Is it normal to not want to get better?

From personal experience, sometimes I didn't want to become "better" for two...maybe three reasons. For one, I felt like my issues set me apart from other people. I felt "unique" and believed no one will ever understand what I'm going through. So in that way, I was never another part of the monochrome crowd. For another reason, I have an issue with feelings. I can't feel anything unless it's negative because that's what I felt like I deserved to feel. So feeling like a piece of crap, in a twisted way I think I like it because at least I'm feeling SOMETHING other than just emptiness. And lastly. I felt like "wanting to get better" meant that something was really wrong with me. Like I'm a diseased freak that needs to get better. But the first step to recovery means admitting something's wrong.

Yes it is. When you battle with mental health or an illness we know no better then the symptoms of being sick. Being happy, full of energy and so on is very understandably scary. Maybe you can write out what it be like for you on a good day. Be honest with yourself and how it be. Hope this helps some.

Yes, completely but in this case it would be the best to seek help and talk with somebody to help you understand the reasons behind this type of emotions.

Yes, it is especially common when you have become very comfortable in your illness. You don't want to leave something familiar and venture into the unknown, it is terrifying and against all human instinct to go into something you don't know.

It is, many people feel hopeless and lost and simply think they can’t and therefore won’t ever get better. But remember recovery is ALWAYS an option!

A lot of people are afraid of what their life might be like when they get better, or solve their issues. It’s normal to be afraid of the unknown, but the potential a person has after identifying their problems and getting past them is so amazing!

It's just my opinion but sometimes we get used to the problems that we have. They become part of us. So if all your problems go away and you get better, you might feel like you're missing a part of yourself. In short, you might not want to get better because you get used to them?

Yes, it is. It can feel very scary and tiring to set out on a path of recovery, and much easier to stagnate in one's own familiary misery. A sense of self-validation ("This is really how I feel, and it's okay to feel like this all the time because that's how I am") might also be present. Quitting maladaptive coping mechanisms is very hard, and when someone feels hopeless, exhausted, and alone all the time, it can look like an impossible challenge. It's important to remember that recovery looks different for every person. It all starts with small acts of self-care, and reminding yourself of how worthy, important, and gifted you are, until you're fully able to visualize those goals that your pain prevent you from reaching. Then, not only will they be within reach, but you'll want to put in the effort to reach them.

It's really easy to get stuck in the same routine of being down about everything or whatever it is but if you want to change it, you're the only one that can do that. It's all mental so you have to WANT to get better.....if you don't want it it won't happen❤

this is completely normal! many people experience this throughout there life, but the best thing to remember is without wanting to get better, you will not feel better

If by "normal" you mean the statistical 60% of the people 60% of the time, then i would say YES. Inertia is strong, and fear of the unknown is stronger. These things help to hold us in place, and over time we start to feel comfortable there. Especially if we have been stressed and traumatized by failure to 'get better' (what ever that might mean to a person), it can be daunting to take that step again. Also, many people have not had positive experiences and results with trying to improve themselves or their circumstances, so there is a 'previous failure bias' involved. It's not that people don't WISH to be better off, we just fear the loss that might accompany that effort.

Some people don't want to get better because they believe that their problems/ conditions etc. make them who they are, they feel that they wouldn't be who they are if they didn't have what they have or they even don't want to get better because they have seen other people with it who are famous and they live with it, so they believe that they can live with it

Some philosophers say there is always a payoff in life for whatever experience we choose to indulge in. I guess this is a pretty hard line statement to make, but there is some wisdom in it. By refusing to accept a helping hand, we can be gratifying our need to hurt or punish the other person, for example, or, getting the flu and not taking adequate steps to rebuild one's immunity can be a way of avoiding certain tasks or responsibilities... who doesn't want to be waited on hand and foot? But a longer, more compassionate view would have it that we are not all equally gifted by nature or nurture and that it is just harder for some of us to get along in life than others.

