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Plushieeeeees🥰

Positivity & Gratitude / by Optimisticempath

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✔️ Trauma Support Community Check-in: 26 September - 2 October 2022

Trauma Support / by NoneTheWiser

20 minutes ago

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...See more It’s the beginning of a new week, dear community! [The following topic is optional. We can talk about your day, tell us what's on your mind, grab a hug, or just pop in and say hi!] Sometimes we go about our day, and we almost naturally focus on everything we think we’ve done wrong. These may be things we really would like to work on changing, or they may be things we perceive as wrong that actually have very little to do with us. Regardless, they can be hard not to think about. As humans, when we believe there’s a problem, we want to solve it. Doing so reveals our values and what is important to us. This can be a good thing with balance and limits. But how often do we find ourselves keeping a mental list of the things we’ve done right? We tend not to focus on these as much, because there is nothing for our minds to fix - and therefore no sense of urgency or importance. However, the good things we’ve done also reveal our values and character. They are arguably even more useful to point out - because they show that we have already found solutions, that we are capable of doing the things we want. They help encourage us, energize us, and help us hold onto hope for the future. Check-in Questions: 💡 How are you doing this week? 💡 Is there something you wish you’d done differently this week? 💡 Name at least one thing you did well this week. I know we can all think of just one! It could be a goal you met at work, helping a friend, making a good food choice, resisting a drink of alcohol, distracting from a self-harm urge, doing a hobby, remembering to take deep breaths, taking a small step toward something, doing a small act of self-care like brushing your teeth. (Feel free to list as many as you like!) ------------------------- Community Announcements: - For September’s community event, we will be hosting Ask a Stupid Question Day on Friday, 9/30. More details to follow! - New to the Trauma Support community? Check out THESE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/IntroductionsWelcomes_2343/NavigatingtheTraumaSupportCommunity_228894/] helpful resources! - Interested in joining the Trauma Support community team? Check out THIS [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/EventsDiscussionsResources_2334/HelpWantedTheTraumaSupportCommunityTeamNeedsYou_282293/] link! ------------------------- Feel free to check in again over the next couple days. For all those writing in or reading quietly, you're in my thoughts. ❤️ Jess

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Is it possible & would it last?

Relationship & Friendship Support / by oneamongstyou285

34 minutes ago

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Modding Issue.

Group Support / by CalmCoral

36 minutes ago

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...See more Hi, Don’t like to write a grumbly post about 7cups because I have gained so much from it, helping me through the here and now, but also teaching me life lessons. Didn’t feel this could be ignored though, as it’s such a massive problem. I am aware that recently the way of commodding has changed, to member mods and teen-listener mods. I know I am not the only person who has had some real issues with this. Sometimes, in teen member rooms, we will not see a mod at all for 4hrs or more. This allows many members to go unsupported, as mods provide stability of support when the rooms are quiet. Before, we had the room supporter request form, is there a way to bring this back into the chatroom guidelines again to at least attempt to help this issue? But worse, many incidents are happening, that break 7cups guidelines. People in crisis refusing to log off, triggering one person, or a whole room. People sharing offsite contact. People using the wrong rooms for the wrong purposes. To name a few. As members noticing this, we do all we can, filling out the emergency mod form, pmming the mod if they have been seen at all on a shift. TCR has turned into a place for sharing offsite contact, for conflict. Any members trying to put in polite reminders get attacked for that – not just at the time, but if meeting the member again in the same or a different room, they are already against you. 7cups is meant to be a place for support. It’s turned into a place that is daunting, and support feels so non existent. The direct bullying, lack of support increases anxiety, fear, and lowers self-worth. It seems the focus of member mods even when there is no teen-listener mod is always the adult rooms. We’ve been told that they are more...interesting... but why does that excuse the things that are happening on the teenie side? Please can someone recognise that things are not working? We are asked to fill out forms, asked to do all these things but what is the point if this makes no difference either? To the admins, please listen. Things can’t stay the same. To members and listeners, do you have anything to add? What's going well, what isn't going well, or ideas to solve? @TayTayy @CommunityModAaron (had conversation about this with these two lovely people) @7cupscommunity @ASilentObserver @Heather225 (didn't know which leaders to tag)

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I'm just so tired of it all

35 & Over Community / by QuetiapineQueen

42 minutes ago

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Had an argument today

Relationship & Friendship Support / by dcromer3

55 minutes ago

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...See more So my girlfriend and I got into a small argument today. She was very upset. I have just been very tired and exhausted the past few days and haven’t been so talkative. She kept asking if there was something wrong bc something felt off. I tried to explain I was just not in an overly talkative mood. Well this morning she was in the shower and saw my beard hairs on her razor. She asked me 3 times if I used and joking I answered no because I thought she could tell it was my hair. However, to get it didn’t come off as a joke to her and she got mad. Well I went in to her work and we were fine but then she brought up how I obviously had a problem and that I have a pattern of telling her I don’t when I do. now I have been going to therapy for it because she was right but since I started I have been very forthcoming when I am upset or bugged by something. However, this was not the case. But she brought up how I have been quiet and all the things that made her feel like I was upset. To be honest, if anything I just feel overwhelmed with things outside of our relationship but I think I am reflecting it upon her by being quiet. However, when I do wanna talk or need her she barely responds to my texts and what not. She’s not like this in person but I feel like I’ve just been giving and giving and not that she’s doing anything wrong, but I do feel like she doesn’t listen always when I tell her my needs or wants. I just kind of feel like a second option vs a priority. Again, she isn’t doing anything out of the norm for her nor am I. so fast forward, we had an argument, she didn’t want to talk and I left bc she said me lying to her about the hair in the razor made her question things. After I left she texted me and apologized and said it we’d talk more when we got home. Well we did and she stated that she was butthurt and just saying things bc she was feeling some type of way about my responses. I listened, and said my side and told her I was kidding and I apologize if she felt like I was lying. But my intentions have never been to make her question me or us or to break her trust. She said it’s not that she doesn’t trust me, it just made her feel some type of way because it was over something small. Which believe me, I get! However we patched it up and she hugged me, kissed me but I felt like she still had stuff she wanted to say bc her face told me she did. I asked and she said no and she said it was fine but has seemed distant. She is feeling bad and has a cold I think but she’s just been a little more cold shouldered. how do I navigate through this?

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my journal: various subjects, opinionating, CW at times

General Support / by slowdecline48

55 minutes ago

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A Space For The Unsaid

General Support / by Optimisticempath

58 minutes ago

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How do I talk to him

Relationship & Friendship Support / by NanaShantelle97

1 hour ago

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Inspiring people in 7 cups

Positivity & Gratitude / by Optimisticempath

1 hour ago

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What's your disability?

Disability Support / by Evois

1 hour ago

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