...See moreWe present to you Peer Appreciation Program where you can observe and appreciate good qualities in a 7cups peer. The peer could be any fellow cupser- a fellow member, a fellow listener, anyone on cups basically or yourself, yes, you can appreciate yourself as well. Read more about it Here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PositivityGratitude_170/PeerAppreciationProgram_2310/AppreciateYourForever1_273981/]. ❤
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...See moreYou'll be fine at your own pace. It may not be today or the next day, but trust the time, it will happen. Life hurts us, life also teaches us. It is a complementary cycle that tears and strengthens us. We have to keep holding on, as our situation will change over time. We will be at our happiest, we will be soon love and be loved. Others will see us, we will see again ourselves. We will be appreciated, someone out there will know how wonderful we are. We will smile again and laugh like a child, free and genuine. Soon, things that are hurting us will be over, and our hearts will open its door for the things that we deserve.
To everyone, I truly wish for your healing. Please, while on the process, take good care of yourself.
Just dropping by, once again.
...See moreSo recently, I have started going to therapy. Normally, I would bring this up with my therapist, but the sleepover is today till tomorrow and im only seeing her the day after tomorrow.
For around the past 2 weeks, due to a sequence of events plus intrusive thoughts, I became convinced that I would throw up at the orientation of my school. I managed to convince myself to calm down, and when the day actually came, I was fine.
However, the problem is when I reached home. When I reached home, I found out that my cat had thrown up, and due to that, I’ve been stressing.
Logically, I know that this is just a coincidence. But emotionally, I just can’t get myself to believe it. Every time I try to calm myself down, my brain just goes “u did that too before orientation and look what happened.”
Now, I’m scared that I’ll throw up during the sleepover. This is somewhat caused due to a Reddit post I read I think a week or so ago? Where the OP warns people that have phlegm in their throat to go and see a doctor, as they ended up throwing up blood.
and guess who somewhat recently got a bunch of phlegm in their throat? Me.
This has caused me to worry that I might throw up blood during the sleepover. I’ve already decided to eat as little as possible, to minimise stress, but every time I try to calm myself down, my brain just immediately goes to the “u did this for orientation too and look where that got u” place.
Plus, for some reason, this fear feels different. It feels more real. I’m really worried about this aghhhhh.
And I can’t even cancel as we planned this a week ago and it’s already the day ITSELF. And we’re all so excited and it would massively suck if I just canceled on them, so I need to go. But I’m so so worried!! 😭
Sorry for the long post. But I do kinda need help on this..
...See moreHello Everyone.
I am sure you all are aware of our lovely Free Hugs Room. It's a kind place where everyone exchanges hugs with everyone and spreads smiles and joy. But sadly, it opens only sometimes.
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...See moreMy life right now isn’t going so great currently been dealing with a lot of death in my family along with motor vehicle accidents. Starting July 31st of this year I’ve had 2 deaths in my family and a total of 8 people in accidents not counting the 2 that died. Yesterday was the funeral for 1 of my family members and sadly I wasn’t able to make it due to being almost 2,000 miles away because of work. With my line of work I’m constantly on the go and driving a lot with my other half. We are able to take home time next week but its still stressful and not easy on me. It’s been a very hard year on my family due to other things going on also but this past week or so has really been the roughest.
...See moreHi everyone!
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...See more"Studying wellbeing science as part of their courses could be a key way of improving how today's students cope with the barrage of stressors they face, according to research.
Students are a high-risk population for mental ill-health and face increasing academic demands, high levels of loneliness and sustained financial pressures, which can adversely impact on mental health.
The team say its research is significant for several key reasons:
* students are at high risk of developing mental health difficulties;
* improvements in wellbeing have been shown to reduce future healthcare costs; and
* the findings demonstrate that wellbeing can be improved despite great hardship and suffering.
"These findings have important implications for thinking about how the education sector might support wellbeing alongside other major societal stressors such as the climate catastrophe.""
*Now that I am out of college, I really wish that this type of course was offered. I think students can get so caught up in everything that they forget to take care of themselves. I'll admit it: I would always put schoolwork above my health because it was important and I knew that I needed to succeed. I think I would get so stressed that my immune system would shut down and I would visit the health center because I was either getting consistent headaches or chest tightness due to the stress. I wish I had this class as a reminder to practice self-care and realize that school (or anything in life) is worth all that stress! If your school offered a course like this, would you take it? Why or why not?*
#University #Academics #Wellbeing
Please find the full article at Science Daily! [https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2022/08/220805103722.htm]
...See moreIm sorry for this being so long and maybe even a bit immature but I really needed to let all of it out as I have been struggling a lot with my mental sanity for the past few days. So I request everyone to please bear with this one and give it a read.