I wouldn't necessarily call it "normal" but more of a common thing certain people have felt about something. Depending on the situation, like if you're in the hospital and you don't want to get better, there can be either your body is physically not getting better and you're helping with that, or you're mentally or emotionally not wanting medical or any help to help you and have you feel better, which it can either be a on purpose thing or something you're just feeling. Overall, if you feel this way, be honest about it with someone and I'm sure they'll talk to you about it and explain to you why you would want to be better and feel better and how it's good for you. I wish the best of luck to you.

Yes. Familiarity, no matter how damaging, can be more comfortable than change, no matter how positive. Also, relationships are bound to change as you get better. Sometimes the threat of a relationship ending because of positive growth can make people fearful of continuing to make positive changes. But take heart! Getting better means that you will be in a better position to deal with any perceived negative or positive changes in your relationships (even the one with yourself). So, recognize the resistance to making positive changes and make them anyways. The one surefire way to make the world a better place is to be a better person in it.

After some time, we start to see our more unhealthy state as being normal and is something that we are used to. Any kind of change can be scary, especially when we're unsure of what comes next. It is completely normal to feel the way you do! But the important thing to do is to take a step forward anyways, no matter how small.

I would say that it's normal for many people not to want to change the things that are issues in their lives. I have noticed many people just want to find a quick fix to all of their problems, and they are not willing to do any long-term work on themselves to change their situation. In order to get better, I believe that anyone has to look at what is going wrong in their lives. I think many people are not willing to do this. Sometimes the idea of somebody having to look in the mirror and consider that maybe their actions are causing issues, they will just not do it. Maybe people want to get better, but I think it's normal for people to want to stick with their ways. But, like I said, if we stick to the things that keep us sick, we will NEVER get better.

There is no "normal." But the feeling of not wanting to get better comes from the comfort level one feels in a place that one is used to, simply from having spent so much time in that emotional place. For many of us, remaining how we are is much safer and more comfortable because it is familiar. Changing would mean leaving a comfort zone. The phrase "the devil you know" is a reference to the fact that it is easier to stick with an unpleasant circumstance that you already know than to change and take a chance on the unknown, even if it is likely to be better.

Sorry, but not it is not. Not wanting to get better means that you will turn worse, and It is not fair for yourself and your beloved ones. Not getting better means you are used to your current situiation and that is even worse cuz it tells that right now in your perspective you can not find a difference line between the good situiation and the bad one. I know seeking for help can be embarassing and hard and the beginning, and healing journey could be long, but it worth the Try and the effort. Think that you always deserve the better, you deserve healthy and succesful life, respectful and safe relationship, happy family, understanding friends. You deserve a high quality life. Fight for it.

Everything has cycles. We have times when we just want to relax and times where we are really active. These should be in a balance that is fine with you. I think permanent not-growing is impossible since life will always give you things to grow on, maybe you just dont realize. If that's the case think how you were with 5, 15 and 25 years. Did you change over the course of the years or not? If so, you became most likely a better version of yourself. Extreme lazyness can be an indicator that you didnt find your true goal in life. Maybe you just run around in circles because you haven't found your purpose. Life wants to show you that you need to change something, that is a function of boredom. On the other hand if you did find your purpose and enjoy doing it, I see no hard need to get better. If your emotions are joyful, happy and loving, why would you want to change anything? Try seeing that a lot of this "becoming better" also comes from society. I see growing as one of the biggest treasures we have in life. It is more or less my purpose and way. Especially by growing mentally you will improve your life easier than you thought. What used to be a problem is not one anymore just by changing your mindset. On a side note, there is no "normal". Everyone is individual, and you decide how to live your life ☼

Yes, it's normal to feel this way. Your feelings are perfectly valid. Sometimes, though, our feelings of "not wanting to get better" stem from fearing things "will never get better" no matter what we want. Sometimes it's easier to trick our minds into thinking we want all this negativity, so it feels like we're in control of the situation. Again, it's perfectly ok to feel this way. And you have every right to experience it for as long as you need to. Your emotions are the most natural part of life. They come and go like wind or rain. The most important thing to remember is that nothing is permanent. There are thousands of people waiting with open arms to catch you when you fall. If you're feeling down, if you feel like the bad things will never end, always remember help is a heartbeat away. All you have to do is ask.

