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A broken breakup?!?

Relationship Stress / by passionateBanana4849

10 minutes ago

...See more Hi. I’m really nervous about starting this conversation, but I think I need to just get everything out instead of trying to explain it piece by piece. I’m going through a breakup that I honestly don’t know how to cope with anymore. I still love this person incredibly deeply. we’ve been through a lot together. We were together, we lived in each other’s lives, and he became my person and my home. We broke up months ago, and he has told me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me. The problem is that he never really left my life. He still comes around constantly. We spend a lot of time together. We eat together, talk, watch things together, help each other, and he takes care of me in a lot of practical ways. He still messages me during his day and tells me what’s going on and sends me pictures and things he sees. There is still so much connection between us, but he doesn’t want to be my partner. I love him so much, and I don’t understand how someone can be this close to you and still not want you in the way you want them. I know I can’t make him love me differently, and I know he has the right to feel however he feels, but knowing that doesn’t make this hurt less. Right now he’s actually texting me from work and updating me about his day and sending me pictures of a dog, while I’m sitting here trying to figure out how I’m supposed to cope with the fact that I don’t have the relationship with him that I desperately want. That’s what my life feels like right now—being connected to him and comforted by him while simultaneously being terrified that someday he’s going to find someone else and I’m going to lose him completely. I don’t want to keep talking to my friends and family about it because I feel like I’ve said the same things so many times, and I don’t want to feel like I’m burdening them anymore. But I also can’t keep sitting alone with all of this. This man is at my house everyday morning til night everyday unless he is working and then he is there before and after working. He “provides” monetary support, food, bills, fun stuff, needed stuff, even dumb stuff. We cook together, eat together, watch tv, exist together. But at the end of the day he goes home. No hug, nothing, just a “I’ll see u in the morning” and then he is there waking me up again the next morning. Idk what’s going on, or why, and I’m loosing my mind.

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The Weekly Beacon: Small ways to help the community! (Sept 14)