I have been talking to this guy since a year now.it
was the four of us actually in the beginning, playing video games all night. They were what got me through the lockdown.However, it was this one guy I was closer with than the rest, talking on the phone late night, hanging out.
He was even the one I used to fight with the most.Petty arguments and then making up-to each other. And then it happened.. I got attached to him.
Even though the other two got busy with their lives once the lockdown was over, he was always there. I felt like we had a connection. He told me he cared about me. But a huge red flag about him is that he is very egoistic and that too about petty things like seen zoning and calling two days in a row. Even though he wanted to talk on the phone, he would say things like we shouldn't talk so much, I don't want to get attached bla bla. But then if I told him bye, he would be like oh so you'll sleep? And if it was me making the first move, he would ask 1000 why's. I even caught him in a conversation where his friend was teasing him about me having a crush on him, so I was always careful. And he even trashed a previous girl that asked him out, said he cut off contact with her after that, so I was always scared of making too many first moves.
He is so confusing, he takes a step forward and again takes two steps back.
Anyway, after the lockdown he moved to another city for university, the same city I had to move to 2 months back for an internship. When I told him, he was urging me to live in his neighbourhood and told me he himself will find me a place to stay. He made plans to hangout. After I moved there, we were playing video games one night and he invited this new airl whom I don't know. He told me it's his school friend and ever since I see him obsessed with her. I felt so ignored and left out because even though he would ask if I wanted to play, after I told him one day to call me once he logs in the game, he forgot. I log in and see that he is playing with that other girl. He just completely forgot about me. So I yelled at him and started playing with another guy. He tried calling and texting and I told him I don't want to play with him. Then when he saw me playing with the other guy, he was like "you told me you
won't play but I see you playing with him, great". I told him that he did the same.
Anyway I have been ignoring him after that and he didn't try much either after that, although I got to know from his friend that he asked him to invite me to the game.
After a couple of days he texts me to ask about a
conference at his university that I'm supposed to go to. I told him the date and then since it was the weekend the next day, I asked him if he wanted to hangout in my neighbourhood. But he was instead asking me to go to his area even though I was new in the city and didn't know my way around. I got mad at him and started ignoring again. He didn't push much about hanging out but had been texting everyday after that about the conference.
On the day of the conference, he texted at 8 am
asking when I would be there. I yelled at him about his on and off shit and he told me he was sick so he couldn't meet me during the weekend. So why couldn't he just tell me that?
I still decided to meet him at the conference and he was with me the entire time for 3 days, and we even hung out from morning till midnight. Those were some of the best days of my life.
But after that the on again off again shit started all over again. Not acknowledging each other in the game. When I confronted him, he told me
"why won't I show ego after the things you did?"
i deactivated my account after that and he texted me on WhatsApp asking if I blocked him. I even unfriended him in the game.
Things have been going on like this…he texts every other day and replies to my story asking if I'm in his city or if I moved back home? He repeatedly asks why I unfriended him in the game even though he knows the freaking reason. Yesterday we had another confrontation where I accused him of not even fixing things after I was mad at him, and he told me that he apologised and that if he didn't want to fix things, he wouldn't have apologised. But that isn't enough?
What I want him is to stop playing with that girl. I
always taunt him how he ditched me when he found that new girl but he never even acknowledges her, pretends he doesn't know what I'm talking about...he even told me that I'm his closest friend and he doesn't wanna lose me.but then he doesn't even try to fix us. Before he would repeatedly apologise to me unless I talk to him. He doesn't do that anymore. He just ends the argument with "okay my mistake I don't wanna argue anymore"
Im just so so sick of this.all our other friends in the game even takes his side and they all accepted the new girl. I just feel so left out. I mean how do you after playing with someone for an entire year just instantly start playing with a new girl? I tried to let him go..but can't bring myself to unfriend him for good. I don't know what to do…this is costing me my mental peace.
...See moreMy boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have always argued. One time, it got to the point where I almost broke up with him. We had a serious chat and I thought we were good. The other day I caught him watching porn. The women look very different from me. I am heart broken.
I guess you could say that we do not have a great sex life. I mean we have sex but maybe once or twice a week. I’m trying not to blame myself, but it’s so not to. I don’t know what to do. I feel sick to my stomach and I cry myself to sleep ever night.