have felt about something. Depending on the situation, like if you're in the hospital and you don't want to get better, there can be either your body is physically not getting better and you're helping with that, or you're mentally or emotionally not wanting medical or any help to help you and have you feel better, which it can either be a on purpose thing or something you're just feeling. Overall, if you feel this way, be honest about it with someone and I'm sure they'll talk to you about it and explain to you why you would want to be better and feel better and how it's good for you. I wish the best of luck to you.

Yes. Familiarity, no matter how damaging, can be more comfortable than change, no matter how positive. Also, relationships are bound to change as you get better. Sometimes the threat of a relationship ending because of positive growth can make people fearful of continuing to make positive changes. But take heart! Getting better means that you will be in a better position to deal with any perceived negative or positive changes in your relationships (even the one with yourself). So, recognize the resistance to making positive changes and make them anyways. The one surefire way to make the world a better place is to be a better person in it.