General Support / by MeilleureAmie

2 hours ago

...See more Welcome to this week's Community Beacon [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/CommunitySpace_2539/TheWeeklyBeaconSmallwaystohelpthecommunity_377289/?p=2]! For those who might be new to this initiative, The Weekly Beacon is our new tradition in which we share simple, small ways you can lend a hand in the community. The heart of 7 Cups has always been the people in it, and you do not need official badges, special training, or hours of free time to make a difference in someone else's day. 🌟 The Recognition Board 🌟 Every day you reply to these weekly threads to let us know you completed one of the tasks, you earn a star. You can earn up to 7 each week for each day of the week (1 day = 1 star). Once you earn 30 stars, you will receive the exclusive "All for one" badge! Congratulations to everyone who has earned stars for their acts of community spirit! @YourCaringConfidant - 7 > 173 ⭐ @Amanda84 - 7 > 141 ⭐ @Ivy229 - 7 > 130 ⭐ @fossilfellow - 7 > 110 ⭐ @Magicpawsoffuture - 4 > 108 ⭐ @Diinnaa - 7 > 101 ⭐ @MeilleureAmie - 2 > 73 ⭐ @Minimum00 - 7 > 67 ⭐ @MentalHealthMatters01 - 2 > 66 ⭐ @stormieandpaws - 5 > 54 ⭐ @AffyAvo - 7 > 46 ⭐ @ACozyBunny - 3 > 45 ⭐ @AsherTree - 5 > 28 ⭐ @mytwistedsoul - 1 > 24 ⭐ @SkilledChatter - 7 > 17 ⭐ @Sunisshiningandsoareyou - 7 > 16 ⭐ @Luminity125 - 1 > 16 ⭐ @Mooniey - 1 > 7 ⭐ @Joyfulflowers - 1 > 7 ⭐ @Hermionetps - 7 > 3 ⭐ @QuietWillow00 - 7 > 3 ⭐ @wuxily - 1 ⭐ @discreetPlace4219 - 1 ⭐ @DubstepDadT - 1 ⭐ @trueconfidant123 - 148 ⭐ @SparkyGizmo - 101 ⭐ @TheGeminiInMe - 62 ⭐ @sereneMango2512 - 43 ⭐ @AReineRose - 37 ⭐ @cheerfulKiwi1776 - 16 ⭐ @ABoxofChocolates2 - 9 ⭐ @IvoryNotes - 6 ⭐ @funnyAvocado3000 - 5 ⭐ @quietPlace4271 - 4 ⭐ @Rebekah - 3 ⭐ @Sharing3312 - 2 ⭐ @Ednamius - 1 ⭐ If any numbers are off, feel free to let me know! ------------------------- 💙 This Week’s Asks 💙 * Check the Newbie Hub [https://www.7cups.com/forum/welcome/TheWelcomeCommitteeTeam_2670/] for people introducing themselves [https://www.7cups.com/forum/welcome/TheWelcomeCommitteeTeam_2670/], and drop into their posts to acknowledge them * Greet someone in the Welcome thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/welcome/WelcomeIntroductionsto7Cups_1163/Welcometo7CupsIntroduceyourselfhere_331308/] (click the >> to go to the most recent page) * Spend an hour in one of the member rooms, especially during a time of low activity. Welcome everyone who enters the chatrooms to make them feel seen. Click here to visit the Group Chats [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]. * Visit our brand new Social Support Room (click here) [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=2_7cf7eb2ac0e1e704-3i7aTds2MqETdj1gSmEVA] and take the lead on some icebreakers or games! * Give out a resource to someone! Examples: the 7 Cups Basics [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1M53Nm5-pbtxx2_jKfXYgYzo3NgXxjNfMwfzVSRC1rZg/edit?tab=t.0], the Listener Quick Guide [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1J0P_a463RsOkBFmgE4hqMUPCyqD98MCZO_r8PAb4ERs/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.6zoipvarg5nu], or a self-help guide [https://www.bing.com/ck/a?!&&p=15546ab78aa81dea4c928fa0b099aa1c87afb408adb907c9170e26273e2102cfJmltdHM9MTc3MzI3MzYwMA&ptn=3&ver=2&hsh=4&fclid=39072312-8b6a-6d87-0f74-30cc8a7e6c89&u=a1aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuN2N1cHMuY29tL3NlbGYtaGVscC8&ntb=1] * Apply for a leadership role! Listeners click here [https://www.7cups.com/listener/training/leadership/]. Members, click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/HsHangout_1970/7CupsMemberRolesMasterlist_318359/]! If you can do even one of these things, whether just once or for multiple days this week, please reply to this thread and let me know what you did to support our community! It can be anything, not just things on the list (even kindness tasks for yourself!). ✨ Remember: showing up to this thread each day represents 1 star, and you can earn up to 7 stars each week. ✨ Thank you for helping bring our community closer together through everyday acts of kindness!

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Relationship Stress / by lightPlane365

5 hours ago

...See more I need help, either I need to really get out of this rabbit hole of believing these things about my boyfriend of 5 years. Or I need to get out of this relationship. We have a toddler together. Some background. The first five months were great, I genuinely thought this was it, the love they talk about. I fell fast and I fell hard. Then his ex girlfriend (who thought she was not in fact his ex...) found out he was seeing me. At first I thought she was insane believing they were still together, but now I see that they were both the ones in a horrifically toxic mess and now it's my turn. I trusted him, I ignored her warnings of him being an alcoholic narcissist but now, over 5 years later, I'm seeing it. There have been many instances I could have left, but I gave him chance after chance after chance. I supported him through the lawyers and claims she made against him, I supported him through his studies and when he wasn't earning much, but apparently the love I was giving him "wasn't as strong as the love she showed him" and he ended up on dating apps to "feel wanted" or to "see if people would still find me attractive". It didn't happen only once, but several times after and even after our daughter was born. But he made me believe I didn't show love enough or I only did it in the wrong ways so I "forgave him" but my nervous system never has so he's right now, I certainly don't show enough love. He sabotages plans I make with friends or colleagues. He puts down my parenting. He puts down my family. He doesn't help with our daughter other than being silly with her for approximately 15 min a day. He does do most of the cooking, which he often brings up that I should appreciate more. He isn't happy I've started running because it means he doesn't get family time with us (I take our daughter, so he's not burdened with looking after her which he always grumbles about), when I don't go running he's sitting on his playstation, outside on the bbq, or playing guitar. He's threatened break ups, abandoned me in a mall, a park, a beach, a foreign country (actually all of its been foreign, we live abroad). The closest we've been to a breakup is when I told him how many people I'd slept with because he pressured me into sharing because he's open about his past. Despite my number being lower than his he lost all respect for me and completely destroyed my self worth. And then I got pregnant. I'm so grateful for our child and wouldn't want that gone, but I wish I stood my ground sooner. But somehow after all this I still believe oh no I'm not doing enough for this relationship, I'm not a loving person, I'm not giving him opportunities to be a present father, I'm not planning enough family time, I'm spending too much time out running (once or twice on weekend mornings). Yesterday he spoke very rudely to me in front of our child, once they were asleep I went and told him he can't keep speaking to me like that especially in front of our child. His response was that it was pointless bringing it up hours later and that I need to bring it up at the right time. How do I move forward. If being in a "relationship" is this hard, how can co-parenting work. I don't want to keep him out of our child's life, I definitely wouldn't do that. But truly, how do I do this? I don't even know how the conversation would start or end. I've told some trusted friends and my Mum knows some, but not all. Or as I said, maybe it's not all him, maybe I am a huge factor in the way things play out with us and I'm not self aware enough. I know I'm terrible at communication. Help. Thank you.