It is normal, especially for an individual who has a mental illness. For example, having an eating disorder or an anxiety disorder like OCD, an individual may not want to get better as these disorders are familiar to them and make them feel safe and in control. All mental disorders can make an individual feel this way, because of the above or simply because you may be scared of what getting better means or involves. You may feel like you may not want to change the way things are going because of things happening at home or simply because of stigma in which is an extremely powerful thing. Sometimes talking to someone about how we are going and feeling doesn't necessarily mean getting better, it just means talking about what is happening to us.

I understand how it feels not wanting to get better because every second you spend in this 'place' makes it comfier and it just becomes your home if that makes any sense, but i want you to know that things can get better and feel better! You should be the change and allow yourself to at least try to be happy!! Doesn't it sound better being happy that forever staying in this darkl sad place? Next time you think about staying where you are at now, think about how much better it could be. Hope this helped at least somehow.

Sometimes people can feel “comfortable” with how they feel. I often describe feeling comfortable with being sad. You may not like change, and that’s okay. Not wanting to “get better”, can be very common, but it is not always the best thing. You should tell someone you trust about this feeling. What you are feeling is valid, and understandable. We all need to get better at some point, and change isn’t always a bad thing. Change can be amazing and wonderful, and it could change your life for the better, and for the good. I hope this helped you understand, and please, be kind to yourself.

yes! this is such a hard thing to grapple with, but in my experience and i'm sure the experience of many others struggling with their mental health, mental illness becomes a part of our identity. sometimes I struggle with feeling like I am nothing without my struggles with mental health, which can make it harder to recover. remember that you are wonderful and that whatever your struggles are, they do not define you. you are your own person, and we are not defined by our struggles, challenges, and hardships. good luck on your road to recovery! i'm rooting for you :)

Yes I think that at some point you get tired of trying and not seeing improvement and just seeing things get worse and at some point, you put your all into getting better and it doesn't go anywhere but I think you just have to remember that there are stages to everything that you don't have to put every dime you have into getting better you can focus on yourself and others but knowing that getting better takes time and maybe you don't see change but it's happening little by little and if you of even that 5% of the effort you could loose more than just yourselfé.

Yes, we do feel like that. We feel safe in whatever situation we are in and sometimes too afraid to try out something. We fear that what if instead of being a better version we end up worse. This fear is something which stops us from wanting to be better. Sometimes we will be too tired because of the effort we took so far. In such situations what I really would like to do is to reflect back. There will be atleast a small change (sometimes in the life of others) that happened because of our attempt to be a better person. There is never a pressure to be better. Being better is not to be considered as a competition item or something which we have to attain by a certain limit. It includes small day-to-day action which makes a small change. And we should take a break if we feel so overwhelmed. It's okay to stop trying sometimes taking a break doing what our heart tells us

Yes, it can be normal to resist growth and change. It might mean you are not ready for accepting the change to be taken on board just yet. Situation Dependent, depends for how long, and on what topic and why. Etc. Use discretion.

Often, we get so used to our current mental state that the thought of healing scares us. We forget what it is like to be happy or healed, so becoming that is scary. That being said, it is normal to not want to get better. I used to be the same way. I was so used to being depressed and dependant on self-harm that healing scared me. People who are depressed also tend to think they do not deserve to get better. While it is normal to feel this way, I encourage you to seek help anyway. I promise the path to healing is worth it

It's completely normal to feel like you don't want to change the situation you're in, even if it's not a great one. It has happened to me before to feel emotionally attached to the sadness i feel, and i didn't know why.. but now looking at it, a person in a low time may wanna stick to the low because it's safe place as they may conceive happiness as temporary. but we should always remember that happiness, sadness, and all the feelings in the world are temporarily and won't last forever. So embrace what you're feeling whether it's good or bad because it will change one day and you'll move on.