...See moreHi everyone 💜
I see lots of mentions of plushies/ soft toys/ squishmallows around here and it makes me feel really warm and comfy!
Soooooooooo this is a Plushie Appreciation Thread 😮 I feel nice even looking at plushies or hearing about them and want to make this space for everyone to talk about their favorite plush toys, what kind, how does it look, how long you have them, how they make you feel, any related story etc!
You can also share images here if you like! 🥰 [ we will love to see them ]
If you're as clueless as me about adding pictures in forums then you can look for tutorials in this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsOnlineTherapy_157/CreativityArtscraftshobbiesaplacetoshareyourcreativity_2356/Shareyournaturephotosandotherpicshere_282282/] and this one too [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ProjectsEvents_184/ForumTeam_686/Creatingourowncontentintheforums_237751/]! 😅
Tag your friends too who you think like plushies !!🥰
...See moreIt’s the beginning of a new week, dear community!
[The following topic is optional. We can talk about your day, tell us what's on your mind, grab a hug, or just pop in and say hi!]
Sometimes we go about our day, and we almost naturally focus on everything we think we’ve done wrong. These may be things we really would like to work on changing, or they may be things we perceive as wrong that actually have very little to do with us. Regardless, they can be hard not to think about. As humans, when we believe there’s a problem, we want to solve it. Doing so reveals our values and what is important to us. This can be a good thing with balance and limits.
But how often do we find ourselves keeping a mental list of the things we’ve done right? We tend not to focus on these as much, because there is nothing for our minds to fix - and therefore no sense of urgency or importance. However, the good things we’ve done also reveal our values and character. They are arguably even more useful to point out - because they show that we have already found solutions, that we are capable of doing the things we want. They help encourage us, energize us, and help us hold onto hope for the future.
💡 How are you doing this week?
💡 Is there something you wish you’d done differently this week?
💡 Name at least one thing you did well this week. I know we can all think of just one! It could be a goal you met at work, helping a friend, making a good food choice, resisting a drink of alcohol, distracting from a self-harm urge, doing a hobby, remembering to take deep breaths, taking a small step toward something, doing a small act of self-care like brushing your teeth. (Feel free to list as many as you like!)
- For September’s community event, we will be hosting Ask a Stupid Question Day on Friday, 9/30. More details to follow!
- New to the Trauma Support community? Check out THESE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/IntroductionsWelcomes_2343/NavigatingtheTraumaSupportCommunity_228894/] helpful resources!
- Interested in joining the Trauma Support community team? Check out THIS [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/EventsDiscussionsResources_2334/HelpWantedTheTraumaSupportCommunityTeamNeedsYou_282293/] link!
Feel free to check in again over the next couple days. For all those writing in or reading quietly, you're in my thoughts.
...See moreI really really love a girl.. but i can't seem to trust her but it's not like i trust anyone else either.. neither that i never tried.. i did try & trusted her with a lot of my life's stuff for the first few mnths she did too.. but fast forward to 2 years only one of us seems to have maintained the integrity.. she feels guilty probably.. but still.. when i trusted her with few things i told myself it was the last person i would do a experiment on to decide whether or not ppl should be trusted.. she has failed.. but the love hasn't changed.. but i have respected the terms and conditions i promised myself.. and have made it a self care rule to Never trust anyone again with my secrets and insecurities that really matter to me.
But put all that aside, i haven't grown out of her love.. I still love her.. with each passing day the love is stronger than it was yesterday.. we were 15 back then when she leaked out my secrets.. we are 18 now.. she has matured enough i see.. and idk but if there's one person i would love it's her noone else.. But would such a relationship if it went into a marriage last.. whereby she would have my company knowing i m trustworthy.. but i will always be quite a bit alone when needing her to share my problems with.. i m in a situation where i keep falling for her more n more but there's nothing like trust in my dictionary anymore..nor do i even make trust a prerequisite for any relationship now..
Let me know your opinions.. especially i would love it from anyone who's married.. can you live a lifetime with someone you love and still have your personal space for your insecurities and secrets, & always maintain boundaries (only in this stuff )& no other..
Don’t like to write a grumbly post about 7cups because I have gained so much from it, helping me through the here and now, but also teaching me life lessons.
Didn’t feel this could be ignored though, as it’s such a massive problem.
I am aware that recently the way of commodding has changed, to member mods and teen-listener mods. I know I am not the only person who has had some real issues with this.
Sometimes, in teen member rooms, we will not see a mod at all for 4hrs or more. This allows many members to go unsupported, as mods provide stability of support when the rooms are quiet. Before, we had the room supporter request form, is there a way to bring this back into the chatroom guidelines again to at least attempt to help this issue?
But worse, many incidents are happening, that break 7cups guidelines. People in crisis refusing to log off, triggering one person, or a whole room. People sharing offsite contact. People using the wrong rooms for the wrong purposes. To name a few.