Weekly Healthy Living Check-In September 19th, 2026

Healthy Living / by PoliteOcean

6 hours ago

...See more WEEKLY HEALTHY LIVING CHECK-IN SEPTEMBER 19th, 2026 HEY EVERYONE~ ⭐WELCOME To Our End of the week "WEEKLY" HEALTHY LIVING CHECK-IN~ ☀️🌻🍁 ⭐FEEL FREE TO RESPOND TO "ANY OR ALL" QUESTIONS!~ Or... Simply tell us about yourself & how you've been doing!... Feel free to share your week with us!... Or tell us about your personal Wellness journey. We are here to support you! ☀️ Hey all, Welcome to the Weekend... How was your week?! 🌻 This is our "3RD" Check-in for the Month...~ (And for many of us, it's the Last Summer Weekend of this year)~... What has been your MOST Favorite memory or part of this Summer?!... How will you intend to Spend this Last Summer Weekend ahead in ways that simply make you feel good & that benefit your Wellbeing?! 🍁 During our Previous check-in, we touched base on how September acknowledges & celebrates "SELF-IMPROVEMENT MONTH"... In thinking about any goals or steps that you may have thought about or taken for yourself in that time to improve upon, HOW do you feel that you did in that area this past week?!... (And if you haven't thought of an area to improve upon in that time, we have a New week coming ahead of us)~.. Is there anything in your life that you could Start to Improve upon today as we continue to move through the remainder of this Month?! ☀️ JUST FOR FUN: (It's the Last Summer Weekend & September 19th celebrates "NATIONAL LOVE YOUR LUNCH DAY")!.. Let's go on "One last Summer Picnic"~... WHAT's ONE Healthy thing that you are packing for us to Love & Enjoy this day?!... 🌻 What were your "Highlights or Struggles" of the week?... How were you able to work through Challenges in a Healthy Way?! 🍁 What is something else that "YOU" want to Talk about, Add, Or Share with us this week?!... We want to hear from YOU~ Healthy Living Team & Leaders: @PoliteOcean @vivelespatates @vivelespatates @Regmo @purpleTree4652 @CyclingThroughLife @exuberantBanana3431 @InsightfulPhoenix @nordurnStar @Rebekahwriter13 @calmsoulmeet @sweetrosa1987 @AffyAvo @Caringmama2022 @CarolineEmily01 @determinedCat7367 @diamondintheROUGH2022 @GoldenNest2727 @selflessSpruce1515 @SilverSeastar @Spectaculaur @BestMaple2045 @determinedNest6866 @HipsterChic @DestinyM2026 @charmingSky597 @GreenFairie @WayJay @orangeHuman868 @lilCatNamedVenus @cal1860 @Mya000 @daydreammemories @courageousField2151 @2Ears2Hear @bubblingPresence2474 @TheListenerPK1122 @Ailuraphilelove8tear9 @Ava47 **AND ANY & ALL THAT WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH US~

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