As members noticing this, we do all we can, filling out the emergency mod form, pmming the mod if they have been seen at all on a shift. TCR has turned into a place for sharing offsite contact, for conflict. Any members trying to put in polite reminders get attacked for that – not just at the time, but if meeting the member again in the same or a different room, they are already against you. 7cups is meant to be a place for support. It’s turned into a place that is daunting, and support feels so non existent. The direct bullying, lack of support increases anxiety, fear, and lowers self-worth.
It seems the focus of member mods even when there is no teen-listener mod is always the adult rooms. We’ve been told that they are more...interesting... but why does that excuse the things that are happening on the teenie side?
Please can someone recognise that things are not working? We are asked to fill out forms, asked to do all these things but what is the point if this makes no difference either?
To the admins, please listen. Things can’t stay the same.
To members and listeners, do you have anything to add? What's going well, what isn't going well, or ideas to solve?
@TayTayy @CommunityModAaron (had conversation about this with these two lovely people)
@7cupscommunity @ASilentObserver @Heather225 (didn't know which leaders to tag)
...See moreEverything is so hard, all the time.
I kind of hate my job
I can't settle in my relationship
I'm constantly anxious
I lack motivation and interest in anything
I have little energy
I'm angry at the world for me being like this again
I just don't know what to do with myself.
(I'm medicated and I'm on the waiting list for a therapist)
...See moreSo my girlfriend and I got into a small argument today. She was very upset. I have just been very tired and exhausted the past few days and haven’t been so talkative. She kept asking if there was something wrong bc something felt off. I tried to explain I was just not in an overly talkative mood. Well this morning she was in the shower and saw my beard hairs on her razor. She asked me 3 times if I used and joking I answered no because I thought she could tell it was my hair. However, to get it didn’t come off as a joke to her and she got mad. Well I went in to her work and we were fine but then she brought up how I obviously had a problem and that I have a pattern of telling her I don’t when I do.
now I have been going to therapy for it because she was right but since I started I have been very forthcoming when I am upset or bugged by something. However, this was not the case. But she brought up how I have been quiet and all the things that made her feel like I was upset. To be honest, if anything I just feel overwhelmed with things outside of our relationship but I think I am reflecting it upon her by being quiet. However, when I do wanna talk or need her she barely responds to my texts and what not. She’s not like this in person but I feel like I’ve just been giving and giving and not that she’s doing anything wrong, but I do feel like she doesn’t listen always when I tell her my needs or wants. I just kind of feel like a second option vs a priority. Again, she isn’t doing anything out of the norm for her nor am I.
so fast forward, we had an argument, she didn’t want to talk and I left bc she said me lying to her about the hair in the razor made her question things. After I left she texted me and apologized and said it we’d talk more when we got home. Well we did and she stated that she was butthurt and just saying things bc she was feeling some type of way about my responses. I listened, and said my side and told her I was kidding and I apologize if she felt like I was lying. But my intentions have never been to make her question me or us or to break her trust. She said it’s not that she doesn’t trust me, it just made her feel some type of way because it was over something small. Which believe me, I get! However we patched it up and she hugged me, kissed me but I felt like she still had stuff she wanted to say bc her face told me she did. I asked and she said no and she said it was fine but has seemed distant. She is feeling bad and has a cold I think but she’s just been a little more cold shouldered.
how do I navigate through this?
...See moreThe title explains itself.
If you're interested in the ramblings of a middle-aged man with chronic conditions who, at times, sees things a little too clearly for his own good, then read on.
Sometimes I get political, but it won't be all the time.
I don't mind comments in general but if you're going to differ with what I write, that's fine--as long as you can explain your position clearly & reasonably. Rants, shouting & general incoherence will be ignored or flagged, depending on the situation. Try to remember that not everyone else in this world holds your beliefs.
Every so often I may post art or snapshots of projects I'm working on.
If you're still interested after reading all the above, great. (I do wonder at how much time you have on your hands, though)
...See moreUh hello if anyone is reading this! 😀
I have no idea why I'm even creating this thread but i just feel it will be nice to have a place to share some thoughts or even these images on the internet that i always keep saving for myself because i relate too much but cannot share it with anyone because yes haha
I'm okay with replies here so feel free to drop by anytime ❤️
Just please be kind and respectful tho
...See moreThere is a guy I work with and have known for about 4 or 5 years and have always found him attractive but never really acted in anything and just brushed it off. Recently the attraction got stronger and I really want to talk to him even if it is just to be friends. I am struggling with how to do that though because I struggle with major anxiety and severe social anxiety, and he is very quiet and reserved as well.
I have never really been one to just start friendships because of my anxiety and even though I am 25, I could never bring myself to talk to guys I might like because my anxiety gets in the way. Does anyone have any tips that might help me to not only breakthrough my anxiety and shyness, bit his as well, without scaring him off.
...See moreWho in cups inspires you the most? Why or in what ways they do? 💖 (more than one is allowed haha I know this place is full of amazing folks)
Let's take this moment to tell them how they inspire us and appreciate them 💖
Tag them so we can all thank them also 💖
If you're feeling shy here you can also use the Peer appreciation form [https://forms.gle/hfwDBA8dTaP6bhta9] to send them an appreciation 💖